To be sick of Fabulous Plus size influencer stories on my feed.

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Now don't get me wrong these girls/ women are beautiful and I love how confident they are in their skins. They glow.
However the comments alway descent into the usual vile fat shaming territory. This is so damaging. Telling someone they are gross or a burden in the NHS is not going to help.
I am plus size (obese) but working on it right now . Historically I lost a significantl amount of weight all by myself but regained it when my child's Mental Health took a nosedive. We have been to hell and back. At the moment I feel good about myself and things are stable in my personal life and my Mental Health is slowly improving as DD is more settled and in a better place mentally. The weight is coming off again as I am focusing on what my body can do and I am striving to push my body further.
The things that people think should help actually don't IMO. I have had Medics suggesting a little exercise for example . Well I exercise loads (100k Ultra level and I don't need to be told to avoid junk food fgs. My eating was a reaction to serious shit in my life to which I had bugger all support.
So AIBU

Don't read the comments. Never read the comments. Follow the people you wabt to follow. Tell insta when its algorithm suggests posts you don't want to see.

YABU for complaining about Instagram "plus size influencer" stories when you can control this by looking at other posts, unfollowing people where you feel triggered, or just leave the whole platform in the first place.

The whole online debate around plus size is just depressing. You have a platform, Instagram, which rewards polarised debate and comments because the minute someone comes in saying "you need to lose weight" you get a ton of "be quiet hun you don't know how someone got where they did xx" or "stfu she is beautiful!!".

So Instagram.is super happy as comments and likes and stuff leads to more interactions etc. Never mind the mental health of the people reading, or posting, or commenting...

But I feel I've wasted time typing all this - you sound hooked into what Instagram provides, and therefore are open to being triggered by whatever is written.

If you can take a break from reading it all, you may find your mental health significantly improves. Good luck.

Hide the influencer.

Thus thread will likely descend into fat bashing though as there is a very skewed view of healthy eating by some of the more vocal, food-fearing mumsnetters.

It isn't me being triggered. I am stronger now but I worry for their Mental Health and others. .I am not on Instagram. This is the Sun Fabulous mag posting these stories on Facebook.
I do ignore them now as it is O so predictable.

Sorry realise I OP wasn't as clear as it coukd be.
Just hate the vile click bait lazy journalism of that rag.

Did you post the other day about losing weight?
Offered group CBT sessions but didn't think it would benefit you?

@Thelostwoman50 no that wasn't me.

Instagram is a toxic hotbed of show-offs and trolls. From all you say, you don't need influencers to tell you how to live your life - say goodbye to the negativity and leave Instagram behind.

@Antarcticant I don't do Instagram. These articles are shared on Facebook by the Sun's lifestyle arm.
I opened one but ignore them now.

Easy solution. Don't read the Sun.

Stay off social media, don't read anything tabloid. Concentrate on the things that are happening in your real life. Good luck with the weight loss and with your daughter. Xxxx

Actually I think its really unhealthy all this love my bigness shit. It's not healthy physically and all these girls.neing told they can be anything they want have no idea that in the actual world, like it or not, people judge in seconds. Nobody ever said they regretted going from obese to healthy because people treated them in a negative way. The practice nurse at my.mums surgery is so fat she has to have a special chair and widened doorframe. I don't think that's OK. I wouldn't see her.

People have made disparaging comments about overweight women for decades. Few manage to go through life without hearing first hand what the majority of people really think about excess weight. Those that see it as beautiful and positive are a tiny, albeit vocal minority. While they can be very helpful in encouraging women to see their bodies more positively, there is no way they will turn the tide of public opinion. So the choices are, live in a world where the only opinions on obesity are negative, or look to these influencers for some positivity to balance it out, and ignore the inevitable negativity that will accompany it. They're not saying anything you don't already know people think, and it's a shame to miss out on the positivity because of it.

Social media is an echo chamber OP. It’s all fake.
Hell even MN is similar, the majority of threads have batshit opinions that’s I’ve never heard anyone express IRL.

If you were blind would you still refuse to be seen by this nurse?

Ugh I know there is so much toxicity in the media and on social media around lots of people, including obviously anyone who dares to be overweight.

OP if you like podcasts check out Maintenance Phase. Like anything I take it with a grain of salt but they do a great job of debunking a lot of the absolute bullshit that's continually spewed forth about dieting and body fat. It really makes clear how much of the "helpful" advice from everyone (other people, the media, doctors) is achieving the exact opposite.

Yes. How can you look after other people when you can't look after yourself. Moreover, if I were her employer I would move her to a non patient facing role

But obesity isn't positive. And people's first thought is that really fat people are slobs. It's human nature. Stop pretending it's beautiful. It's really not. And all the bollocks euphemisms like big girls and chubby don't stop it being obesity which we should not be encouraging the next generations to 'embrace'

There's an option to choose not to see stuff on Facebook. Next time something like that pops up find that option - it's probably the three little dots at the top by the name of the account. You can also hide accounts - I've hidden our local rag as the people who comment on the articles are knuckle dragging mouth breathers who make me rage.

Obviously obesity is not positive for health reasons. But beauty is subjective. You can see from historical art work that human beings have not always found excess weight unattractive, and we know that some cultures and many people within our own culture find being overweight attractive, or at least not a bar to being attractive. Not everyone who says obese women are beautiful is pretending. The models often have lovely faces, hair and skin that mean that even if you don't like their body shape, they are overall more beautiful than many slimmer plainer women.

My point on a personal level and I an sure I am not the only onr is is that an obese or overweight person will find it very difficult to change if they are coming from a point of self loathing. Vile comments either in real life or on social media etc feed into that.
Changing mindset is very important. I tend to lose weight when feeling good about myself and for me this relates to what my body can do and I know I will be stronger if I lose more weight.
Negative comments bandied around us more likely to stop the person bothering. Fir example my sport is challenging but also inclusive. I have never been made to feel less of a competitor because I am not a quick for example. Had thst been the case I could have given up and made things worse.
I subscribe to Rebel Fit and that is more uplifting.
Obviously a certain amount of stability in Life also helps.

@Spanielservant this slob walked 100KM continuous last year.

Telling fat people that they should be ashamed and hate themselves is totally counter-productive. It doesn't make them thin. It doesn't help them to lose weight. It just makes them feel ashamed and hate themselves, neither of which is conducive to a healthy sustainable lifestyle.

Telling fat people that they should be ashamed and hate themselves is totally counter-productive. It doesn't make them thin. It doesn't help them to lose weight. It just makes them feel ashamed and hate themselves, neither of which is conducive to a healthy sustainable lifestyle.

Exactly @Palavah These people are making things worse

I think there is an equally valid argument though that obese and overweight people who are perfectly happy with themselves don't change either. My mum was that person. Perfectly happy obese and made no changes. Her weight was responsible for her death in her early 60s.
I loathe the cruelty of fat shaming, and am strongly of the opinion that the link between weight and beauty should be broken. But I think its incorrect to say that body positivity is the best way to bring about physical health improvements for obese people, and a generalisation to say that improved self esteem helps weight loss. It may for some, but by no means for all.
Plus size influencers neither encourage nor inspire weight loss, so at best their impact on health is neutral. That's not to say they don't help with self esteem, which is very valuable in other ways.