To be sick of Fabulous Plus size influencer stories on my feed.

[Deeplydippy74]

Now don't get me wrong these girls/ women are beautiful and I love how confident they are in their skins. They glow.
However the comments alway descent into the usual vile fat shaming territory. This is so damaging. Telling someone they are gross or a burden in the NHS is not going to help.
I am plus size (obese) but working on it right now . Historically I lost a significantl amount of weight all by myself but regained it when my child's Mental Health took a nosedive. We have been to hell and back. At the moment I feel good about myself and things are stable in my personal life and my Mental Health is slowly improving as DD is more settled and in a better place mentally. The weight is coming off again as I am focusing on what my body can do and I am striving to push my body further.
The things that people think should help actually don't IMO. I have had Medics suggesting a little exercise for example . Well I exercise loads (100k Ultra level and I don't need to be told to avoid junk food fgs. My eating was a reaction to serious shit in my life to which I had bugger all support.
So AIBU

Obesity should not be glamorised . Its dangerous and it is a drain on health services. There are programmes on TV glamorising dangerously obese people and doctors are being told not to tell patients they are overweight in case they get offended. What a ridiculous state of affairs

Err no actually, my first thought is whether they may have a condition or require medications which either prohibit healthy metabolism, hinder exercise or affects hormonal balance.
I certainly don't agree that the fat people should be hidden away in the back offices. Thank goodness I don't know anyone as narrow minded and opinionated as you irl

@5128gap I have not said it does for all people but it works for me and I am sure I amnit thr only one to actually stop focusing on what my body looks like but on what it can do and to work on fitness .
If weigh gain us linked to Mental Health telling someone they are grossly overweight fior example is not going to help.

Why are you reading the comments?

You're following plus-size influencers because (I assume) you want body-positive role models you can identify with, get style inspiration from, learn confidence from etc. Your inspiration is them, not random people on the internet who comment on stuff. Follow plus-size women if you want to, but don't read the comments at all because you are fully aware that it will be counter-productive. It sounds like you['re basically punishing yourself with them. Just stop ffs.

I think there's two things.
Firstly the link between obesity and ugliness and negative character traits should be challenged and broken. I think the plus size influencers do a great job of this. I think and hope that they are instrumental in raising self esteem.
Secondly, the link between obesity and health issues should not be ignored or glossed over in order not to damage self esteem.
Health, beauty, worth as a person are all entirely different things and should be treated as such. If ones health is impacted by their weight, its right they should be told, just as if it were impacted by alcohol or smoking. They shouldn't however be told that their weight makes them ugly or of less value.

People deserve to feel happy and beautiful regardless of their size. Being obese increases the risks of health problems, it doesn’t guarantee them. Fat isn’t a moral issue. Very few (if any) people are looking at plus size influencers and thinking ‘I aspire to put on weight to look like that’ but if they can make some people feel more positive about themselves, then great. I follow a few mid/plus size influencers. I’m currently a size 12-14. They make me feel more confident about myself and I can see what looks good on body shapes that look like.

@ManateeFair I follow no one on Instagram. I was scrolling though Facebook and absentmindedly opened a single àrticle. On that article I noticed someone questioned why The Sun/Fabulous and constantly showing these posts as it brings out the haters and it got me thinking.
@WorkEvent my health as far as I know isn't affected by my obesity as far as I know but obviously I would be faster if I lost a few stone. That is my focus. Telling me to do a little exercise is patronising when I walk 100KM events.

@Deeplydippy74 I didn’t tell you to exercise?

@WorkEvent I know. I was just explaining my focus. Medics foalll tge time though as they make assumptions re my lifestyle.