To be absolutely gutted the school have received a complaint about this race?

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Sports day last week.

It was the first one since Covid, and was so well run.

Every child had to do everything but they were all awarded a house point for taking part, 2 points for a 1st place only.

My DD came last in all but one race. The race she won was her against 1 other child in her class whose in a wheelchair.

This is the race they’ve received a complaint about.

According to the parent complaining it was unfair!

It wasn’t the parent of the child in the wheelchair who complained as the parent was heard praising the HT for including him in everything.

My DDs had the win taken off her, as the complaint was upheld by the governors. Even though the boy himself wasn’t bothered (he’d won 2 races himself).

DD needed that win, she hates school, is dyslexic and dyspraxic so struggles with even the basics. She needed that win to go into school with confidence and have something to boast about (trust me she’s the type of child that needs to be able to talk about her achievements as she’s always complaining and comparing herself).

It’s a mixed class of Y1 and 2s, so the other child was at most 7. And neither of the DC involved cared, as I said the boy had already won 2 races, my DD just needed a little boost.

Why can’t people just leave alone and let the teachers make a decision that’s best for the class?

I don't understand this.yiur dd had come last in every other race, but the wheelchair user had won one under his own propulsion.so I don't see how your dd then won him? Unless his poor arms were exhausted.
Leaving that aside, if your dc had lost e ery race and they were trying to engineer a win for her, they must have been pretty confident that he would lose.Ie using the boys disability to make your dc feel good and let her brag!!
You cant compare professional wheelchair athletes in specially designed wheelchairs, with a little boy in a standard wheelchair on grass.It was a totally sick thing to do and I would expect a 7 year old to ve able to understand that, and why the race had to be annulled

@fUNNYfACE36

you appear to be missing a few important things

the DD is also disabled
the boy and his mum were quite happy to particpate and did not complain, in fact the opposite
its not without the realms of possibilty for someone to win a ‘race’ and not win another

Missing the point but this...

She needed that win to go into school with confidence and have something to boast about (trust me she’s the type of child that needs to be able to talk about her achievements as she’s always complaining and comparing herself).

Is not good. Stop feeding into that.

Sounds like the school are turning themselves inside out. The entire idea was daft in the first place.
They were even dafter to entertain a complaint.
And utterly stupid to then tell your daughter she hadn't won after all.
Next year, just keep her off and go to the zoo for the day. Which is what I did with one of mine.

I'm sure he wouldn't. For all we know he could be a very kind and considerate little boy who knew she hadn't won anything and he had so he let her win. How horrible would it be for him to have that backfire so spectacularly with her "winning" and then "losing"

It was a totally sick thing to do and I would expect a 7 year old to ve able to understand that, and why the race had to be annulled

This is ridiculous, and I certainly wouldn’t be telling that to my 7 year old DD especially given she has a disability herself.

Op why is your dd struggling.

My dd was struggling because the school didn't have a clue on anything to help her?
Are they supporting her ,can she read?

You've assumed the races were on grass - we don't know that. On a hard surface the wheelchair would have an advantage!

Maybe he was more tired by his race with her, maybe he mis-grabbed his push rim and fluffed a push, sending him off sideways, maybe in that minute or so, she was just faster than him. They're kids, not robots, they're not going to perform exactly the same every single time!

Btw.. she beat him, she did not win him. She did not carry home a disabled kid in a wheelchair as her prize for winning.

Particularly considering the entire staff team at the school didn't think it was inappropriate. Why should a 7 year old be expected to understand it now?

You're seriously asking opinions on whether it's wrong that your daughter competed in and won a race against a kid in a WHEELCHAIR 😳

We have a child with a severe disability in school. We discussed sports day with the parents and told us they wanted no adaptations at all. We felt quite conscious as a team making no adaptations as the other parents would not be aware of the conversation and we felt like we would be judged in the same way you have just done. Please do not judge unless you know the whole picture.

Apparently it's fine because the girl has a completely different disability, and because some wheelchair users are Paralympians or something.

So people in WHEELCHAIRS (apparently we need to shout that now) are absolutely USELESS and no sort of competition whatsoever.

If no one should compete against someone in a wheelchair, what was the wheelchair user to do - sit on the sidelines and watch instead of take part?

But taking part in sports day is VITAL according to MN, if you don't you'll be a shit adult who can't cope with life.

And so what if little wheely boy comes last, someones GOT to come last, if he doesn't come last HOW will he EVER learn any resilience eh?

The OP's daughter has a disability that means she's likely to be slow, trip and fall. That actually makes a wheelchair user with normal upper body strength potentially VERY fair competition. If they've got really good upper body strength/strong arms and a well fitted wheelchair they might be a formidable opponent.

Ah but I am forgetting, wheelchair users should just fuck off and accept they're pathetic rubbish that needs to sit on the sidelines and clap along instead of taking part.

@WiddlinDiddlin wow, remember to rest up after that massive stretch

Have either of you read any of the replies from people in this thread who, oh I don't know, have actual experience of having a disabled child??? Or are you too obnoxious?

@ClaireandTed oh bless you. I have a disabled child. This is absolutely nuts!

My son loves competing against able bodied children. Are you telling me that shouldn't be allowed?

Keep your knickers on, I missed the part that OPS DD also has a disability. My other points still stand though, especially the part about teaching her child not to boast. I don't need any training on disability awareness but you could use a lesson in social skills.

@ClaireandTed you do you boo.

Why do you have to be so condescending?

You haven't even answered the question. How is it crazy when some disabled children may have no problem racing (and losing) against other kids? I'll keep asking.

Her child has dyspraxia, this is a physical condition thst effects balance, movement etc. we don’t know how severe this is, she may not be able to run without losing balance for all we know, just because someone isn’t in a wheelchair doesn’t mean they aren’t disabled

Some of the responses on this thread are bizarre. For a good few years there was a girl in a wheelchair in my sons year. She took part in sports day. She usually had someone push her. The choice was leave her out, let her join in or no sports day for everyone else. The girl used to have such fun that day. She would be well used to not being included in certain activities with all her friends such as friends having birthday parties in the trampoline park etc. The girls mother was always appreciative when her daughter could be included in things all the other kids were doing.
So I personally don’t see anything wrong with the race as long as the boy was happy to be part of it especially when the girl has dyspraxia. At same time OP you can find other ways to build confidence in your little girl.
Why is it so popular to be offended on other peoples behalf?

No, sorry OP.

I dont believe they would race one child against someone in a wheelchair or take away a win. I'm sorry.

@ClaireandTed because you're hysterical and triggered. There's nothing I could say that will make you otherwise. Peace out ✌️