Grandchildren treated differently

[Reuben2014]

My partners parents came over today. I really like his parents but his dad gave my stepdaughter £20 and my 2 year old daughter a mug that says special granddaughter. The last time he came he also gave my stepdaughter money but nothing for my 2 two year old. I was upset as my dad gives both the same, even though he is not a grandad to my stepdaughter. My stepdaughter is amazing and at only 10 years of age turned round and said she would share her money with her sister. 8 said how kind she was but that it was hers. My stepdaughter also commented the last time my partners dad didn't give my 2 year old anything and said it wasn't fair. I dont care about the money, it's the fact they should be treated equally. Am I being unreasonable?

I think the special granddaughter mug is a far nicer and though out gift, as well as age appropriate, for a 2 yo. You're lucky he is so generous to all children. Overthinking it at the moment. If this were to continue when they became aware of differences, then get upset then.

Honestly some people look for things to be offended about. My df gave his oldest two a fiver each yesterday to buy themselves a one cream. He didn't give my 12 week old niece anything for obvious reasons .. should my da be up in arms about the unfairness of it. Thankfully she's more sensible than that.

I can't help thinking that you're one of those people who looks at presents and mentally tallies the cost against what others received, OP. And that's just grabby.

I think YABU. 2yo grandkids/niblings don’t get as much as 10yos in our family.

it’s an age thing.

They are both his biological grandchildren.

Treating them equally doesn’t mean treating them the same. If it did, you’d put them both to bed at the same time, and expect your 2 year old to help with the dishwasher. You treat them both in an age appropriate way, I’m sure, and he’s doing the same.

My elder children get more in terms of financial gifts than my youngest as they now need and value money more I don’t have a problem with it at all