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I want my coil out tomorrow (got it in today)

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whyisiikethis · 30/06/2022 23:25

Hi all,

MNHQ please feel free to move thread if this isn't the right place.

I had my Minera coil in today to help with my periods but I had no idea a) how much it would hurt both at the time and after, I hobbled out of the room and cried most of the evening, felt very ill afterwards etc. B), I had no idea how invasive it would feel in terms of mental health- I've been assaulted before and I've found this very triggering. I know the physical pain/bleeding will die down but I cannot stand the way it's triggering my mental health, I very nearly went in after and asked for them to remove it but they were so nice and I thought it might just be my immediate reaction; it wasn't, I've had panic attacks all evening and I can't fall asleep. Aibu to ask for it to be removed asap, even if that's next week? I've never felt this way before (this intensely) but I know that I won't come around and that it's severely affecting my mental health. I'm so tempted to try and remove it myself but I can't bring myself to do it. TIA.

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YourLittleSecret · 01/07/2022 19:24

Roselilly36 · 01/07/2022 18:55

I feel for you OP, I am on my third Mirena, insertions have been agony each time to be honest, my womb is tilted too, so I wonder if that is why? Some women find it like a smear, I genuinely found labour more pleasant.

But I have gone through it to help my very heavy periods, which it has.

You are through the worst now, give yourself a few days to settle, you are in pain and swollen, keep up with the pain killers, if you want it out, that is your choice.

Good luck, I hope the pain improves very soon for you.

Same here. Inverted uterus, very painful insertion. But my goodness it changed my life. I went from horrific periods and the threat of hysterectomy to almost nothing. I had 3 mirenas through to menopause.
The alternative was far worse.

FirewomanSam · 01/07/2022 19:38

I had mine removed at a walk-in sexual health clinic. I couldn’t be bothered arguing with them over why I wanted it removed or getting a lecture about alternative contraception, so I just said I was planning to try for a baby.

I really don’t think you should try to remove it yourself, especially when you’re feeling stressed and worked up about it. At best you might make yourself even more stressed and at worst you might do yourself an injury. Can you find a walk-in clinic that will do the removal for you?

TheSchmaus · 01/07/2022 19:49

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Grapewrath · 01/07/2022 19:49

The Mirena coil was the worst experience of my life and after 2 years of having not and every test under the sun for symptoms they said weren’t coil related, I demanded they take it out. They tried to dissuade me at every turn and even at the removal appointment she was telling me I’d regret it.
it was the best decision I ever made tbh I feel so much better without it

Eeksteek · 01/07/2022 19:56

whyisiikethis · 30/06/2022 23:33

@ThreeLittleDots thank you for understanding, the only thing is I have a tilted uterus so I'm wondering if it'll be a little more difficult than that? Appreciate you might not know but maybe someone will?

I have a tilted uterus. Having a coil fitted was THE single most painful and ghastly experience I have ever had in healthcare. And so does my cousin, and she said the same.

For context, I’ve had four cycles of IVF, ovarian drilling, tube something or other and lap and dye, a uterine scratch, a root canal and a baby (with no pain relief). I am no stranger to gynaecological rummaging. And I am NEVER having another coil all my livelong days (unless they will do it under sedation). The others I would do again in a heartbeat if need be. So there!

It’s coming out in November. I suppose I’d better think up something better…. I can’t imagine how you would get hold of it yourself. You can feel the strings, but I can’t see how you’d possibly get a grip on them. They’re only cm or so long and right up at cervix. Or mine are, anyway.

Also - YouTube videos??????? Wow!

Wobblywibblywoo · 01/07/2022 19:56

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mam0918 · 01/07/2022 19:59

They tried to force a coil on me in my teens (I didnt want it but they bullied me as I had a 'teen' pregnancy... just shy of 20 but in my county you are automatically refered to the sexual health team regardless of if you want to be) and they sliced my cervix then blamed me saying I must be getting my period (I was not they physically cut me).

I left and never went back.

Im actually infertile (yes I CAN get pregnant naturally but its rare, it took 9 years of medical treatments to have my second child) so contraception isnt high on my priority list but as my youngest was a suprise and freaked my DH out I agreed to try contraception.

I got the NUVA this time and it was so hard to get an appointment and it seemed like they wanted to talk me out of it and into an implant instead but they did agree in the end. I fit it myself so no trauma like the coil however I had a non stop 5 week period and couldnt take it so removed it.

Im so glad I didnt get the implant. Personally wouldnt go for anything I couldnt stop or remove myself or anything that need invasively placing or even anything hormonal so bar a diaphragm I dont think I have many options.

Hopefully you can get it out and recover.

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Stressybetty · 01/07/2022 20:23

Years ago but I had mine removed after a few days. Felt depressed and almost violated straight away and once it was out realised the threads had been irritating me as well. Massive relief having it out.

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ImaniMumsnet · 01/07/2022 20:29

Hi everyone,

Just to let you know we are deleting all posts encouraging OP to remove her contraception herself as this is dangerous medical advice.

User48751490 · 01/07/2022 20:57

OP I felt same way about the Implant. Hopefully you get Mirena removed shortly by a HCP.

Intransigentcat · 01/07/2022 21:17

Hi OP

I've got a tilted uterus and had 3 or 4 mirenas now.

Every insertion has been spectacularly painful.

Every removal has been.......spectacularly painful. The last one was so bad I nearly passed out and it prompted the GP to actually use some anaesthetic for the next insertion.

Please do not remove it yourself if you do have it taken out.

itsgettingweird · 01/07/2022 21:31

DiamanteDelia · 30/06/2022 23:36

Yes get it removed. Don’t try to do it yourself.

I had a similar experience to you and it didn’t get much better- it was painful for months and then I expelled it. I have since seen a gynaecologist who has said that I have adenomyosis and that can be a factor in pain from Mirena coils (also that a coil can help, if you can tolerate it, but some people can’t - tolerate here is not “can
you put up with it” but “will you expel it”.

Don’t struggle on if it doesn’t feel right.

This was my experience.

I was talked into trying it once despite my reservations and then again after I expelled it.

I had a hysterectomy earlier this week due to scans showing adenomyosis and the consultant said my uterus she removed was very bulky and heavy.

itsgettingweird · 01/07/2022 21:35

ThreeLittleDots · 01/07/2022 00:30

I bloody love having no periods

It's great isn't it! I have the same effect with the mini pill - no bleeding whatsoever, no PMT and no headaches.

But this isn't even one's experience.

Mini pill I got heavier and heavier bleeding.

Same with coil. Constant u til it got expelled in a clot so large I had to break it up to check the coil was indeed inside as suspected. I suspected because the way my uterus and cervix felt after that explosion was so different I knew it must have gone.

PMAmostofthetime · 01/07/2022 21:45

@whyisiikethis
Of course your ok to ask, they may try to persuade you otherwise but it's affecting your health more than it's going to help. Go and ask for it out and if they refuse ask for a manager explain or write down your experiences today so you can show them and help them understand why you need it out- once it's out ask for alternatives. The implant In Your arm can help with periods, the injection and the pill.

Hope your ok?

Mischance · 01/07/2022 21:50

Your body - if you want it gone, they are obliged to take it out. You do not have to give a reason.

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whyisiikethis · 01/07/2022 22:02

@ImaniMumsnet I'm sorry if my thread has caused any issues, that wasn't my intention. I also have no plans to try and remove it myself due to health risks but I will update the thread if/when a GP removes it as I think it's helpful for others considering it that this might not be an easy option. I'm extremely grateful to everyone that has replied as it's been a very tough time.

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TullyApplebottom · 01/07/2022 22:10

OP if you gave difficulties getting them to use anaesthetic for the removal there are private clinics who will do this for about £500. This what I’m going to do for my next replacement as local NHS will not use anaesthesia without referral to gynae which takes months.
NHS treats women like shit, unfortunately

thethoughtfox · 01/07/2022 22:14

Same. You will feel better after the trauma of the experience settles down. It is very likely that after a few months your periods will be calmer/ almost nothing and with little/not discomfort.

TitoMojito · 01/07/2022 22:20

@whyisiikethis I have a tilted uterus and I'm on Cerelle mini pill and it's pretty much stopped my periods completed. Have spotting every few months. Honestly changed my life. I did try to get the coil but, like you, it was very painful. I ended up not going through with it. So might be worth trying the mini pill :)

Ugzbugz · 01/07/2022 22:34

OP I have trauma to and its not nice after but not having any periods means less thinking about periods etc. I was utterly repulsed qnd had another one put in but no periods is defo better. Give it a few days x

TomAllenWife · 01/07/2022 22:37

This is why I have mine done under GA

BaggaChip · 01/07/2022 22:40

I’m just putting this here in case any future readers are thinking of self removal: don’t!

There are so many risks including shock/collapse. Not to mention that pulling on your cervix without a speculum risks creating or worsening any vaginal prolapse.

OP - I really hope you get sorted, I’m sorry it was so unpleasant for you. Having my coil put in after a traumatic birth brought it all back for me so I can understand a little of what you’re going through. Please assert yourself and let them know at your removal appointment that you may need some extra time and pain killers etc.

TullyApplebottom · 01/07/2022 22:44

It’s fucking outrageous that local anaesthesia for this is not the norm. “Discomfort”. Fucking liars

Fernticket · 01/07/2022 22:51

Fitting of Morena could, no problems (and I have a tilted uterus ). Removing it- one of the most painful experiences I have ever had!

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