To wonder why this mum kepts telling us she doesn't like kids

[kiki22]

A school mum has told me and others both one on one and in groups she doesn't like kids she loves her own but doesn't like them and finds kids irritating.

The first time was at a party where we were talking about volenteering I do with some of the kids (because they knew me some of the parents didn't) at the party and how I really enjoy it. She said 'I can't stand kids my own bore me to tears' there was some polite laughs and many slide looks it was really awkward it wasn't jokey she was dead pan. Since then she continues to bring up how she doesn't like kids almost everytime I see her which is only at parties school events and the club I volenteer at.

I really am l getting sick of her telling me she doesn't like kids especially since the kids that she's around is only ever my kids and other kids I know. I'm finding it hard not to be offended.

What is the point in this can anyone shed any light? Is she looking for support? Is she looking for agreement? Is she attention seeking? She she just like the shock value?

I'm tempted to ask her why she kept telling me and ask if she want to talk about her feelings on a good say then to tell her to change the record on bad days but I don't want to fall out with her because I can't be arsed. It's honestly everytime often out of the blue like a kid comes for a drink and she'll say this is why I don't like kids you can never get through a conversation when the kid downs some water and runs off.

AIBU in finding it strange she brings it up so much?

Agreed.

I hated the idea of children, the noise, the mess, etc. If I found myself in the middle of a group of (probably) shrieking children, that feeling would be front and centre of my mind, so it would be pretty natural to say it every time.

So she might be saying it for the same reason people say "it's a nice day" when the sun is shining. She's just expressing the feeling she's having at the time. And the fact that she expressed the same feeling the last time is no reason not to do it again.

Came to say this. Some kids are shy or aloof, some are extroverted and chatty. Some warm up slowly. They're all individuals! I do find it odd to have a blanket dislike, especially when you save kids yourself... what do you like about your own kids then?

I don't like every single child, or find every child cute. But I don't dislike them all as the default. They're an age group like any other with different personalities, you often meet the odd one or two that are genuinely just adorable.

I don’t really like kids generally, either but I wouldn’t say so to someone whose kids I knew!

Just to add, I also have ASD (Asperger's), but I love babies, toddlers and children and can't imagine someone who only likes their own. So not all people with ASD are like that.