to keep my four year old off school today because he's unusually weepy and hypersensitive?

[colditz]

I think he's brewing for something, he has a snotty nose, but no temp - but he cried solidly (although denied all illness) from 7 am to 8:15 am.

So I kept him off. He didn't want to get up this morning either.

AIBU?

no way.......sometimes the best thing for them when they feeling rotton is mummy all day.

not unreasonable at all.

hope he feels better

cx

YANBU. I've done that too. If he cried for that long hten all he needs is mummy right!

I still keep mine off even now if they are like this, and the youngest is 5 now.

sometimes I feel they take advantage of me however, but I do know that they are more settled knowing that if they need me, I am lucky enough to be able to do this IYKWIM.

YANBU.

Something is obviously wrong with him, whether he is coming down with something or he had a bad dream. He's four, he needs his mummy

Mums know best

Would do the same. As long as it doesn't happen all the time especially as they get much older, but he is only 4, bless..

I'm sure you are quite right. When mine get like that it usually turns out to be a sign of being poorly.

YAA (Absolutely) NBU

Hope he perks up soon

YANBU

Hope you both have a nice day. Does sound like he may be coming down with something - good on you for keeping him off

YANBU

hope he is better soon

He's not ill as such though. Just miserable and whiny when normally he is bouncing off the walls.

nope

that was to thread question
he might just need a day off

I think you are being unreasonable..you're teaching him that if he cries he gets to stay off school. A dangerous precedent.

YANBU. We all need a duvet day. I try to factor in one a term at least - DS is 6.5.

It sounds like he is either coming down with something or just overtired. Either way a day at home will do him good.

Depends. If he normally likes school and is happy to go then this is unusual circumstances and it won't do him any harm at all.

If he doesn't like school you may have made a rod for your own back by letting him stay off just because he cried.

But he is only 4 and if you can't give in and indulge them occasionally at 4 when can you do it? I probably would have done it too.

Has he perked up now he knows he doesn't have to go to school or is he still down?

I think the OP knows her child better than any of us, sat here judging at our computer screens.

Most mothers will know if their child is trying to wangle a day off school or if they are ill imo.

or alternatively bran, colditz is teaching her son that his mother will listen to him, value his feelings and take into consideration his holistic well-being and development....and that she trusts him enough that she doesn't believe he would manipulate. He is 4. Blimey, if only people would trust kids just a tiny bit.

No way are you being unreasonable - good for you, Colditz.

I think you will know when he "catches on" and starts to play on it - we wouldnt even have BEEN at school when we were 4 so I dont see it will do any harm.

YANBU at all

oh no, he wasn't trying to wangle a day off, he spent several minutes screaming at me and flopping about hystionically when I told him he wouldn't be going.

I am vindicated anyway - his temperature has spiked and I've just Calpoled him.

Not unreasonable - I wish we were allowed the discretion to do this - quite often I've felt that dd1 simply needs a break but the school have told us "only if they are very ill".

dd1 had a horrendous start to school in September and I kept her off one day just because I felt she needed a day cuddling with me on the sofa

and I don't feel the need to justify that to any fcuker tbh