We are having some work done in our house starting in 2 weeks. It's work that we have needed since last year and we have been waiting for the tradesman to become available for a couple of months. MIL has decided she wants to come and visit at the same time. She's pretty immobile and it would be very difficult to have her stay while this work is going on. It's going to be tricky enough being here ourselves with kids and animals let alone having a guest. DH is now suggesting that we ask for the work to start a week later to accommodate his mother's wish.
I don't want to ask this as a)I really want this work to be done. we have waited for ages and I just want it out of the way b)I doubt it can just be rearranged that easily as the tradesman will have other people waiting for him and we will probably end up being pushed back longer than just a week.
I'm getting all sorts of emotional blackmail thrown my way. Would I really prioritise work on the house over family? It doesn't sit right with my DH to ask his mother to wait due to this work apparently. She/They have even tried to say she is having a procedure done and won't be able to come any other time as she will be out of action for "months". It's virtually impossible that with current NHS waitlists this procedure is actually happening when they say. When pressed it turns out to be just an initial assessment. Even if she was having it done the recovery time is only 2 weeks.
She was only here at the end of May so it's not been that long IMO. I think she can be expected to wait until it's convenient for us? AIBU?