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Boyfriend won't pick me up ...aibu?

56 replies

cheae · 14/07/2022 15:20

So I don't know if I'm being silly here.
I've just finished work and came to my dads.
My boyfriend has been off all day and was supposed to get some bits for tea.
He hasn't
So I said "shall we go to the supermarket together after I finish then?"
He said yes
Now my dads house is literally on the way to the supermarket and my house is around 10 mins walk.

So I said well can you pick me up and we will go straight to the supermarket .
He said "no because I haven't got my clothes on,come home and Keep the dogs entertained whilst I put my clothes on"

Aibu to think he could easily pick me up?
It's on the way?
Why does he need me there whilst he sticks a tee shirt on

OP posts:
Anothernamechangeplease · 14/07/2022 15:22

Well, yes, it's a bit unreasonable but if it's only 10 mins walk then I can't see the big deal tbh.

Original poster
cheae · 14/07/2022 15:22

It's not a big deal as I walk back and forth daily
It just seems stupid for me to walk there to then get in the car and drive back past my dads house

OP posts:
PurpleDaisies · 14/07/2022 15:24

Why are you facilitating him doing something that he said he would do and hasn’t? Picking you up is a red herring. He has let you down and you seem to be prepared to fix it for him.

I don’t understand the clothes thing. Surely he dresses himself in the presence of his dogs on other occasions.

Shoxfordian · 14/07/2022 15:24

Why do you both need to go? He can go by himself

Harridance · 14/07/2022 15:25

Ltb

Yodaisawally · 14/07/2022 15:25

Why can't he just go to the supermarket?

Original poster
cheae · 14/07/2022 15:26

He won't go by himself as "he doesn't know what to get"
He hasn't washed up either
I know I sound like a nag but he does nothing and it's starting to irritate me

OP posts:
PurpleDaisies · 14/07/2022 15:27

cheae · 14/07/2022 15:26

He won't go by himself as "he doesn't know what to get"
He hasn't washed up either
I know I sound like a nag but he does nothing and it's starting to irritate me

You don’t sound like a nag.
You sound like a mug.

butterflied · 14/07/2022 15:31

Yeah, stop letting him treat you like a mug. What's he been doing all day that he couldn't do the washing up? He sounds helpless because it gets him out of doing things. Unattractive as anything.

IncompleteSenten · 14/07/2022 15:33

He doesn't know what to get?

That's pathetic.

What adult doesn't know what shopping is?

wellhelloitsme · 14/07/2022 15:42

cheae · 14/07/2022 15:26

He won't go by himself as "he doesn't know what to get"
He hasn't washed up either
I know I sound like a nag but he does nothing and it's starting to irritate me

You don't sound like a nag.

You sound like you're dating a lazy teenager who can't be arsed to adult.

The lift is the least of your troubles with him.

PinkCheetah · 14/07/2022 15:51

Nope nope nope. Leave him to go shopping on his own like he said he would and you go home in your own time.

Anothernamechangeplease · 14/07/2022 15:53

OK, he is being ridiculous.

Either he goes to the supermarket on his own or he picks you up on the way there. A grown man is certainly capable of doing a supermarket shop unaccompanied!

PresidentByeThen · 14/07/2022 15:54

Rather you than me love.

Sharrowgirl · 14/07/2022 15:56

You need to make sure you don’t fall into a pattern of him being a manchild and you having to constantly nag him. Or ask yourself if you’re already there.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 14/07/2022 15:56

@PurpleDaisies

'I don’t understand the clothes thing. Surely he dresses himself in the presence of his dogs on other occasions.'

Perhaps his dogs keep thinking he's waving a sausage at them?

WorkEventing · 14/07/2022 15:57

Have something to eat at your dad’s and let him sort himself out.

butternutsquishh · 14/07/2022 15:57

What qualities does he have that makes you attracted to him?

crumpet · 14/07/2022 15:58

You’ve got bigger relationship issues than today’s problem I’m afraid

TuftyMarmoset · 14/07/2022 15:59

I’m so confused about why the dogs need someone else there so he can get dressed! He sounds useless OP.

JesusMaryAndJosephAndTheWeeDon · 14/07/2022 16:09

cheae · 14/07/2022 15:26

He won't go by himself as "he doesn't know what to get"
He hasn't washed up either
I know I sound like a nag but he does nothing and it's starting to irritate me

LTB he's pathetic

Burnamer · 14/07/2022 16:13

Was he angling for you to go
home for a shag pre-supermarket?

Shinyandnew1 · 14/07/2022 16:22

Wow, what a catch you’ve got yourself.

What are you going to do then?

If you want to continue to live with someone who behaves like this-start walking back home now so he can get his own way…

If you don’t want to live like this, make a change to your response.

Homewardbound2022 · 14/07/2022 16:24

Harridance · 14/07/2022 15:25

Ltb

😂

Awombaweh · 14/07/2022 16:29

Why does he need me there whilst he sticks a tee shirt on

What did he say when you asked him?