My mum said she was desperate to babysit when my baby was born. The first few months she would take him for a few hours. I started up my own business during maternity leave but I’m going back to the office part time when he’s 1. She has agreed to watch him when I’m at work but seems to think that will be a novelty because I’m ‘at’ work. I’m still working (on my own business) at home but just have to do it with a baby round my ankles. I feel like I’m getting to spend no quality time with him because everything is taking so long that I’m working pretty much all day while he’s there. The in-laws don’t offer to help at all so can’t ask them.
Now he’s 9 months my mum will ‘pop in’ regularly but that’s of no use when you just desperately want someone to give you an hour or two of childcare. She’s away for lunch, getting her nails done etc and has no concept of what its like. I get that it’s not her responsibility but I just feel like everyone’s kind of forgot that I’m dealing with all of this 🤦🏼♀️ I almost resent other mums when we go to classes and I’m sprinting out the door while they’re away for a leisurely coffee after. My friend is on mat leave and keeps saying how hard it is (it is) and she has her mum at her house 2 full days a week. It doesn’t help that my husband constantly says ‘I’d love to be at home with him all day!’ if I say anything about it being hard going. Just feel like I’m trying to do so much and no one cares enough to even offer to help 😩