Hello, needed to talk to someone about this as don't really want to speak to my friends about it. My fiancé and I have been together for 5 years. He's quite camp and effeminate, but that's never bothered me as it makes him more fun. At the start I asked him if he's ever been with a man/sexual orientation as I was curious & he said he never has he's 100% straight, so left it at that. I found a letter from his ex girlfriend one day when I was looking for a notepad in his office draw & it said something about being upset about finding messages between him & another guy (who is one of his Friends who is gay) This made me feel a bit weird as I was like what on earth are the messages! I asked him about it and he said it must have been because he was bitching about her, so left it again. He's never really hung out with this gay friend whilst I've been there so always thought it was weird I had never met him before. So I finally met him this weekend and he told me that him & my fiancé used to snog on nights out coz no one fancied them so they would kiss each other then he said "everyone was fluid back then" this made me feel so uncomfortable & awkward & throughout the night kept saying stuff like well you're not a straight man to him - also made me feel uncomfortable. Anyway had to laugh along and pretend it was the most hilarious thing ever (inside wanted to cry) as soon as we got in the taxi I asked him about it, he got so defensive and was like IT WAS ONE TIME IN A CLUB AS A LAUGH. Now, to me used to on nights out doesn't strike me as one time in a club and I said to him why did you lie and say you've never been with a man & he said it didn't count as it was a laugh. I've been sitting on it and picturing him kissing men and it's making me feel so weird (I have nothing against gay/bisexual men by the way I have a gay best friend) it's just the fact he's lied about it to me. I obviously know he fancies me, but he's never like want to rip your clothes off let's try some wild stuff in the bedroom. He's still saying it was one time & I think I will never know the truth unless I outright ask his friend about it. Shall I just put it to bed & just accept it was 15 years ago at uni and he was having fun? Part of me wants to look through his phone at the messages between him and this guy as it's the only way I'll know. We're getting married in December and I want to know the full truth before. Maybe he is telling the truth and I'm just paranoid? Helppppp