My husband and his sister have both struggled with their mental health in recent years. His sister has had loads of support from his family, they’ve looked after her little boy one night a week for over a year (they claim this is childcare but neither her nor her partner work nights) and regularly see her. They excuse any poor behaviour because of her mental health. MIL seems to have a negative comment about DH every time we see her. Whenever we go over his sister is there with her children and we often get left looking after them and our own two young children which has made my DH feel a bit resentful. My husband recently got called a chicken for not wanting to drive there and back in a day (1.5hr journey each way) with two young children by himself (high risk of at least one child screaming and crying). Yet we’ve been told to drive all the way to his sisters (about hour away) to drop something off because she can’t possible drive with two young children yet he can? When we’ve invited them over they have brought his sister and her kids too (without asking). They rarely spend any quality time with us or our children. Mother in law regularly criticises certain parts of our parenting but yet never says anything negative about her daughters. We feel like it’s always about her and her family.
my husbands tried to talk to his mum but she got defensive and also wanted his sister there when we only wanted to speak to her. I think she did apologise in the end that she made him feel that way but nothing changed.
are we being unreasonable to be upset? Me and my DH both feel like it’s effecting our relationship with his side of the family and not sure what to do