He keeps me on the back burner..

[Kitkatkrunchy]

Feel so fed up.

The man I am seeing just wants to keep me on the back burner. I feel like he only wants to see me when he wants to. If I ask it’s always a no and an excuse until he decides otherwise. He expects me to always be there when he wants me. Sometimes he will message me at 10pm to come round.

He blows hot and cold and I never know where I stand with him. I’ve told him a few times that we should stop seeing each other as I don’t think he is interested and he always says something to convince me to carry on seeing him but then we are back to square one. What should I do?

He didn’t click on my message and went offline so clearly he felt it wasn’t worth checking

"This isn't working any more"

Then block

Job done

He's manipulating you and you keep falling for it.
The only way to stop the cycle is to end it.

Get him blocked, don't look back... go get on with your life, go out with the girls, book a holiday... well done OP for getting rid

Why even message him? Stop embarrassing yourself.

Raise your standards in life.

You know what he is doing and yet you still let him treat you like this.

You are not his only girlfriend is my guess. Oh - and he is ignorant as well.

Ditch and move along there

@Bunty55 Yes I think this too. Just one of his options to choose from

As others have said, people treat us how we allow them to. There’s nothing else to say.

I had a that for 2 years like this, eroded my self worth like you wouldn't believe. I finally took the plunge and told him to do one, it's only a year later I finally feel free and like myself again.

Just block him 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

Why would you want more of this nonsense in your life? Every time he guilts you etc, do you not think to yourself "or I could have a life without all this shite if I just stick to my guns"?

He doesn’t have on screen notifications that show the message

Could this be to prevent messages from other women popping up when he is with you (and vice-versa).

He's clearly playing you and you're enabling him.

Please walk away for good.

Just block him, and brace yourself for the onslaught of attention when he realises you’re not desperate for him anymore.

You are enabling his behaviour. Block him and move on. You are worth so much more.

Be the master of your own ship. You deserve better than this. And hanging around waiting for this guy means that you're missing opportunities to meet someone better. Good luck

I am finding it hard because I am very passive but it’s constantly putting me on edge and making me anxious waiting to see if he has text me or wether or not he will want to see me

It's hard as you are addicted but this guy is an absolute tool. He's a bare minimum effort guy, do it for future you. You can do this, if I can literally anyone can.

Do you go out on dates with him or is it just booty calls?

Does his name begin with an M by any chance?

@DameMargaretofChalfont Yes I believe that is the reason. His WhatsApp goes off and he says oh that will be the neighbours. But I know it won’t have been

Take yourself out of the equation and it's one less option for him. These types usually have a harem of women, don't be one of them.

‘He keeps me on the back burner’….because you accept it.

Come on, self respect. Be proud to walk away.

He does not make you stay. You choose to.

He does not listen to you when you try to speak to him. So stop talking to him.

Block him. Then he cant say anything to you.

Just block him and move on. He's a knob.

What do you mean by 'that will be the neighbours'