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I want my coil out tomorrow (got it in today)

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whyisiikethis · 30/06/2022 23:25

Hi all,

MNHQ please feel free to move thread if this isn't the right place.

I had my Minera coil in today to help with my periods but I had no idea a) how much it would hurt both at the time and after, I hobbled out of the room and cried most of the evening, felt very ill afterwards etc. B), I had no idea how invasive it would feel in terms of mental health- I've been assaulted before and I've found this very triggering. I know the physical pain/bleeding will die down but I cannot stand the way it's triggering my mental health, I very nearly went in after and asked for them to remove it but they were so nice and I thought it might just be my immediate reaction; it wasn't, I've had panic attacks all evening and I can't fall asleep. Aibu to ask for it to be removed asap, even if that's next week? I've never felt this way before (this intensely) but I know that I won't come around and that it's severely affecting my mental health. I'm so tempted to try and remove it myself but I can't bring myself to do it. TIA.

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WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 01/07/2022 00:18

Rainbowshit · 30/06/2022 23:54

Just to go slightly against the way the thread is going here my experience was a similar feeling of shock. It is painful but it does subside. I stuck with it and it's great to not have to think about contraception or periods for a few years. I love it now.

If you do have it taken out, it is not anything like insertion. It's more like having a tampon out.

This. ^ @whyisiikethis you must give it more than ONE DAY. That's crazy to demand it's taken out tomorrow when you only got it today. I know several young women who regretted having it within one to three days of having it, but settled after a week, and now think it's amazing!

PLEASE do not try to remove it yourself!!! Several people have advised this. It is NOT recommended!!! Shock

CandyLeBonBon · 01/07/2022 00:20

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I'm not suggesting she doesn't have it removed, I'm suggesting, based on her physiology that a medical professional might be the best person to remove it for her. When mine was put it it was excruciating and there is absolutely no way I could have pulled it out without hurting myself. It's great that others have, but if she's already in pain, poking around to try and get it out may not be the best advice right now.

Obviously op is a grown adult and can make her own decision, but she asked for opinions and I'm giving mine. She is free to ignore me.

ThreeLittleDots · 01/07/2022 00:22

If someone wants their device out then they should be supported IMO. Were these young women you know also assault victims who had multiple panic attacks?

TheNestedIf · 01/07/2022 00:23

I understand.

Based on experience, the extraction may be even worse, both mentally and physically, as I found. My replacement had to be done separately from the extraction, under GA, because I found the extraction so invasive, painful and upsetting, despite a fair amount of diazepam.

My suggestion would be for you to ask your GP for something to calm you down for now, and ask if you can get it extracted under GA. You could also have it replaced with a copper in the same procedure, if you wanted to. Being asleep is a lot less traumatic, and I found it easier to forget about once the cramping stopped. Coppers can be left in for a decade, so you don't have to go through this so often.

Your body, your choice. If you just want rid of it, definitely do that.

For what it's worth, I've been thinking about another replacement myself (although being single is proving very effective at preventing pregnancy), and I'm churned up, too.

ThreeLittleDots · 01/07/2022 00:25

When mine was put it it was excruciating and there is absolutely no way I could have pulled it out without hurting myself

They should be inserted using lots of anasthetic gel and if that fails, doctors can use anaesthetic blocks. Many GPs are shit at it and don't bother checking that women have appropriate pain relief. Their removal is invariably painless, as the arms just fold up. As opposed to insertion, which can trigger uterine contractions as the arms ping out and hit the uterine walls.

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CandyLeBonBon · 01/07/2022 00:28

ThreeLittleDots · 01/07/2022 00:25

When mine was put it it was excruciating and there is absolutely no way I could have pulled it out without hurting myself

They should be inserted using lots of anasthetic gel and if that fails, doctors can use anaesthetic blocks. Many GPs are shit at it and don't bother checking that women have appropriate pain relief. Their removal is invariably painless, as the arms just fold up. As opposed to insertion, which can trigger uterine contractions as the arms ping out and hit the uterine walls.

Mine was done at a specialist clinic. Not my gp (she tried and my cervix spat it out at her!). I have a pinprick cervix, so it's a fucking nightmare, frankly. Felt like I was going into Labour for about 2 days afterwards. However, once that passed and my hormones settled down it was brilliant. Took a while though and I too wasn't sure I'd made the right decision.

I've had it in nearly 4 years now and I bloody love having no periods!

CandyLeBonBon · 01/07/2022 00:29

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Haha you haven't met my cervix!!

ThreeLittleDots · 01/07/2022 00:30

I bloody love having no periods

It's great isn't it! I have the same effect with the mini pill - no bleeding whatsoever, no PMT and no headaches.

Sarahcoggles · 01/07/2022 00:32

Don't try to remove it yourself, you could trigger cervical shock, which can be very dangerous.

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whyisiikethis · 01/07/2022 16:41

Hi all,

I didn't call today as I thought if my cervix was swollen/tender, I didn't want to aggravate it by having it removed so soon but I think I'll definitely be calling on Monday. I'm not going to try self removal, but only because I can't bear the thought of anything going near that area just now. The mental impact it's having on me is horrendous, I can't distract myself with anything, it's constantly on my mind and I'm driving myself to distraction. Did anyone else have this? Is it normal to 'feel' it inside?

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Kazziek · 01/07/2022 16:59

I had mine removed after 1 day. It was awful, I could feel it constantly and it was so painful. The relief when it came out was incredible

Newroundhere56 · 01/07/2022 17:14

Hi I can’t help with how you are feeling mentally as I was completely the opposite, I am terrified of all medical procedures so I was delighted to have managed it.

But yes I did feel it inside me for a while. Certainly the first week I felt it a lot and couldn’t ever imagine not being able to feel it. Then I could feel it if I overdid it for a few weeks. The first few periods were pretty brutal pain wise, not that I felt the coil but the cramps were sharper than before. But now I haven’t felt it for months and hardly have any period so it has been totally worth it for me. It made me feel a bit nauseous for the first week too but that has gone and never returned.

stayingpositiveifpossible · 01/07/2022 17:21

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Mumnetter111 · 01/07/2022 18:00

Wanted to get my coil removed too, but I just couldn’t face the speculum or the pain of the stretching so I just left it in there.

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whyisiikethis · 01/07/2022 18:05

Can't find the strings 😕

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Teacupsandtoast · 01/07/2022 18:17

whyisiikethis · 01/07/2022 16:41

Hi all,

I didn't call today as I thought if my cervix was swollen/tender, I didn't want to aggravate it by having it removed so soon but I think I'll definitely be calling on Monday. I'm not going to try self removal, but only because I can't bear the thought of anything going near that area just now. The mental impact it's having on me is horrendous, I can't distract myself with anything, it's constantly on my mind and I'm driving myself to distraction. Did anyone else have this? Is it normal to 'feel' it inside?

Having seen one being inserted, I absolutely do not blame you for feeling as you do - it's brutal. Good luck getting it out

DuckWithOneWing · 01/07/2022 18:19

whyisiikethis · 01/07/2022 18:05

Can't find the strings 😕

That's normal. Your cervix is swollen and the strings aren't that long, so you won't be able to feel them for a few days till everything settles down.

Electriq · 01/07/2022 18:42

I felt the same for a long time, I could feel it, felt like I was being stabbed from the inside, feared it piercing through.

I bled for fecking ages, but now, a year on, I'm so glad I stuck it out, apart from checking the string regularly, I totally forget it's there and it has helped my irregular and very heavy bleeding.

Whatever you decide to do OP, good luck and gentle hugs.

SmileyPiuPiu · 01/07/2022 18:47

whyisiikethis · 01/07/2022 16:41

Hi all,

I didn't call today as I thought if my cervix was swollen/tender, I didn't want to aggravate it by having it removed so soon but I think I'll definitely be calling on Monday. I'm not going to try self removal, but only because I can't bear the thought of anything going near that area just now. The mental impact it's having on me is horrendous, I can't distract myself with anything, it's constantly on my mind and I'm driving myself to distraction. Did anyone else have this? Is it normal to 'feel' it inside?

Your body is still adjusting to it being there. Have you taken any pain killers? Have you tried to keep yourself busy?

I really don't think you should try and remove it yourself. There might be a sexual health clinic near you that can help?

Roselilly36 · 01/07/2022 18:55

I feel for you OP, I am on my third Mirena, insertions have been agony each time to be honest, my womb is tilted too, so I wonder if that is why? Some women find it like a smear, I genuinely found labour more pleasant.

But I have gone through it to help my very heavy periods, which it has.

You are through the worst now, give yourself a few days to settle, you are in pain and swollen, keep up with the pain killers, if you want it out, that is your choice.

Good luck, I hope the pain improves very soon for you.

KRoo22 · 01/07/2022 19:18

Hi OP,
I have a tilted uterus and have the mirena. It was much more involved than I was expecting down there. I love mine, had it in for 2 years now it settled after 6-8 weeks for me bleeding wise and it has completely stopped my periods. I can not comment on the impact it is having on you now. I had mine fitted 8 weeks after giving birth and compared with the intimate nature of that I was okay. I would ask that you consider why you had it and what the alternatives are? If the alternatives aren’t great it may be worth leaving it a little longer but only you know the answer to that.

KRoo22 · 01/07/2022 19:19

Also to add I can’t feel mine at all now even when having sex.

EverydayIsPJday · 01/07/2022 19:23

Gosh OP this sounds awful, I hope you are ok and they see you quickly to remove it.

I'm currently pregnant and had 100% decided in my mind to have the coil fitted after the baby arrives (my very last baby!!) And this has made me feel very squeemish 😑 I can't believe so many women have been through such a rough time with it.