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To ask if your kids have ever stayed out?

31 replies

Peckhamv · 13/07/2022 20:31

DH and I are going out this weekend and I am guessing it will be a bit boozy, I feel really uneasy about coming home to my DS and DD after drinks and wondering if it would be better for them to sleep out at PIL who will be much more responsible?

my son is almost 2, daughter is 5, would you get your kids stay out?

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spotcheck · 13/07/2022 20:31

Yes!!!

HerRoyalNotness · 13/07/2022 20:35

Yes I would. Especially if they’re kids that wake in the night.

i still shudder at the memory of coming home at 3am and my aunt waking me an hour later, the baby needs (bottle) feeding 🤮

Original poster
Peckhamv · 13/07/2022 20:37

I read a thread earlier and a woman said she didn’t agree with babies under 2 sleeping out, surely that’s the more sensible option when alcohol is involved?

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OneEyedPenguin · 13/07/2022 20:38

If PIL are happy to babysit then I don't see a problem. Enjoy your boozy time Gin

alphapie · 13/07/2022 20:39

Erm yeah, most children at that age have 'stayed' out.

Why wouldn't you let them do that

brookstar · 13/07/2022 20:40

DS started staying out at 12 weeks.

If we're going out it's always preferable for DS to stay out as that means we get a lie in the following morning!

alphapie · 13/07/2022 20:40

Peckhamv · 13/07/2022 20:37

I read a thread earlier and a woman said she didn’t agree with babies under 2 sleeping out, surely that’s the more sensible option when alcohol is involved?

You need to remember that many on MN have little family support, so for many their either don't have the ability to leave their children overnight, or due to not being able to have convinced themselves it's because they don't want to, over they can't.

It's always going to happen on online forums, as for many they rely on them due to a lack of family or friendly support irl.

Numbat2022 · 13/07/2022 20:41

If your PIL don't mind and have somewhere for them to sleep, I can't see a problem? Who cares what someone else thinks!

I don't drink anymore but the thought of dealing with night waking or even an early morning while hungover is hideous!

Classicblunder · 13/07/2022 20:41

No one has ever offered to have them so no.

Fupoffyagrasshole · 13/07/2022 20:42

I left my 15 month old with my mum for 5 days while I went to Glastonbury a few weeks back! Didn’t even think not to

ive left her a good few overnights since she was born also

enjoy your night and have a lie in

alphapie · 13/07/2022 20:42

Classicblunder · 13/07/2022 20:41

No one has ever offered to have them so no.

Why would someone need to offer, just ask.

Pickanameforme · 13/07/2022 20:42

It's only on MN that DCs never stay out until they're 15, back in the real world they stay with GPs from a fairly young age

imnotwhoyouthinkiam · 13/07/2022 20:42

Staying out must mean something else where I'm from!

But yes, it would be fine for them to stay somewhere else overnight. DS1 was about 4 weeks old the first time I left him overnight. He's nearly 18 now and one of my favourite photos ever is of him and my step brother that night.

Dspx · 13/07/2022 20:42

100% my son stays with his grandparents once every few months so we can go out etc. he loves it they love it. And it gives us some much needed is time where we can be us not parents. He's 18months old but has been doing it since he was 10months old x

obsessedwithsleep · 13/07/2022 20:44

Why is everyone calling it "staying out"? 🤔

Titsywoo · 13/07/2022 20:45

When my kids were that age we had to go to Australia and they stayed with my mum for 2 weeks. So yes do it they will be fine!

Bettyboop3 · 13/07/2022 20:46

My DGD first starting staying over at ours at 3 months old. So much easier for them growing up knowing us so well and being comfortable at ours.

Original poster
Peckhamv · 13/07/2022 20:47

@obsessedwithsleep ok a sleepover 😂😂

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Danikm151 · 13/07/2022 20:48

stopping over at their grandparents will feel like an adventure for them!

Holly60 · 13/07/2022 20:48

Of course! Sounds like the perfect idea. Both of ours stayed with grandparents before 2, and we've had our DGC from around 1 onwards.

TheCanyon · 13/07/2022 20:53

imnotwhoyouthinkiam · 13/07/2022 20:42

Staying out must mean something else where I'm from!

But yes, it would be fine for them to stay somewhere else overnight. DS1 was about 4 weeks old the first time I left him overnight. He's nearly 18 now and one of my favourite photos ever is of him and my step brother that night.

Similar here. My dd started staying at my parents at about 4/5 weeks old due to me being unwell, I have so many photos of that first night of her chilling watching toy story with my wee brother.

Allinadayswork80 · 13/07/2022 20:54

Absolutely! My parents have looked after my kids way younger than that! I’m very lucky to have them nearby and they do a lot of my childcare whilst I’m at work anyway. Of course it’s fine if the GPs are happy with having them and the kids know them well enough so not to panic. I don’t see the issue?

pogostickplastique · 13/07/2022 22:42

Pickanameforme · 13/07/2022 20:42

It's only on MN that DCs never stay out until they're 15, back in the real world they stay with GPs from a fairly young age

15 seems a bit premature. I saw a discussion the other day about wether it was ok to leave a nearly 18 year old at home alone. 😂

Simonjt · 13/07/2022 22:43

Yes, my son sometimes stays with his uncle, usually though for us it involves his uncle staying here, or Grandma staying here simply because its easier for them to stay here than it is to get the kids to them, make sure everything is baby proof etc.

Kite22 · 13/07/2022 22:48

Staying out must mean something else where I'm from!

Me too.
I opened the thread expecting it to be about teens not coming in from a night out Grin

I've never heard it used like this.