Page 2 | To dislike my 2 year old

Startrekkin · 2022-07-08T18:18:26+00:00

The past few weeks have been hell!!! Every day is such a challenge, the school run, a walk to the park, he just wants to do the complete opposite. this morning when I got home from the school run, I left him having a tantrum at the gate as he wanted to go for a walk first (I would have just needed to do a few things first) so much so that my neighbour came out to me this evening saying sorry about this morning (for looking out the window) I was just checking he was ok. please tell me I am not the only one as I had nothing like this with my first! (I can honestly say I wouldn’t have had anymore if he was my first)

EllieRosesMammy · 08/07/2022 20:43

turquoise1988 · 08/07/2022 20:39

Meh, the first one always leads you into a false sense of security. There you are, swanning around thinking you are the world's most awesome parent, with a delightful, polite, happy, good sleeper and then BAM 💥.

It can't be that bad though, I'm having #3 in September 😂🥳.

Your second born is a terrorist too then? 😂

I'm also having my 3rd in January, what the hell am I thinking hahaha

MissMaple82 · 08/07/2022 20:47

My first was like this, it was 13 years until I had another.

surreygirl1987 · 08/07/2022 20:49

This sounds like my oldest. He was an utter nightmare at 2!!

Summerwhereareyou · 08/07/2022 20:51

Same!! If I had second first would have been an only.

turquoise1988 · 08/07/2022 20:53

@EllieRosesMammy She's awesome really, and makes us laugh every day, but she is so very different from her sister and has always been harder work! How can two children from the same parents be so different?!

A little fist bump to you for #3 as well. We are excited and terrified all at the same time!

007DoubleOSeven · 08/07/2022 20:59

Mine have discovered their love of SCREAMING and I mean high pitched screaming which they just LOVE and find hysterically amusing and they're twins so they egg each other on. I confirmed to a random passerby today they were fine but liked to scream. Even eldest covers his ears

I'm so sorry, I know this is awful for you but I laughed at this and thought "aw, how adorable".

I'm so broody right now.

Adelais · 08/07/2022 21:12

My 2 year old is such hard work too! She has so many tantrums every day and everything is such a battle. My first child was such an easy toddler so I really wasn’t prepared for this!

FreyaStorm · 08/07/2022 21:16

“The report, which studied thousands of sibling pairs across in both Denmark and Florida, found second-born boys are 20-40% more likely to have behavioral issues. They're more likely to be disciplined in school, and even to end up in the criminal justice system than their older siblings.”

www.teenvogue.com/story/second-born-children-worse-behaved

user1212121212 · 08/07/2022 21:20

My eldest is like this, but waited for my youngest to start his terrible twos, to let us know that this is his true character 🤯😂

Every day there is some horrendous inconvenience I've accidentally bestowed upon him, and once eldest starts, youngest joins in. I have them moaning in stereo. All. Day. Long.

Sending good vibes your way OP

DinosaursEatMan · 08/07/2022 21:27

Dc1 was a nightmare from 18 months onwards, having dc2 was a triumph of hope over experience but they are the most chilled, happy child and missed out completely on tantrums of any sort. Also dc1 did finally turn out okay!

EllieRosesMammy · 08/07/2022 21:32

turquoise1988 · 08/07/2022 20:53

@EllieRosesMammy She's awesome really, and makes us laugh every day, but she is so very different from her sister and has always been harder work! How can two children from the same parents be so different?!

A little fist bump to you for #3 as well. We are excited and terrified all at the same time!

Haha you have two girls as well! My two girls are complete opposites too!

Have you found out what number 3 is? 😁

PrincessSpanky · 08/07/2022 21:36

Erm had the same with our 2nd. I am still in shock as my first was a dream too.

He's 6 and still stubborn but sooo much better.

I can 100% say if he was our first, he would be an only.

FunDragon · 08/07/2022 21:37

In all seriousness, it was having a second child that made me realise that so much of parenting - at least with babies and toddlers - is down to sheer luck.

I thought I was just really, really good at parenting until I had my second.

EllieRosesMammy · 08/07/2022 21:38

FunDragon · 08/07/2022 21:37

In all seriousness, it was having a second child that made me realise that so much of parenting - at least with babies and toddlers - is down to sheer luck.

I thought I was just really, really good at parenting until I had my second.

I agree with this!

I miss being smug 😭😂

MarisaMaryEllen · 08/07/2022 21:44

Ah yeah that second child 😂 Ds2 was a horror at that age. He’s 3.5 now and mostly lovely albeit very strong willed. Ds1 was so chilled I didn’t know what hit me with ds2. It will pass.

whispers what are third ones like? They don’t just get progressively worse the more you have do they? I have a very sweet little dd1 who is 10 weeks old and she’s such a lovely baby I’m dreading her turning into a terrible toddler!

turquoise1988 · 08/07/2022 22:09

@EllieRosesMammy No, we didn't find out the sex with any of them. I like the anticipation . Did you?

SheepingStandingUp · 08/07/2022 22:15

turquoise1988 · 08/07/2022 20:53

@EllieRosesMammy She's awesome really, and makes us laugh every day, but she is so very different from her sister and has always been harder work! How can two children from the same parents be so different?!

A little fist bump to you for #3 as well. We are excited and terrified all at the same time!

I have two from the same egg and they're so different (apart fro mthe screaming but two is led into it by 1). Genetics are hinky.

SheepingStandingUp · 08/07/2022 22:17

007DoubleOSeven · 08/07/2022 20:59

Mine have discovered their love of SCREAMING and I mean high pitched screaming which they just LOVE and find hysterically amusing and they're twins so they egg each other on. I confirmed to a random passerby today they were fine but liked to scream. Even eldest covers his ears

I'm so sorry, I know this is awful for you but I laughed at this and thought "aw, how adorable".

I'm so broody right now.

I caught the bus with a woman pregnant with twins. I think I scared her more than she even was. They're very cute tho and today we're hugging each other I mthe buggy just cos it was funny (one made two hug but then two decided it WAS fun. Such is every story)

SheepingStandingUp · 08/07/2022 22:20

FreyaStorm · 08/07/2022 21:16

“The report, which studied thousands of sibling pairs across in both Denmark and Florida, found second-born boys are 20-40% more likely to have behavioral issues. They're more likely to be disciplined in school, and even to end up in the criminal justice system than their older siblings.”

www.teenvogue.com/story/second-born-children-worse-behaved

Oh bloody hell, I've got a boy and then twin boys. They're screwed 😂😂

CactusBlossom · 08/07/2022 22:34

Yes, children do things like that! I remember my mum tucking her grandchild (not my child) under her arm and taking him home because he was playing up when she was trying to take him out for a walk. Now it begins to make sense why some people call those without children "selfish" because they don't have to go through this! Remember you are the adult he does not get to decide, you do! It's called the "terrible twos" for a reason... He will grow out of it. He's at that difficult age under 21 (don't panic -- joking!).

CoodleMoodle · 08/07/2022 22:39

Another person with a demon second born! He's just turned 4 and the frequency of the tantrums seem to be lessening slightly, but the ones he does have are EPIC. We're down to maybe two or three per day, from seven or eight. He's the sweetest, most caring and funny boy until something goes a tiny bit wrong and then BOOM! I adore him and he's my little mate, but he'd definitely been an only child if he'd been first. In fact he had a rage about this the other day, demanding to know why he was "borned second!".

His older sister had maybe two big tantrums. Ever. She's 8 and can be a bit stroppy and wannabe teenager at times... but I've never had to carry her out of a shop under my arm etc, and her behaviour never made me want to run away screaming. She was awful from birth to 18mo (mostly because she didn't sleep), he was a dream from birth until 18mo, and he hasn't stopped his reign of terror yet.

I'm hoping starting school in Sept does him some good!

2muchtimeonline · 08/07/2022 23:11

OMG could have written this a decade ago. 1 was an easygoing baby, only cried when he needed something, I used to joke that he had read the the manuals in the womb. 2 emerged crying and didn’t stop for 3 years. Nightmare. Never stopped. Now? An adorable ten year old… basically he is full of emotion, everything hits him hard . He still gets upset but when he’s happy you get hugs, I love you, the works. It’s all highs and lows with him. He only calmed down when he learned to talk and walk, he needed autonomy. So hang on in there! Easy no 1 is now a silent, glowering teen …

2muchtimeonline · 08/07/2022 23:13

EllieRosesMammy · 08/07/2022 21:38

I agree with this!

I miss being smug 😭😂

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100% . We are so good at this! Gloat gloat. Eh… no.

Mariposista · 08/07/2022 23:32

It’s a horrid age OP. In a couple of years you should have a much nicer child that you can actually enjoy.