Neighbour tilting her cap at my DP

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We've recently moved to a new estate and I became friendly with one of my neighbours. She's a single mum to two kids and seems a lovely friendly person. For the last couple of months she has been arguing with several other mums and gotten police involved etc etc in the dispute which has caused a lot of gossip and side-taking on the estate. I've tried to support her as much as I can (as I have seen her verbally bullied) but am massively busy at work and just dont have time to spend hours over at hers. Now she seems to have shifted her focus onto my DP. So far she just seems to flirt mildly but has turned on the tears and seems to leap on him when he steps out the front door. I've just been watching them and have gone from mildly irritated to pissed off!
She's very good at getting other people to do things for her (fixing things, shopping) so I'm not sure whether I'm cross that she may be manipulating his helpful nature or if she's actually trying it on.
More of a rant than an AIBU sorry but I've just got my hackles up now!

Bloody hell

i thought estates like this only existed in “gritty” channel 4 dramas!

Tilting her cap? What?

anyway it’s nothing to do with the neighbour, or her millinery collection.

is your DH interested? If yes, you have a DH problem. If No, you have no problem.

is your DH interested? If yes, you have a DH problem. If No, you have no problem.

Perfect answer.

Your title and post all make absolutely no sense. Sounds like you all need busier jobs and lives so you spend less time around each other. All this drama I'll never understand why people have the headspace for it.

What does tipped her cap mean? I was imagining her tipping her cap like a man in an old timey movie, and could not imagine why it was a problem.

Before you know it she'll be throwing her bonnet over the windmill.

I think the OP meant setting her cap... 😄I could be wrong though

Tilting her cap!🤣🤣🤣

You mean she's a right cheeky ol' slapper OP?

What does your dh think of this attention?

"Before you know it she'll be throwing her bonnet over the windmill."

😀

Also, what does "setting her cap" mean?

I thought estates like this only existed in “gritty” channel 4 dramas!

You must live a very sheltered life or you're suffering classism disguised as naive thinking. 🤔

OP give her a wide birth, she brings it upon herself.

What does your DH say about it? Some people are naturally a bit flirty sounding when talking with the other sex, normally insecurity related but doesn't mean she's looking to jump him!

Cap as in diaphragm.
Way earthier than you thought.

I hate when pp's deliberately act like they understand what an OP means.

Neighbour is making a play for OP's other half.

It's a saying.

And I would have thought that it's obvious that the OP means that the neighbour is 'after' her DP

Me too! I was thinking it sounded lovely and respectfully old fashioned. My grandad alway tipped his cap ♥️

Yes, "setting your cap" is an old fashioned phrase for having the raging fanny gallops for someone.

Setting your cap (dictionary.com)

Pursue someone romantically, as in We all thought Anne had set her cap for Joe, but we were wrong. In the 1700s this term, which may have alluded to donning one's best headgear, was applied to members of either sex, but by the early 1800s it generally described a woman chasing a man.

I'd be putting her In my wheelie bin head first.

I read way too many historical novels in my youth, it means making a play for, back when women were only allowed to simper and flutter their fans 😁

Nooooo! Back from when caps were common headgear for women. It means to let it be known that you fancy a man. Jane Austen uses it in Sense and Sensibility.

Sorry 😁 completely used the wrong phrase there! Setting her cap though God knows what she'd be tilting at him....
DP oblivious and embarrassed when I told him how it appears to me. It's all drama here on our new little slice of development heaven but I miss most of it because I'm stuck in front of the computers all day. Best keep a closer eye!

You don't need to keep an eye on her if you trust your husband.

Why don't you piss on him, so she knows he is yours?

If your husband is daft enough to fall for it, then you have an issue with him.

My nan used to say 'carrying a torch' for someone. She asked me once, if i ''carried a torch'' for some lad up the road.

I was completely
I love old sayings!

OP it's your DH you need to talk to.