Baby in car seat next to me whilst having a pedicure

[mackthepony]

Prepared to be told IABU.

Came for a pedicure. One seat left, and in the seat next to me is a baby in a car seat. Mother is next to him on other side.

Baby looks around 4 months old. Dummy in, peaceful (so far).

Aibu or do you not bring a baby to a beauticians?

I think Yabu

it’s a bloody difficult pain to go places/do things when you have a baby. Just cut the woman some slack. I might have changed my opinion if the baby was causing a disturbance.

This proper made me spit out my tea! 😂

thank you!

Depends on the set up I suppose. I'm not sure if there's different names, but a salon where other people might be having massages or whatnot, I wouldn't, but if it's a place that only does nails I'd probably crack on

I would be curious to know what the plan is in the event that the baby wakes and cries and she has wet nails. If the plan is to just shush a screaming baby and do very little else (what else could she do? She can hardly pick him up or leave) then I don’t think it’s impressive or considerate, no.

the fumes are a whole other issue, and I think it’s stupid and selfish in that regard too! Poor baby.

having nails done is just something to forgo for a bit if you have small children and no appropriate childcare, it’s not exactly a huge sacrifice is it.

@HermioneKipper My husband died 16 weeks ago and prior to that he needed a sitter himself so I don't have that luxury but no, they don't cry the littlest one used to sleep throughout most of it and the older one likes to watch the cars go by outside.

So op, did the baby cry?

It really wouldn't bother me if the baby was quiet. And, at 4 months, their cries aren't really that bothersome. So, even if they did cry, if they're not my problem to deal with and didn't descend into full on, blue in the face screaming, I still wouldn't mind.

The baby's mum must also know the temperament of the baby to fo this. There's no way on earth I would have taken my collicky, tongue tied (unknown at the time) baby with me for a pedi. But good on that mum for taking care of herself and not resigning to martydom.

Do what other people do though and go at the weekend/evening slots or get a mobile hairdresser to come to your house

Wow how rude are you?😂

You can’t go around telling people what days/times they should be going for treatments just because they have kids. If salons allow kids then what’s the problem?

So if like me your a single mum with little support for childcare, should I not have my nails done incase my child disturbs you? Sorry but YABVU

I didn’t take mine as babies. But from the age of about 3 my two came with me and got their nails done as a treat. They LOVED it! And the salon only charged £5 for both of them

they still talk about it to this day about how they loved to be pampered and still find it such a special day for all of us and I think they will for years to come ❤️

My first thought was chemical fumes being inhaled or something being dropped on the baby, so not the best idea.

So you can't go get beauty treatments if you have a young baby then??
YABU and entitled. She has as much right to be there as you do.

If the baby was quiet, that’s fine.

If it was noisy, I’d be most irritated.

On another note, I’d not really want to expose a baby to all those stinky chemicals. But there we are.

People know their own babies. At 4 months mine just didn't do that.

I wouldn't give it a second thought. Mine were really quiet and transportable at 4 months.

A toddler running riot might have got an eye roll from me but I find kids easy to block out as they're not my own so I take no notice 🤷‍♀️.

Maybe she had had a sitter that let her down at the last minute and she couldn't cancel the appointment. Some places charge if you cancel last minute.

when mine was a baby, I asked if I could take to hairdressers during his nap time and was told sorry no people enjoy their pamper time.
actually I think I’m retrospect they are right. There is a risk that they wake and disturb clients.

You go to the hairdresser's to get your hair cut. If you can "hear other people's kids" it doesn't prevent your hair being cut properly. I hate hearing other people's random chatter but that doesn't stop them doing it in the hairdresser.

If you don't have a reliable babysitter for your child, are you not allowed to get a haircut, manicure or any other treatment until they start school in case someone sees or hears them.

In any case it sounds like this baby was sat there quietly so what's the problem.

You are right! I go for a relax. What if the child woke up? Are we all meant to smile indulgently.

I have never taken my children to the hairdressers. However a few years ago I was sitting next to a women who was clearly there to have highlights and cut.

Her children (probably 3-4) were running around and bored senseless. They got in the way of the hairdressers with sharp sissors, hairdryers, cables and in the end the owner had to ask one of the juniors to take them downstairs and play with them.

Our beauty salon says no one under 16. If you really cannot find anyone to mind them, no friends, no family, no partner then what about a mobile hairdresser. That way you don’t end up risking annoying people by having a screaming baby.

But it’s not where you go to relax. It’s where you go for a pedicure. Some people might find that relaxing but you don’t need to assume everyone does.

You are right! I go for a relax. What if the child woke up? Are we all meant to smile indulgently.

If you want to relax, then go to a spa. If the child wakes up, then you mind your own bloody business. So many entitled twats on here.

YABU it isn’t a spa- it’s a place to get your nails done, whether you find it relaxing or not is personal. Tbh I find most nail places far from relaxing, cramped and busy and noisy.

I don’t go to relax, I go to have my feet sorted out and my toenails painted. No baby’s presence will prevent that.

You are right! I go for a relax. What if the child woke up? Are we all meant to smile indulgently
Shock horror! A baby wakes up! Day instantly ruined! TBH when my babies were 4 months old they would wake up and I would give them a toy to wave around and they would sit there quietly for quite a while. I hope that wouldn't ruin your "relax".

I do go to relax. I wouldn't mind a quiet baby but I once went to a salon with an older girl there, about four, who was really noisy and running around. Her mother also told her to go and sit next to me, presumably so she had quiet time. That hacked me off.

@HermioneKipper - I don’t live in the uk. Weekends, evenings or mobile hairdressers, or virtually anything is unheard of.
People work 8am-5pm, mon-fri. That’s it. Sundays every single shop is closed, Saturdays almost everything is also closed unless in big city.
You can’t just go at say 3pm on a Saturday for a haircut.