School reports

[lollipoprainbow]

So dd10 came out of school today clutching her school report anxiously, a girl in front of her with her dad ripped her envelope open and then exclaimed 'all A's yay!!'. Aibu to think that school reports should either be posted home or to save postage collected from the teacher at home time and then taken home to read. ? My dd was all upset as she knew she wasn't going to get A's!! She did ok though and I tried to reassure her.

A is for behaviour and attitude at primary school not academic ability.

This was one parent being a dick and isn’t reflective on the school or how they issue reports.

My old school used A/B/C/ for effort and progress.

Reports are for parents. Parents understand A=excellent B=good C=ok D=not so good

My kids' reports were divided into Effort/Attainment/Behaviour and each heading had a grade. The ones that mattered to me were the Effort and Behaviour grades and I expected my children to get good grades for those. Attainment could vary but if their Effort was A I wasn't going to be disappointed or cross if Attainment was C or even D.

There was also a lot of waffle and cut and paste comments but the reports definitely had grades.

Where is this the 1930s?

*A's? 🥴

What do you mean? A levels still have letter grades in 2022. And primary schools (and some secondary schools) use a variety of letters for effort or attainment grades. 'A' often stands for 'above' the expected attainment level. In some schools it means 'At' the expected attainment level. Or some schools give numbers e.g. 1-5 for attainment level and letter grades for effort. Or the other way around.

It's very odd that you think using letters is somehow inherently old-fashioned . As long as the parents have a key saying what means what, it doesn't really matter!

Oh ffs teach her some resilience, what is she going to do GCSE result day in a few years time?

Op wrote that the girl ripped it open and said that rather than the dad

Ours are emailed which works well.

Ours are emailed ( started during Covid but everyone liked it so kept it).

Agree. Life will be full of times she doesnt do as well, doesnt win, etc. Teach her resilience don't encourage avoiding hearing about others and their success

Assuming it's the child that said that:
In which case, well done her. She obviously wasn't certain she'd get that, or she'd have been indifferent so good result to her.
If it was the dad. What's the problem about him being proud to her?

I find the inevitable "my child got 120 in all 3 SATS exams and exceeding expectations in everything else and I really have no idea whether it's good or not, please tell me" boasting posts on MN far more irritating than a dad being proud to his own dd in the heat of the moment.

Although I will add that the only conversation I ever had where someone went to deliberately tell me their dd's results I happen to know they were lying. She told me her dd had seen her report and burst into tears because she'd got all 3s and she thought 3s were the bottom mark and 1s being the top (old style Year 2 SATS). I didn't say anything but I knew that no one in that class had got 3s in two of the subjects. (was doing some analysis of statistics for the school)

@Hankunamatata thank you someone who understands how I'm feeling. Yes my dd is sen in a mainstream school and knows she isn't as academic as the other kids so it touches a bit of a nerve.

@LondonQueen probably crying her eyes out while all the clever kids pat each other on the back about their amazing grades !! I always feel sorry for the kids that don't get the grades they want on gcse day.

My DS6’s report said he could occasionally be “like a whirlwind who needs to be reminded of school rules”.

Care to crack that code? 😐

Not uk. This was the first year (4th grade) with grades though, before this it was similar to UK primary with meeting, exceeded or working towards. The children were all so bloody excited to get proper grades though, that won't last

What do you make of the parents that put reports on Facebook OP? Sounds like you also need a thicker skin.

I can understand why you feel sensitive about this, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with a child who has achieved As being proud of it. She wasn’t rubbing it in your DD’s face, she wasn’t saying “haha I got As and you won’t” - she was pleased with her own report and commenting on her own report, and shouldn’t have to hide that away or feel ashamed.

Yabu.

Op, what would you have liked that girl to do? She was very proud of herself for her hard work, so she was right to express that. I can't believe you made a thread about a 10yo girl.

@lollipoprainbow

My DS (both in fact) have SEN and are in mainstream.

We (and the school to be fair) celebrate the things he IS good at and make sure he feels good about himself.

His lack of ability on some areas shouldn’t mean other people can’t celebrate their successes.

What country are you in?

Round here A is for achieved expected standard. E is exceeded expectations. Straight As is profoundly average!

Unless they are given out on the last day, your DD would hear about it at school tomorrow anyways.

When I was growing up in the French system in the early 2000s, report cards weren’t in envelopes. Teachers would stack the report cards from best to worst, and hand them out to each kid one by one with a comment in front of the whole class. Think “keep up the good work”… “well done this term”… “you’ve slipped quite a bit, but I hope you can recover next term”… “please come to me for extra help”… “just as poor as last time, what else can I say”… “if you keep this up, you’ll need to find an alternative school”. They told us they did it in the name of transparency and developing a thick skin. 😳 I thought that was pretty horrible.

A girl and her dad celebrating her good work amongst themselves though? That’s just sweet, in my view!

Tell your daughter that she isn't in a competition with anyone else. It doesn't matter what grades anyone else gets. Heck it doesn't matter what grades she gets ether. As long as she tries her best you are proud of her.

Ours is on the school website - you log on to the parent portal and look up your child's report.
The only time it was physically handed out was for GCSE results.
Forget about that father - but your daughter must accept there will always be kids getting better (and worse) marks, and parents that will announce this loudly.