To dye my three year old DD's hair pink?

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DD 3.5 and has been pleading for 'pink hair' since she saw her older half sibling (DSD) with a funky colour.

I don't see the harm in it and im thinking of doing it for her as a treat over the summer holidays when she isn't at nursery, not a permanent dye ofc but one of those wash out in 6-8 washes ones. She has brown hair so it's unlikely to stain as blonde would. It won't be too noticeable but should reflect the light in the sun nicely.

So WIBU? Would you judge?

I would use coloured hair wax. You can get brands specifically desgined for darker hair. They're more vibrant than hair chalk and last slightly longer (plus they're easier to apply than hair chalk).

Pink won't show on brown hair. Dark purple, plum and red will show and darker blues will show as a navy colour but if she's set on pink wax is the way to go.

Depending on how dark her hair is, live hair color have color drops. Add them to normal conditioner, leave for 5mins and rinse. 2-12 washes, I saw them today in pink but for blonde or light brown hair.

Hair chalk, hair mascara, spray on colour. I think YABU to expect a 3 year old to sit nicely while it is put on and you wait for it to develop, I would worry for soft furnishings. I also am not sure if a wash in wash out one would work on brown hair. The never did in mine.

I wouldn’t dye a three year old’s hair but she’s your daughter ??
You don’t have to be a ‘fun’ mum to be a good mum !

I would just say that it is not good for young hair or something and buy either a wig or some of those clip in hair extensions things in pink
clip in extensions cause tension damage, they’ll do way more harm than a bit of non-permanent dye.

I second that pink won’t be seen on brown hair without bleaching first. My DD is light to medium brown, has highlights. I did them pink with semi permanent hair colour, they became pink on bleached hair but was not noticeable on natural hair.
I suspect your DD wants bright pink the subtle result won’t do, I would go for Clare’s clips.

Bleach London and Revolution do wash out hair colours, about £6 a bottle in Boots, they are pretty decent and are mostly conditioner so are gentle on the hair, can also be mixed with more conditioner for a lighter colour.

With brown hair it's unlikely to take well, dye or chalk. & at 3 years old she'll be expecting 'barbie pink' colour.
Clip in hair extentions/braids will work much better. No harm done to the hair & can be removed easily. Can also buy a range of colours.

They are clip in, no different to a normal hair clip/clam! We aren't talking glued in or micro beads

Yes x 2

would there not be a chance you could burn her sensitive skin? hair colour hurts my scalp sometimes - agree with others chalk makes sense

@ittakes2 direct dyes such as the ones OP is talking about using are not mixed with peroxide. They are used directly from the bottle as is and have as much chemicals in as a bottle of conditioner. There is precisely 0 chance of getting a chemical burn from a direct dye.

I only advised against them because OP's daughter won't get the effect she is looking for with a pink direct dye. For darker hair to go bright you need to prelighten the hair. Coloured wax is the only thing which will give an effect close to what OP wants without prelightening.

Dye - no. Coloured waxes or chalks - yes. Common Panda is great:

commonpanda.com/products/colorwax-uk

Yes I would judge you for using chemicals on a very young child’s head rather than teaching her the word ‘No’.

I found hair chalks a bit rubbish on my DD’s very dark hair. Many of the colours didn’t show up. But- we had great results from Claire’s spray on colour! And they had glittery ones!!

I begged my mum to let me dye my hair as a child. I’m immensely grateful she didn’t let me because I’m now 28 and love my natural colour. I don’t have damaged hair or roots that need maintaining.

I would do spray on colour or hair chalk personally.

I died my dad's birthday pink at her request when she was 4. It was a bit tough and go whether it'd be blonde again in time for school, but it just about was. Her hair is still in fabulous condition and she enjoyed it, what's the harm? I'd be far more 🤔at a 4 year old with pierced ears or suchlike.

I used spray on colour from Claire’s on my DD’s dark brown hair.

I'm pretty sure most dyes will have on the packaging not to be used on anyone under 16. If something went wrong with allergies etc you would be held responsible not the company. Definitely try chalks ☺️

I'd use hair chalk, dyes etc can be really savage on the scalp and at that age I wouldn't be too keen on that personally.

I would be envious of your child's parenting! Mine were so sensible. When i see kids or wearing things they clearly put together themselves i see an aspect of human life i missed out on!

Go for it! I recommend directions, rose red is good for pink, plum is a good purple. I use them on my own bleached hair and they're vibrant but have done the kids dark brown hair and they show up welll and wash out after a few washes. Perfect for summer. A lot of pinks won't show up without bleach but rose red works great

Oh and directions is very gentle and is basically like paint for hair. Not nasty and chemically like normal hair dye

Clips or spray/chalk, at 3 she wants proper actual pink and I don’t think you’ll get that on her hair colour with actual dye

Incidentally when I was a mum of a 3 year old I wouldn’t have done it, but 52 year old me with adult children, and realises that no one actually cares,
absolutely says “what’s the harm go for it”