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Boyfriend won't pick me up ...aibu?

56 replies

cheae · 14/07/2022 15:20

So I don't know if I'm being silly here.
I've just finished work and came to my dads.
My boyfriend has been off all day and was supposed to get some bits for tea.
He hasn't
So I said "shall we go to the supermarket together after I finish then?"
He said yes
Now my dads house is literally on the way to the supermarket and my house is around 10 mins walk.

So I said well can you pick me up and we will go straight to the supermarket .
He said "no because I haven't got my clothes on,come home and Keep the dogs entertained whilst I put my clothes on"

Aibu to think he could easily pick me up?
It's on the way?
Why does he need me there whilst he sticks a tee shirt on

OP posts:
NumberTheory · 14/07/2022 16:30

Is he really, really good in bed or something?

withiceplease · 14/07/2022 16:30

I wouldn't have DC with this one. Can just see how it would play out

Wishimaywishimight · 14/07/2022 16:31

Do the dogs always need to be "entertained" while he gets dressed?

PurpleDaisies · 14/07/2022 16:32

Anyone else think that the lack of reply from the op means she’s gone round and given the boyfriend exactly what he wants?

TheFlis12345 · 14/07/2022 16:37

I bet you also end up paying for the shopping OP!

SlashBeef · 14/07/2022 16:41

Confused just say no.

wellhelloitsme · 14/07/2022 16:43

PurpleDaisies · 14/07/2022 16:32

Anyone else think that the lack of reply from the op means she’s gone round and given the boyfriend exactly what he wants?

Unfortunately yep I reckon. And paid for the shopping I would wager.

KettrickenSmiled · 14/07/2022 16:46

cheae · 14/07/2022 15:26

He won't go by himself as "he doesn't know what to get"
He hasn't washed up either
I know I sound like a nag but he does nothing and it's starting to irritate me

Why are you bothering with him?

He sounds annoying AF, & you are already pandering to his strategic incompetence. Tell him he can go to the supermarket alone like a big boy, or fuck off?

Ontomatopea · 14/07/2022 16:49

cheae · 14/07/2022 15:26

He won't go by himself as "he doesn't know what to get"
He hasn't washed up either
I know I sound like a nag but he does nothing and it's starting to irritate me

Wtf.. he doesn't know what to get?! How does he usually manage?

pinkunicorns54 · 14/07/2022 16:52

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 14/07/2022 15:56

@PurpleDaisies

'I don’t understand the clothes thing. Surely he dresses himself in the presence of his dogs on other occasions.'

Perhaps his dogs keep thinking he's waving a sausage at them?

I laughed out loud 🤣

IncompleteSenten · 14/07/2022 17:12

PurpleDaisies · 14/07/2022 16:32

Anyone else think that the lack of reply from the op means she’s gone round and given the boyfriend exactly what he wants?

Yup.

CalistoNoSolo · 14/07/2022 17:20

He sounds utterly unattractive. On the off chance you come back to this thread OP, how about you chuck this loser back and raise your standards for the next one. Seriously, being single is far superior to being saddled to a waste of oxygen.

CombatBarbie · 14/07/2022 17:20

Why do the dogs need entertained whilst he changes??? 😳

WhereYouLeftIt · 14/07/2022 17:20

cheae · 14/07/2022 15:26

He won't go by himself as "he doesn't know what to get"
He hasn't washed up either
I know I sound like a nag but he does nothing and it's starting to irritate me

Is your boyfriend some sort of exotic pet that you keep for purely ornamental purposes? Or is he a spectacularly good shag? because I'm struggling to work out why you would put up with a lazy-arsed fuckwit who would starve without the input of a woman to tell him what to buy and who apparently needs his dog to be entertained whilst he dresses himself. Are you supposed to be impressed that he dresses himself and does not outsource that task to you too?

He's been sitting at home (undressed) all day doing fuck all (no washing up, no shopping for food) whilst you were putting in a day's work. Why are you putting up with this shit??

You are not a nag. I'm going to presume that he tells you you are, you must have got the idea from somewhere. Give yourself a shake and ask yourself - is this the life I want to be having? If the answer is yes then you're a total mug. If the answer is no, start taking steps to change your life. I'd start by binning the fuckwit.

TempName01 · 14/07/2022 17:23

I hope you weren’t at your dads to do his cleaning. Your boyfriend sounds an absolute useless melt, please bin him off.

emmetgirl · 14/07/2022 17:24

How old is he? 12?!

Clymene · 14/07/2022 17:24

cheae · 14/07/2022 15:26

He won't go by himself as "he doesn't know what to get"
He hasn't washed up either
I know I sound like a nag but he does nothing and it's starting to irritate me

You don't sound like a nag. You sound like a woman who is making reasonable demands for her partner to pull his weight which he reframes as nagging to shut you up.

So you've been at work all day and he's been off. He's not done the washing up or gone and got food for dinner. And now not only does he want you to go to the supermarket with him, he wants to put you out to do so.

Does he have a golden cock or something?

LubaLuca · 14/07/2022 17:29

I love that he's too coy to undress in front of the dogs 😄. Is he called Jim?

He's not functioning as a fully formed adult, and you're going to help him stay that way. Ditch him.

beautyisthefaceisee · 14/07/2022 17:36

Eh..how old are you both?

fizzywat · 14/07/2022 17:38

Post coital shopping list being prepared. Radio silence.

Lindy2 · 14/07/2022 17:40

In thus situation I think you'd do better to stay at your dad's a while longer and have your dinner there.

In the meantime, your boyfriend will have to have a go at being an adult and achieving the hugely complicated tasks of independently dressing himself, washing up all by himself and getting himself some food, if he wants to eat.

bloodyunicorns · 14/07/2022 18:10

cheae · 14/07/2022 15:26

He won't go by himself as "he doesn't know what to get"
He hasn't washed up either
I know I sound like a nag but he does nothing and it's starting to irritate me

What a useless twat he is! Can't even do basic adulting, let's you down - how deeply unattractive. I'd dump him.

DenholmElliot1 · 14/07/2022 18:11

I would have gone for something nice to eat with my dad.

I agree with PP though, you probably did exactly what he said and I bet you end up paying for the shopping.

chikp · 26/11/2022 17:38

Sounds ridiculous can he not do it himself

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 26/11/2022 17:39

He sounds ridiculous. Don’t know what more to say really!