to keep my four year old off school today because he's unusually weepy and hypersensitive?

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I think he's brewing for something, he has a snotty nose, but no temp - but he cried solidly (although denied all illness) from 7 am to 8:15 am.

So I kept him off. He didn't want to get up this morning either.

AIBU?

Jacanne - I told the school dd1 'seemed under the weather'

which she did imo

in Reception I really do not think the odd day matters

I kept my son off nursery yesterday because he spent half the morning crying and clinging to me. He is usually like this before he comes down with something.

nor do I olive.

My ds teacher approached me in reception though to say there were "concerns over his attendance" He was four and a couple of months FGS. As it happens I hadn't been faced with this sort of thing as in a child who is tearful but not clearly ill - ds had suffered impetigo and a nasty virus (with which he was vomiting a LOT).....school have very rigid rules about not sending them in for 24 hrs after sickness, and of course Impetigo is v nasty and v contagious.........I stood there with my jaw dropped - didn't know what to say, they knew what he'd been off with! God, it still makes me They tell you to keep them off then tell you their attendance is a problem. grrr

Good for you Oliveoil - dd1 has also found start of school quite difficult - she's so pale and tired at the moment.

YANBU at all in fact I was just wondering whether I would do the same with dd she is 4 and at nursery (don't have reception in scotland) she is the same very weepy and it is unlike her.

You know your child best so you totally did the right thing.

dd1 had a bad start but loves it now, took around 6 weeks or so (I have a long sobbing thread somewhere)

hang on in there it does get better but I personally felt strongly that she needed a day off

and a day off was what she got

HG, legally they don't have to attend school until they're 5 - dd1's school says that they can have "rising 5 days" where you use your discretion about sending them until they're 5.

Unfortunately dd1 was 5 in Nov so not an option for her.

I am a primary school teacher but have to say since having children I believe that 5 is far too young to be in school full time - dd1, formerly the bounciest and most confident of children, could certainly have done with another year of half days.

Are you in the UK Honoria as Jacanne points out they dont LEGALLY have to be at school until they are 5 here, so your teacher was a bit out of order.

Exactly! Yes, they don't even legally have to be there. It's just that as with any system, once you're in it you're in it and they have their ways of doing things...attendance obviously dealt with in the same way for reception and yr 1, 2 etc.

I did think it was a bit rich, being as not only had he been ill but as you so rightly say, didn't have a legal obligation to be there!

Totally agree with you jacanne. 4 and 5 just too young. My ds has coped valiantly. But that doesn't change the fact he would have benefitted MORE from being a pre-schooler for longer.

i don't think its too unreasonable

Y are not at all BU

Well, he has been uncharacteristically quiet and whiny. I feel Justified.

His attendance is appalling though. Every other week he is off with something

not at all unreasonable, you know him better then anyone else and know when he's not well or coming down with something. Hope hes better soon.