Am I interfering?

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This evening DH was doing the washing up, as he was filling up the washing up bowl I checked that the water was hot because I hadn't heard him running the tap before filling the bowl.

He then accused me of interfering and I flicked water in his face before leaving the kitchen.

I genuinely didn't see him run the tap beforehand so was I interfering?

I’d see red at the flicking water in my face … why would you do that!

This. Are you always this controlling OP? Can your DH not be trusted to know if water is too hot or cold to do washing up without your input?

I’m confused you needed to start a thread about this. What are the other things you’ve done that you believed were normal?!

Very controlling. If you had done that to me, you would be doing the washing up.

Leave the poor man alone.

He should have told you to wash the dishes yourself. The way you behaved is pathetic.

You didn't hear the tap running... yet the washing up bowl was full... where did you think the water came from?

Yep, unreasonable and controlling. Do you ever actually treat him like an adult?

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You were in a different room and went to the kitchen to check the water temperature? And then you flicked water in his face? I pity your husband.

Yep. Sometimes it's best to relinquish control and let people do things in the way they see fit. If you want to ensure the water is hot, do the washing up yourself. But you run the risk of ending up doing everything because his way isn't up to your exacting standards. So let it gooooo... Let it goooooo....

Interfering and a dick to boot.

I voted YABU but if he's anything like my DH, I get it. He genuinely thinks dishes can get clean with cold water. I'm talking raw chicken chopping boards and everything 🙄 so even though what you did is interfering, sometimes interfer you must 😂😂

If you're always hovering over him checking up on him that's not great. But if you're anything like most couples, who indulge in reciprocal interfering it's really not a big deal. I kept checking the wall DP was painting for drips at the weekend. Then he told me I was mowing the lawn 'dangerously'. Neither of us took any notice or offence. We know each other pretty well given we're a couple, and know that neither of us is controlling or abusive, just a pair of harmless know it alls at times.

This can't be real, you left the room you was in to go into the kitchen to check if a grown man had used hot water to wash up?? If this was me I would have told you to do it yourself if you was that interested and walked off.

Why do posters think it's a reverse?

Because I genuinely couldn’t believe anyone needed to be told that coming into a room specifically to check that a grown adult was using warm water to wash up counted as interfering. And then flicking water at them when they objected.

I mean HOW could you think that was reasonable? Enough to doubt and MN?

Do you generally regard your DH as an incompetent fool? What’s the washing up equivalent of a spoony fucker?

Yes now go and apologise. What a dick.

Interfering and irritating.

If DH did that to me while I was washing up, I would turn the taps off, leave the dirty dishes in the sink and tell him to do it seeing as I can't be trusted 🤣

Very rude indeed.

washing up equivalent of a spoony fucker

I don't get why you needed to check, surely you trust your husband to be able to do the washing up?

People think it's a reverse because they can't believe anyone would behave like you did and not realise they were being unreasonable.

What would you have done if it wasn’t hot enough?

I can’t believe anyone would even start a thread like this. Or that i was lured into reading so mundane.