Slighted by my brother and new wife?

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We were not part of my brothers wedding party despite including him and his partner.
That was pretty hurtful, but I trudged on planning on enjoying my vacation. After cancellation, delay, long flight, long layover we finally arrived to where my brother lives. We have had a rocky relationship, but I was excited to maybe bond with him.
A lot of their friends are visiting from overseas and I understand the need to hang out with them, but they havent really made time for us (we are leaving soon) .

Whenever they get home, his wife needs alone time and we have pretty much wasted almost 2 days hanging out at their place. My husband and I have spent more time with my parents then we have with them.
Idk the alone time sounds kinda fishy to me as they jump at the opportunity to hang with their friends. I feel even more slighted. Am I being unreasonable?

For our wedding, DH family flew in. Despite being stressed and tired, I was elated to meet them and see othwr family I had already met.
I understand we are not close, but I was hoping to maybe bond.

While I think it was unrealistic to expect to 'bond' over a busy period such as a wedding if you haven't felt close before, it's also unfair to moan about them not spending time with you if you are not prepared to ask them - why not offer to take them out for a meal or prepare a meal for them?

‘Need alone time’ oh dear sounds a bit precious.
Ignore them and enjoy being with the family members who can make an effort!

a wedding event can be a busy time with lots going on - not the ideal time to expect bonding, if you are not already close.

You choose your friends, not your family. She chose your brother, not you. He chose her.

So they're socialising with their friends and allegedly ignoring you - but are you even trying to socialise with the larger group or just expecting Special Sibling Time? Don't do the "we don't know their friends" excuse, you're either trying to be sociable or you're not.

Sibling rivalries can go back to early childhood - my DB is always dismissive of my DSs views, I put it down to umbrage as she replaced him as the baby of the family when he was six. His attitude hasn't changed in 50 years. If you accused him of this he would deny it and he probably isn't aware of it ( his DW has also taken this view of DSis). I doubt your DB knows why he doesn't want a relation ship - however unlesshe is in some godforsaken desert or similar why aren't you out doing fun touristy things?

Not weird at all. You already said you’re not close. Being related to someone doesn’t mean you automatically like or want to spend time with them. I’d choose my friends over family members any day.