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Original poster

To report these parents?

28 replies

YesGotIt · 30/06/2022 18:13

Not sure if I'm being petty here...

On a class WhatsApp group for six year old, three parents have commented on one boys 'girlfriends', the mother in particular seems proud and says she's promised her son 'two sets of girlfriends' 🙄aibu to report to school due to safeguarding? I find it all quite inappropriate and not right for six year old.

Perhaps they find it funny...I really don't.

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springbreak22 · 30/06/2022 18:13

YABVU

MrsPartridgeKleio · 30/06/2022 18:14

Safeguarding? Really? I don't like the whole boyfriend/girlfriend thing but, seriously???

ImFuminHun · 30/06/2022 18:15

Oh for fuck sake.

MatildaTheCat · 30/06/2022 18:16

Report them? That would be absurd.

But respond with a polite message about being appropriate? Perfectly ok and I agree it’s nauseating. Perhaps point out that friendship between boys and girls is a great thing to encourage but doesn’t need to be given any sexual connotations at this, or indeed any age.

ladydimitrescu · 30/06/2022 18:16

Get a grip - report them for what? You'd risk putting them through that over nothing??
Awful.

spanieleyes · 30/06/2022 18:19

Lots of six year olds have a boyfriend or girlfriend. It's usually the child they are sat next to in class and have promised to marry when they are 10!

Lalosalamanca · 30/06/2022 18:20

Go on and report it so the safeguarding people can have a laugh (at you)!!

TeresaBlue · 30/06/2022 18:21

What is the safeguarding concern you have?

Because 'I don't like it' doesn't really count.

CrossStichQueen · 30/06/2022 18:21

What is the safeguarding issue you are reporting?

x2boys · 30/06/2022 18:22

What's the safe guarding risk?

devildeepbluesea · 30/06/2022 18:22

This is hilarious. Go on OP, give everyone a laugh.

GreenWheat · 30/06/2022 18:23

Aside from it being absurd anyway, most WhatsApp groups are run by parents and not officially sanctioned by the school. They don't have time to police the parents.

Name99 · 30/06/2022 18:23

What will you be reporting exactly?

WeAreBob · 30/06/2022 18:23

It's not a safeguarding issue.

But I'm confused. What did she mean about promising him 2 sets of gir

SmileyPiuPiu · 30/06/2022 18:24

I'd call it out in the chat for being cringy and if I had a daughter tell them to leave her out of it. It's also very heteronormative.

WeAreBob · 30/06/2022 18:24

*What did she mean about 2 sets of girlfriends? Do girlfriends come in sets?
Does she mean she has promised him like, 4 girlfriends? I dont understand!

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YesGotIt · 30/06/2022 18:24

OK iabu. That is why I asked. I have obviously over reacted. I hope the parent doesn't speak to the child genuinely encouraging this in a child 6 years. I dont know the parent.

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BrownTableMat · 30/06/2022 18:26

I know someone who’s a vicar. She regularly has primary school kids come to her church. One of the things she does with them is a ‘wedding’ in which she gets the kids to play the various roles in a church wedding so they can learn about it. Just like every vicar does. Some local woman took offence at this and wrote a series of unceasingly nutty letters to the bishop, reported it to the police, and wouldn’t stop… because apparently my acquaintance was ‘sexualising’ the children because she always asked a boy and girl to be the bride and groom. To much giggling from the rest of the 7-year-olds. The woman simply wouldn’t let it go

CrossStichQueen · 30/06/2022 18:27

OP I am interested in what safeguarding issue you believe there is?
You say you want to report it as safeguarding but what safeguarding do you think this is relating to?

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YesGotIt · 30/06/2022 18:28

WeAreBob · 30/06/2022 18:24

*What did she mean about 2 sets of girlfriends? Do girlfriends come in sets?
Does she mean she has promised him like, 4 girlfriends? I dont understand!

They were saying all the girls in class swoon for this boy 🙄 Mother is proud of this and has says has told him he can have different sets of girlfriends in class to meet their need 🙄

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devildeepbluesea · 30/06/2022 18:29

Fair play OP. It’s not many people who accept when they may be off beam.

Original poster
YesGotIt · 30/06/2022 18:29

CrossStichQueen · 30/06/2022 18:27

OP I am interested in what safeguarding issue you believe there is?
You say you want to report it as safeguarding but what safeguarding do you think this is relating to?

Teaching children inappropriate behaviour? Sexualisation of children?

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DarkCharlotte · 30/06/2022 18:29

There are no sexual connotations of having a gf/bf at that age so yabu

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YesGotIt · 30/06/2022 18:31

devildeepbluesea · 30/06/2022 18:29

Fair play OP. It’s not many people who accept when they may be off beam.

I dont always understand people 😂so better to ask that make what I now understand a stupid report.

Thank you all for saving me look stupid to school and good evening 💐

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WeAreBob · 30/06/2022 18:31

She sounds nuts. I think I would comment on the chat that she sounds nuts and shouldnt be teaching her son shit like that.

But my kids are almost finished Primary and ice made it through so far without caring about the "circle" mums who all stand in a circle at pick up having their gossip. Its always those mums who say this sort of nonsense.

Just find a few good ones and hang out with them. Dont bother with the peroxide lot.

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