To be absolutely gutted the school have received a complaint about this race?

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Sports day last week.

It was the first one since Covid, and was so well run.

Every child had to do everything but they were all awarded a house point for taking part, 2 points for a 1st place only.

My DD came last in all but one race. The race she won was her against 1 other child in her class whose in a wheelchair.

This is the race they’ve received a complaint about.

According to the parent complaining it was unfair!

It wasn’t the parent of the child in the wheelchair who complained as the parent was heard praising the HT for including him in everything.

My DDs had the win taken off her, as the complaint was upheld by the governors. Even though the boy himself wasn’t bothered (he’d won 2 races himself).

DD needed that win, she hates school, is dyslexic and dyspraxic so struggles with even the basics. She needed that win to go into school with confidence and have something to boast about (trust me she’s the type of child that needs to be able to talk about her achievements as she’s always complaining and comparing herself).

It’s a mixed class of Y1 and 2s, so the other child was at most 7. And neither of the DC involved cared, as I said the boy had already won 2 races, my DD just needed a little boost.

Why can’t people just leave alone and let the teachers make a decision that’s best for the class?

😅 you're funny. I don't get triggered by much, just condescending people and the use of the words 'you do you boo'. I'm off to the pub.

OP, WHY do you think, out of all the children there, they picked this one little boy to race against your DD? Take a wild guess!

I have to say your DD sounds a pretty unpleasant child to be bragging about being faster than a kid in a wheelchair.

You really are a piece of work.

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I have reported your posts

What am I missing? The teacher told your daughter she still had the points for the win and the taking part, but she hadn't actually won? Why did the teacher feel the need to tell her this? It's Sports Day not the Olympics, why not let the girl continue thinking she had won (which she had) or say they both cam first.

I am disabled.

This is quite frankly bizarre.
So they had a boy who can't walk not alone run in races? One where he was pushed by his mother? Is this even safe? I know with pushchairs you jeed specialist running buggies. A grown woman competing in a KS1 sports day... Another race with just 2 children and 1 couldn't run?
What an earth were the school thinking?
No, they shouldn't have taken a win away, your DD didn't cheat. They should have apologised for the poor judgment and rather than take away a little child's win. I think there should be a serious complaint here.. its all so odd and a bit unbelievable.

I think some posters are being a bit harsh, I very much doubt thr child was boasting about winning over the disabled child but more winning something. This is a KS1 child.

Does your DD do any after school clubs? Might boost her confidence. Maybe St John's Badgers where she can do badges and learn first aid?

But the whole sports day thing sounds absolutely mental. Complaints needed all round.

This has to be the most ridiculous thing I have ever read. If you are a troll, you should be writing for brass eye or other satirical show. Just accept the the race should never had happened. Never mention it again. If your daughter must never find out that the only way she could win a race is against someone in a wheelchair she would be mortified. Imagine winning a spelling competition against the new kid from Japan who can’t speak English yet?
I was crap at sports day, I can accept that I’m crap at running races, did much better in the pool. We all have our strengths and weaknesses.
It would have been a much better lesson for your daughter to learn to be ok with her weaknesses and celebrate her strengths than compete in a ridiculous, unbalanced race.

Which part of dyspraxia do you not understand?

Also the child isn't stupid. She knows she lost every single race except the one against the other child with a physical disability. She already knows she can't compete with able bodied children at physical activities designed for them.

We don't know what this race was. Maybe it included other elements that weren't just running/ pushing. Maybe it needed other skills and it just turned out that she has enough skill to feel a sense of achievement other than feeling inadequate.

A disabled child - the OP's child - should never have been set up to fail in the way she was in the first place.

Why in the name of God was your child racing against a child in a wheelchair?!
Just your child?

Maybe they decided to put the two children with disabilities together, maybe there were supposed to be other children in the race and they dropped out.

There is some really judgemental stuff on here, it seems the only child who can be accepted as having a disability is the one in a wheelchair. Not a great message for either child.

Well you are being nasty. The OP didn't say her DD was bragging. Maybe the child in the wheelchair shouldn't have the win against a child with dyspraxia but either way a mistake was made and it wasn't the child's fault.

The OP didn't say her DD was bragging.

OP: She needed that win to go into school with confidence and have something to boast about

You're not kidding.

I'm thinking of the specially convened school governors meeting to discuss stripping a child of a win in a sports day race because some batshit teacher decided to hold a two child race , with one in a wheelchair and one with dyspraxia, like in the Paralympics or something.

She said that in her OP!

I dont think you dd "needed" that win for her self confidence. Probably the opposite. Youd better of losing all races vs winning 1 race but it being against a kid in a wheelchair 😅

Your kid may be dyspraxic so that could mean she sucks at sport. Been there. Done that. I lost all races when i was young. And we didn't get any participation points when i was little haha.
But my parents told me i had other strengths. They told me resiliency and to trust what i could do over what i couldnt.

Only the OP knows what level of disability her child has.

The child with dypraxia at dd's primary school would never in a million years have won a race against a child in a wheelchair.

The school were wrong in upholding the complaint.

Everything about this is baffling!

Can I point out that athletes using wheelchairs always finish ahead of the able athletes in marathons. Personally I would complain after speaking to the boys parents to make sure that it wasn't them who complained

She didn't, she said her daughter has a disability, she's struggling, she has no confidence and this gave her something to boast about, she never said bragging. Not the same thing, two different words.

Here's a definition for you Boast usually refers to a particular ability, possession, etc., that may be one of such kind as to justify a good deal of pride: He boasts of his ability as a singer. Brag, a more colloquial term, usually suggests a more ostentatious and exaggerated boasting but less well-founded: He brags loudly of his marksmanship. From dictionary.com

Perhaps the child in the wheelchair wanted to be included in the races and not singled out because of his wheelchair

Can I point out there is a difference between a 6 year old boy and a professional arhlete in a racing wheelchair.i highly doubt that the race was not on grass if the dds mobility is so poor ?

The first comparison was against two sets of athletes, wheelchair users and able bodies.

The 2nd comparison is against 2 sets of 6 year old children, 1 wheelchair user and 1 physically disabled child.

So the comparisons are valid

To boast is to talk with excessive pride and self satisfaction. There's no putting a positive spin on it.
Do kids seriously spend the day after sports day wanging on about how many races they won, anyway? Not in my experience.