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Original poster

To not tell DH I’ve been cheating???

47 replies

Stylishkidintheriot · 12/07/2022 21:27

So; DH is away on holiday for a few days with DS.

at a bit of a loose end, a bit bored: you know how it is.... anyway... I’ve ended up cheating on him....

ive started watching the other episodes of the drama we were watching together...

should I tell him:

yanbu: don’t tell him, just watch them again with him

yabu: that’s a terrible breach of trust: you must confess as soon as possible

OP posts:
123ROLO · 12/07/2022 21:29

Yanbu

3amAndImStillAwake · 12/07/2022 21:30

YANBU. No good can come from this. You telling the truth will only hurt him.

ComDummings · 12/07/2022 21:30

I threatened to watch an episode of the show we are watching together today and my DH looked gutted 😂 for that reason I say keep quiet!

Aitchtee · 12/07/2022 21:32

My DH would freak out if I continued Below Deck without him so I’d keep a secret and enjoy the double watch!!

Original poster
Stylishkidintheriot · 12/07/2022 21:32

I’m thinking that telling the truth will only hurt him. I think the burden of keeping it to myself is my punishment

OP posts:
LoisPlane · 12/07/2022 21:33

You need to confess, apologise, give him time to catch up then never do it again!

We always have 3 series on the go between us. One joint, and one each that the other has no interest in for times such as you had.

If one of us watched our joint show alone then shit would hit the fan 😱

Ifigotherewillbedouble · 12/07/2022 21:33

YANBU he’ll be gutted and it will seriously jeopardise any shared programmes going forward. I fear he will cheat on you just to hurt you and then it will be tit for tat. Just keep the sordid secret to yourself - ohh and you can also pretend you have pieced together some confusing part of the storyline all by yourself. Sordid AND smug

JustMarriedBecca · 12/07/2022 21:33

Sometimes I Google the wordle answer. Some things are better left secret

LoisPlane · 12/07/2022 21:34

What are you watching it on? Netflix and Prime show the 'episode watched' completed bar at the bottom so you may well be fucked before you think of lying!

LadyCatStark · 12/07/2022 21:36

YANBU but make sure you “rewind” back to the beginning of each episode or he’ll find out (says the one who absolutely didn’t stay up until 2am to watch the Battle of Winterfell on Game of Thrones while DH was a way, oh no).

PrawnGoDookaDooka · 12/07/2022 21:37

LoisPlane · 12/07/2022 21:34

What are you watching it on? Netflix and Prime show the 'episode watched' completed bar at the bottom so you may well be fucked before you think of lying!

You can delete things you have watched from Netflix - you have to use a pc though.

dudsville · 12/07/2022 21:38

I think your relationship has lost all trust and boundaries and you need to tell him and let him decide for himself...

Obvs...

😉

Also, speaking from experience here, you just need to keep it to yourself.

resuwen · 12/07/2022 21:39

I used to google the GoT spoilers when the episodes were released in the US. Never telling OH, he would have been heartbroken 😂

AmbushedByCake · 12/07/2022 21:40

DH remains convinced that we watched every episode of WandaVision for the first time together.

We did not.

WeRTheOnesWeHaveBeenWaitingFor · 12/07/2022 21:41

You only want to tell him to clear your own conscience. Just make sure you learn from it.

Greensleeves · 12/07/2022 21:41

Ooh, I did this. I watched the whole of the Midwich Cuckoos with my brother while DH was away on a camping trip. I fessed up when he got back and submitted to watching some god-awful sci-fi thing he fancied, to make up for my treachery. He got over it Grin

Pkwi · 12/07/2022 21:42

Hope he LTB.

Disgusting behaviour.

FlissyPaps · 12/07/2022 21:43

Do you think he may have his suspicions…?

11Hawkins · 12/07/2022 21:44

Don't. DH watched ahead on squid games, I could of divorced him.

Stay quiet op for your marriages sake! Grin

SisterAgatha · 12/07/2022 21:44

I watch them a second time and pretend like I’m really clever and have the ending figured out 😎

5128gap · 12/07/2022 21:45

He'll find out OP. Everyone always thinks they're so discreet, but all it needs is for your neighbour to have spotted you through the window and feel duty bound to tell him because 'she'd want to know'
You'll probably drop yourself in it as well when you're together, because your mind will be elsewhere and you'll forget what he's not supposed to know.
You need to tell him and let him decide for himself whether he wants this drama in his life.

Mumoftwoinprimary · 12/07/2022 21:51

We were watching Away together and I accidentally read all the synopses of the episodes.

And then had a marvellous time “guessing” all the twists. Dh was very impressed with my incitefulness!

mummypie17 · 12/07/2022 21:52

I did that with a movie but ended up confessing because I didn't want to watch it again!

JemimaPuddleducksWaddle · 12/07/2022 21:53

Stylishkidintheriot · 12/07/2022 21:32

I’m thinking that telling the truth will only hurt him. I think the burden of keeping it to myself is my punishment

Absolutely. But don't do what I did and when he is catching up, accidentally let slip what is going to happen. Oopps

declutteringmymind · 12/07/2022 22:03

Text him and tell him that if he can snatch a break to watch a few episodes.....you won't mind...... you can catch up with him. Then watch them and say but I thought you were watching them too. This is what my DH does to me.

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