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Bloody instagram !!

78 replies

lollipoprainbow · 28/06/2022 08:21

If you have an amazing life, husband, money etc why don't you just enjoy it without feeling the need to splash it all over Instagram! Why do people do this ??

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Sparkletastic · 28/06/2022 08:22

I think it's kind of the point of it 🤷🏻‍♀️

chipsandpeas · 28/06/2022 08:23

Don’t follow people like that then

not many people are posting on social media that there life’s shite

whathobby · 28/06/2022 08:24

Who has posted what?

I like the difference between Facebook which is people that you know and their day to day life stuff and instagram where you can follow celebrities and sports personalities and get a glimpse into their life. Ok it's the sugar coated version but that's fine.

A bit like a live version of Ok magazine

No3No2No1 · 28/06/2022 08:24

That’s like saying don’t walk about children in Mumsnet

Pugfostermum · 28/06/2022 08:25

Why do people read it? Particularly if it bothers them.
comparison is the thief of joy……..

Sparklingbrook · 28/06/2022 08:25

Isn't Instagram exactly what that's for? All social media is attention seeking of sorts (even Mumsnet).

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lollipoprainbow · 28/06/2022 08:26

Just an aquaitance, she has it all and is incredibly boastful about it. I know I know I should stop looking!!

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luxxlisbon · 28/06/2022 08:28

So only people with shit lives are allowed to post on Instagram?
If seeing her life bothers you so much cg just unfollow and don’t look.

Goodbyecustardtart · 28/06/2022 08:28

I’ve never seen anything like that. My feed is mostly dogs, food, cocktails and travel. I love it!

MojoMoon · 28/06/2022 08:31

Just mute or unfollow her.

She is an acquaintance - you are not obligated to follow her.

If you don't like seeing her posts, stop having them in your feed.

It's quite simple. You are in control of this.

And perhaps her life isn't as perfect as you imagine but she probably isn t posting that online.

littlepeas · 28/06/2022 08:34

I've got rid of instagram (despite there being an expectation of being on there for work purposes - I am still dealing with shocked responses from work people). I am so glad that I did - it was a bit strange to start with, but I don't miss it at all.

TinySaltLick · 28/06/2022 08:34

The only way to deal with this is to immediately block or unfollow anyone who makes you feel like this. Just be bold about it - quite quickly you get a feed which only shows you things you are interested in.

Take control of your social media or it will control you

Woollenfox · 28/06/2022 08:38

I started Instagram when on maternity leave. I had awful PND and posting photos of where I’d been was the perfect mindfulness I needed for a visual reminder of how lucky I was.

I sometimes spiral into depression and feelings of isolation (even when surrounded by people) and my Instagram gives me the nudge to smile.

i have a private account so only my friends follow me.

i did see a thing last week where it was Instagram vs Reality and people were posing next to huge fancy meals in the restaurant and then leaving and not eating it. So wasteful. This spurred me into buying AND eating AND enjoying my sour dough 🤣

Woollenfox · 28/06/2022 08:43

You can mute people.

but honestly, she’s either smug OR she’s lacking real self esteem and her life is fake.

I have muted someone who constantly posts photos of her grey new build. It’s drab and samey. I work with her so I didn’t want to unfollow so she’s just on mute and I no longer have photos of fake wall panelling painted in grey, grey carpets, grey bed, grey sofa, and her ridiculous cleaning routine (then she comes into work and boasts about being lazy and leaving dog poo on the patio because her laziness is “hilarious”)

another one was that she went out to eat at a nice restaurant and posted it. But actually she had food poisoning and spent the weekend on the loo. She didn’t post that 😂

LindaEllen · 28/06/2022 08:47

My Instagram is like my personal diary, and I love the way my page looks with all the posts there to see right away. I have poor mental health at times, and looking at my Insta (which, like everyone else's, is very much life's 'highlights' reel) reminds me of the good times.

I don't follow many people, and it's up to others if they want to follow me.. but I like social media, for my own benefit.

Georgeskitchen · 28/06/2022 08:53

Its all a cleverly constructed facade. I guarantee they all fart and pick their nose just like the rest of us 🤣

CourtneeLuv · 28/06/2022 08:56

I post on there as a photo album, to look back and remember things. It's no one else's business but mine Confused

People can follow me or not, idc, but the people I know aren't miserable and bitter like people on here.

RainCoffeeBook · 28/06/2022 08:59

You do know you can just not open the app?

Don't follow the lifestyle people if you don't like it. I think people who seek out things and then yell about them are weirder than people sharing pics of their family on a photo app.

ZoeQ90 · 28/06/2022 09:00

lollipoprainbow · 28/06/2022 08:26

Just an aquaitance, she has it all and is incredibly boastful about it. I know I know I should stop looking!!

maybe she doesn't have it all. i've known a few times I've been jealous of people living the best life and relationship goals on insta, only for them to suddenly reveal that actually it was all front and they're leaving their partner/job etc. Sometimes people overhype the good when things are rocky.

1000Pieces · 28/06/2022 09:01

Yep, I also use it as a kind of personal photo album of happy/interesting memories. It's on private and I only have 70+ followers (all people I know personally).

I enjoy the feeds I follow - mostly travel, food and drinks, restaurants and clubs I've been to or want to go to, some friends/family/people I've worked with/gym friends.

Unlike most other social media, I usually find it cheers me up.

Topgub · 28/06/2022 09:02

I highly doubt anyone's life is perfect.

But the very easy solution is to not follow them

Mally100 · 28/06/2022 09:05

lollipoprainbow · 28/06/2022 08:21

If you have an amazing life, husband, money etc why don't you just enjoy it without feeling the need to splash it all over Instagram! Why do people do this ??

Why does it bother you? That is the question that you should be asking. I think usually a reaction like yours comes from a place of insecurity or projection from yourself.

GrowBabyGrow · 28/06/2022 09:14

It probably isn't that perfect. People who post a curated version of their life on social media are usually doing it to try and project a particular image to the world and probably are very insecure. It's not the reality, it's what they want people to think. YABU believing that what you see on social media is real life.

TheRealHousewife · 28/06/2022 09:31

I love insta. I don’t post much myself but follow people that share the same interests. For example; gardening, cooking & dogs 😬 I actually don’t follow anyone I know in rl 🤷‍♀️

Scienceteacher1986 · 28/06/2022 09:43

Maybe you need a social media break OP. My friends show off their lovely lives on there and I couldn't be happier for them. I think if I had a negative thought about something someone posted I'd just unfollow them, I wouldn't mute them, I think thats 2 faced.

maybe have a break from it and get out and enjoy yourself a bit more