Neighbour tilting her cap at my DP

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We've recently moved to a new estate and I became friendly with one of my neighbours. She's a single mum to two kids and seems a lovely friendly person. For the last couple of months she has been arguing with several other mums and gotten police involved etc etc in the dispute which has caused a lot of gossip and side-taking on the estate. I've tried to support her as much as I can (as I have seen her verbally bullied) but am massively busy at work and just dont have time to spend hours over at hers. Now she seems to have shifted her focus onto my DP. So far she just seems to flirt mildly but has turned on the tears and seems to leap on him when he steps out the front door. I've just been watching them and have gone from mildly irritated to pissed off!
She's very good at getting other people to do things for her (fixing things, shopping) so I'm not sure whether I'm cross that she may be manipulating his helpful nature or if she's actually trying it on.
More of a rant than an AIBU sorry but I've just got my hackles up now!

My Husband is friendly, chatty and helpful to all of our neighbours: old, young, male, female.. I don't think there's an issue here, you're just feeling a little insecure. I'd leave it alone unless you have reason to mistrust your Husband.

This is so shallow, but I wanna know:
What does she look like?
I’ve always wondered how/ what way good looking you have to be so you can wrap people around your finger and just get them to do favours to you.

She sounds like trouble.
You and your dh should avoid.

But nothing to suggest he is.

Well this is my new favourite phrase. I'll be using "raging fanny gallops" liberally from now on.

@steff13

Oh your Grandad sounds amazing! I love it when i see older men do that, its so 'gentlemanly' ❤

Guess you know why she keeps falling out with women now. Probably tried it on with their partners or husband's too.

DP doesn't think she was flirting with him but she still asks for little errands from him. I think it's the blatant manipulation that pissed me off because I have stopped doing things for her the last couple of weeks so she goes for the softer target. I do feel guilty as she is nice but I feel like she is just intruding onto our lives a little too much....

Tell DH " Neighbour is really treading on my toes, she needs to back off.
Next time she seeks attention , just tell her " No, sorry. Idunno and I are taking a step back . We're both pretty busy these days. "

If she engages with you, you just deflect " Sorry, I 'm in a hurry. DH and I are really busy at the moment , we both need some breathing space. "

p'raps you need to calm down and work less, you sound edgy.

If a cap is a form of contraception, then you have a problem.

I was a bit concerned about the wide birth someone mentioned, too.

She is trouble OP.

You kindly gave her the benefit of doubt when she had trouble with others.

She could have respected the support you gave her. Now you know her game.

I was a bit concerned about the wide birth someone mentioned, too.

My spelling error berth or spell check I didn't notice.
Give a wide berth is a common phrase I'm surprised it wasn't obvious.

""give a wide berth is a phrase that dates back to the seventeenth century meaning to allow a large space between ships to enable optimum safety and maneuverability.""

She isn't nice. She is gets people running around for her, falls out with neighbours, the police are involved and you think that she is tilting at windmills sorry your DH.

Avoid like typhoid.

Random 'is' in there, sorry.

@EmeraldShamrock1 , I apologise, I was being facetious.

For the last couple of months she has been arguing with several other mums and gotten police involved etc etc in the dispute which has caused a lot of gossip and side-taking on the estate.

yes I have lived a very sheltered life if I haven’t experienced anything like this!

And I’m bloody happy about that fact! 😂