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Cinema stopping kids in suits from coming in - Minions

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jackstini · 02/07/2022 16:48

DS & his friend (both 13) had tickets this pm for Minions, Rise of Gru

Like lots of people per TikTok, they dressed up in suits/ties - just for fun
Got to cinema and were told they couldn't come in because of what they were wearing

DS called me upset and DH went down to see if he could sort it. Found 5 grown men standing over them and a few other kids, shouting at them that they needed to leave and they were not allowed in. Kids felt very intimidated

No dress code visible in the cinema or on the website

DH asked if they had misbehaved and was told no, we just don't like this suit thing as some of the people on TikTok have kicked off
DH pointed out, they hadn't kicked off, just wanted to watch the film, so what was the problem. Stoney silence
He took them outside, took their jackets & ties off & they went back in 5 minutes later and were admitted by a different member of staff

Is it just me or is this ridiculous? And pathetic for them to treat kids like that

I really want to complain but wanted the MN population to vote on if you think they were BU or not

YANBU - cinema staff were out of order & I should complain
YABU - don't complain

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Cornettoninja · 03/07/2022 12:49

@mam0918 fwiw I agree with you though I probably wouldn’t have made it quite so personal.

Not taking drugs in a warehouse at 14 is a very low bar to set for expectations of behaviour. It’s not doing teenagers any favours to send them off into an adult world with that as their measure of acceptable behaviour .

MarshaBradyo · 03/07/2022 12:54

I hadn’t heard of this, so odd - the challenge that is

beautyisthefaceisee · 03/07/2022 12:54

No, of course it isnt.

But telling someone who clearly had a very troubled back ground that they shouldn't have kids when they have presumably turned their life around is a level of vitriol I haven't seen on MN for a while. There is no place for it.

Cornettoninja · 03/07/2022 13:13

beautyisthefaceisee · 03/07/2022 12:54

No, of course it isnt.

But telling someone who clearly had a very troubled back ground that they shouldn't have kids when they have presumably turned their life around is a level of vitriol I haven't seen on MN for a while. There is no place for it.

I mean there are people who shouldn’t be raising their kids - that’s why we have systems and laws in place to protect them. We have absolutely no way of knowing either way.

I’m not sure it’s true to say MN isn’t the place for vitriol either, I see it quite a lot about the place and in all honesty that’s just how society functions. Laws hold some sway but peer pressure and judgement and avoiding that motivates people when it comes to social conventions. 🤷‍♀️

Wellthatsjustswell · 03/07/2022 13:14

Hoolihan · 02/07/2022 23:09

It is the same thing. High spirits, the joy of being together, not really noticing people around you, being loud and inconvenient and a bit annoying, getting carried away. Like I said, teenagers gonna teenage.

The difference is they are going to purposely disrupt the film for other viewers, not just getting carried away in the heat of the moment.

beautyisthefaceisee · 03/07/2022 13:14

Cornettoninja · 03/07/2022 13:13

I mean there are people who shouldn’t be raising their kids - that’s why we have systems and laws in place to protect them. We have absolutely no way of knowing either way.

I’m not sure it’s true to say MN isn’t the place for vitriol either, I see it quite a lot about the place and in all honesty that’s just how society functions. Laws hold some sway but peer pressure and judgement and avoiding that motivates people when it comes to social conventions. 🤷‍♀️

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The PP could be someone who was wild as a teen and who is now a cracking great parent.

Other PPS could have been perfect teens but dreadful parents.

Telling people they shouldnt have kids when you dont know them is below the belt.

GrinAndVomit · 03/07/2022 13:22

beautyisthefaceisee · 03/07/2022 13:14

The PP could be someone who was wild as a teen and who is now a cracking great parent.

Other PPS could have been perfect teens but dreadful parents.

Telling people they shouldnt have kids when you dont know them is below the belt.

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Just a shout out to those who were average teens and are now average mums!

beautyisthefaceisee · 03/07/2022 13:27

GrinAndVomit · 03/07/2022 13:22

Just a shout out to those who were average teens and are now average mums!

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well yes that too lol

Cornettoninja · 03/07/2022 13:29

Telling people they shouldnt have kids when you dont know them is below the belt

ok.

From a personal perspective I don’t think I’d take it that way because I know I’m a perfectly average mother who makes mistakes but is utterly capable of raising a child with a fairly average amount of ‘fucked up-ness’. The opinion of a randomer on a forum just doesn’t mean that much to me.

However, if it touched a nerve I’d have to ask myself why which isn’t a bad thing.

beautyisthefaceisee · 03/07/2022 13:30

Cornettoninja · 03/07/2022 13:29

Telling people they shouldnt have kids when you dont know them is below the belt

ok.

From a personal perspective I don’t think I’d take it that way because I know I’m a perfectly average mother who makes mistakes but is utterly capable of raising a child with a fairly average amount of ‘fucked up-ness’. The opinion of a randomer on a forum just doesn’t mean that much to me.

However, if it touched a nerve I’d have to ask myself why which isn’t a bad thing.

Well, given I don't have kids, I'm not particularly bothered.

but I do think, not just in MN but in life, it's a particularly below the belt phrase. Just my opinion.

AlwaysLatte · 03/07/2022 13:33

Nooo, that's such a shame. Harmless fun - my 14 year old and his friends are planning to do this. Following as we were planning to go and buy a suit tomorrow.

BlueGreenRedOrange · 03/07/2022 13:37

My kids are going today and are wearing suits. Very good kids who would never cause any trouble. They've been giggling and trying on their suits this morning. Only 2 of them together. Am worried they'll get turned away now 😐
I don't understand why but I know it's harmless and along the lines of us sucking babies dummies on necklaces as teenagers!

beautyisthefaceisee · 03/07/2022 13:38

AlwaysLatte · 03/07/2022 13:33

Nooo, that's such a shame. Harmless fun - my 14 year old and his friends are planning to do this. Following as we were planning to go and buy a suit tomorrow.

Naive.

beautyisthefaceisee · 03/07/2022 13:38

I can't believe how many parents are not understanding what is going on here.

do you HONESTLY think the trend is to just wear a suit to a cinema!?

wingsandstrings · 03/07/2022 13:39

If they are causing disruption of course kick them out, but it seems ridiculous and discriminatory to kick them out because they 'might' cause trouble. The worse behaved cinema goers I've ever come across have all been adults who have brought small kids to the cinema and don't actually want to watch the film and so sit on their phones through the whole thing . . . . recently one such parent near me actually took a phone call during the film!!!!! My 14 yr old son went dressed up with a large group of friends on Friday night. They weren't disruptive at all, they just enjoyed the experience of dressing up and going out. There hasn't been any disruption in cinemas in my area that I know of. There is so much anti-teen feeling in society at large, any time teens gather people expect trouble. There is very very little for teens to do in most areas. Dressing up in their Dad's suit jackets and going to see a U rated film on a friday night seems like an option we shouldn't pour too much scorn on - is it preferable they're drinking cider in the park, or alone in their room feeling ever more lovely and depressed . . . because those are kind of the other options round here.

AlwaysLatte · 03/07/2022 13:39

Minions is a kids film. Why do loads of teenage boys suddenly want to go and see it unless it's to cause trouble?
My 14 year old has been looking forward to it for ages. And he's not planning on making any mess - he always takes all his rubbish out with him. But he did say that it was a shame that some of the kids films didn't seem open to him any more even though he likes some of them (as well as much more in depth adult ones) and I think it's a way of those in between child/adult phase still wanting to enjoy what they want to while adding a grown up spin to it. If you take a study of ANY teenagers you'll find most are respectful and it's a handful who spoil it for the rest. So a sign saying they will be thrown out if rowdy is enough.

AlwaysLatte · 03/07/2022 13:42

@beautyisthefaceisee
Not naive. My son and his friends just happen not to be some of the small minority of trouble makers.

beautyisthefaceisee · 03/07/2022 13:43

AlwaysLatte · 03/07/2022 13:42

@beautyisthefaceisee
Not naive. My son and his friends just happen not to be some of the small minority of trouble makers.

Maybe.

Have you been on tiktok?

BlueGreenRedOrange · 03/07/2022 13:44

All my kids have been to see every minion/despicable film. My eldest is 18 and still goes with his siblings.

They're funny films.

Why do people think teenagers just grow up over night?

Fucking hell I'm nearly 40 and enjoy going to see 'kids fims'

AlwaysLatte · 03/07/2022 13:47

Maybe.* Have you been on tiktok?*
Yes thanks, my son has shown me some. He's also shown me other ones where they're NOT behaving badly. Like I say, most teenagers are actually not wanting to cause trouble.

beautyisthefaceisee · 03/07/2022 13:53

The app is rotten to the core. It's not the nice happy clappy app it claims to be.

Cornettoninja · 03/07/2022 13:54

beautyisthefaceisee · 03/07/2022 13:38

I can't believe how many parents are not understanding what is going on here.

do you HONESTLY think the trend is to just wear a suit to a cinema!?

Clearly they do.

There’s trusting your teenager and then there’s being wilfully blind to the fact they can get up to all sorts when they’re not with you. Even the most sensible teenager can make the worst choices in the moment.

If they want to see the film then they can do that without a suit on, no-ones stopping them. If they wear a suit then they need to accept that they’ll be viewed with suspicion about their intentions trying to see this one particular film.

Squareflair · 03/07/2022 14:00

beautyisthefaceisee · 03/07/2022 13:53

The app is rotten to the core. It's not the nice happy clappy app it claims to be.

Yes it is, and as an extra bonus it harvests its users data to feed back to China. No thanks.

toomuchlaundry · 03/07/2022 14:18

Why would you buy a suit just so they could do a TikTok challenge?

Clymene · 03/07/2022 14:41

AlwaysLatte · 03/07/2022 13:42

@beautyisthefaceisee
Not naive. My son and his friends just happen not to be some of the small minority of trouble makers.

You were going to buy him a suit to go to the cinema? Confused

It's not 14 year olds who are doing this. It's 15 and 16 year olds - the ones who've got suits for their proms.

Anyone who thinks their teenage boy wouldn't do anything naughty when out with his mates is hopelessly naive.

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