To dislike my 2 year old

[Startrekkin]

The past few weeks have been hell!!! Every day is such a challenge, the school run, a walk to the park, he just wants to do the complete opposite.

this morning when I got home from the school run, I left him having a tantrum at the gate as he wanted to go for a walk first (I would have just needed to do a few things first) so much so that my neighbour came out to me this evening saying sorry about this morning (for looking out the window) I was just checking he was ok.

please tell me I am not the only one as I had nothing like this with my first! (I can honestly say I wouldn’t have had anymore if he was my first)

Second child you say?

Yes

At that age, if my second born had been born first he would've been an only child. He was an utter bloody nightmare. He's 30 now and lovely but by god, those early days were fucking hard with him.

I could have written this myself ! I'm currently sitting out my back yard crying because I just can't cope with my 2 year old. Also 2nd child. She just cries constantly and is afraid of everyone. I know this is caused by covid but it's so tough. Sending you hugs !

If I had a quid for every mother I've heard say that if their second child had been born first they'd have been an only child I wouldn't need to work.

Mine nearly broke me, in fact he still tests my patience daily!

Yeah my second would be my only if she had been first. She just turned 7 and since she was about 4/5 she's the most chilled out, easygoing and kind person in the house!
They change and grow, don't worry.

I could have wroite this. My day goes like this....wakes up way too early starts trashing the place so I get him breakfast then tantrum because it's the wrong cereal even though he chose it. Tantrum to brush teeth. Tantrum to get dressed, I have to pin him down with my feet.

Tantrum when leaving the house. Tantrum to buckle him in buggy. Give him a snack, tantrum when it's over. Go to a toddler class and he wants to do the opposite to everything everyone else does. Anyway you get the gist.

My first had a handful of tantrums in all of his toddler years whereas this one has a handful of tantrums a day.

My second would definitely have been an only if he was born first! He turned 2 in May and he’s been an absolute horror. Literally screamed non stop for the first 18 months of his life. Once he started talking and gained the ability to tell me all the things he doesn’t like, he stopped screaming 🤦‍♀️

He’s funny, bright and ferociously stubborn but by God he is such hard work.

OP, I feel your pain.

You’ll get through it! Both of mine are delightful at times but also very challenging in their own ways too. You forget the trauma of tantrums, potty training, the youngest will wind up my older child and purposely break/smash things. I hardly used the naughty step with my eldest as I disagreed with the principle- DD2 May as well be glued to it 🫣

I definitely could have written this! My two year old DS2 loses his shit at EVERYTHING at the moment! DS1 was so chilled out by comparison.

DS2 doesn't tantrum at nursery though apparently... 🤔

I used to say somebody was laughing when they sent ds because they looked down saw dd, who once stamped her foot (that was the only sign of dissent I ever had) and decided I'd had it much too easy. Ds had more than a double helping of tantrums. For me food and lots of time spent running round in parks seemed to take the edge off the temper.

Other way round here - first is a nightmare, so horrible to me & his dad, he's nearly 6. He gets me down so much I wonder where I've gone wrong. Thinks he's the boss. DD is nearly 2 and a delight on the whole. I fully expect it to change.

I’m currently pregnant with my second and now absolutely terrified 🤣 my first is almost two and his tantrums are epic at the moment. Lord help when my second turns two

I've no advice because I too am in the thick of it with an 19 month old who lives on my last nerve. The simplest of daily tasks can be an ordeal with her. Shes the 2nd and the last. It will get better......won't it 😬

My second born is stark naked on the trampoline stripping off anything I put him in.

He’s 4 and has been hard work from day 1.

😬

This thread is giving me the horrors. DD is a wonderful, chilled, easy, nearly 3 year old (touches all nearby wood). DS is only 4 months old, so too early to tell. I just pray he's nothing like the toddler my youngest brother was. He was my mum's fourth child and a hell of a shock to the system. He. Was. EVIL. He's a wonderful adult now though.

DS is 3.5 and he's still like this. He has to fight me on every little thing, it's so wearing 😔

I'm assuming he was inside the gate so couldn't escape? Lucky you, houses here have no front fences so when DS, 2.5 wanders off its to stand under the neighbours windows.

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But yes, I can confirm that second (and indeed third of they came from seconds egg) are sent to test you.

Mine have discovered their love of SCREAMING and I mean high pitched screaming which they just LOVE and find hysterically amusing and they're twins so they egg each other on. I confirmed to a random passerby today they were fine but liked to scream. Even eldest covers his ears.

But them T2 put his spoon in his mouth tonight and used it to lever up a spoonful of cheesecake for me which he fed me (so we had an end of spoon each) half way through me eating stir fry so they're also adorable too.

Just try and remember some of the best bits of him to hold onto

My first was like this - nonstop needed attention, his own way on everything, constant tantrums! I fell pregnant accidentally when he was two and cried, thinking I couldn't do this again. When DS2 came along I thought for the first year or two that there was something wrong with him because he was so zen and peaceful. Nearly had him tested! Just a normal, medium maintenance child... 🙃

Oh good god 🙈 I'm due my second in September and my first is a total angel.

I have 3 year old twins, one of them is easy breezy, will happily play, get changed without fuss, go to bed ok you the gist.

the other one, my god she pushes my boundaries to the point I could explode. Today she had a meltdown as I wasn’t grating the cheese fast enough 🤦‍♀️ She actually demonstrated how quickly I should be doing it through the wailing and tears. It’s a battle get anything done at all. I feel as though we’re negotiating with a terrorist every single day

My first was awful at 2 (I'd already had her brother by then so too late). My DS however was completely adorable, no terrible twos or 3s. Then he turned 4 and you've never heard whining like it!

Meh, the first one always leads you into a false sense of security. There you are, swanning around thinking you are the world's most awesome parent, with a delightful, polite, happy, good sleeper and then BAM 💥.

It can't be that bad though, I'm having #3 in September 😂🥳.

You poor thing, I don't envy you. My DD1 was a dream until she turned about 3 and since then she's been a terror... She's 5 in December. She is however very helpful when she wants to be, just her god damn attitude drives me up the wall!!

I say all the time to my partner "I'm her mother so I love her... But I don't have to like her all the time" 😂😂