To leave the cat "locked" out

[Arashi]

I know I know that's broadly it's unacceptable to treat our Lord and Masters that way but here me out first

Said cat is being a fuckwit. He has a cat flap which he is perfectly capable of using but for the last 2 weeks he is obsessed with coming in the upstairs window. He always does this around 4.30AM. I know my place so I usually let him but but 30 mins later he's screaming to go back out!!

So this morning I didn't let him in .... and he's now giving me the silent treatment and in fact is walking out of every room I go in

I've tried to reason with him and explain that's its just an unacceptable time but he's not interested. DS thinks it's just a phase and I should accommodate it and it'll pass but I don't know.

So AIBU to leave him locked out and should I just accept waking up at 4.30 until he gets bored?

My cat comes through my bedroom window at night but has to be security checked first as she likes to bring me dead mice

This thread is hilarious 🤣 I've never been a cat person, always thought they were arseholes... opinion validated 👌 lol

YABU. Cats are royalty, and deserve to be treated as such. When your cat demands your attention, as a mere peasant, it is your duty to respond accordingly.

So pleased it isn’t just mine who wrecks window seals whilst staring into my eyes

You’re being totally unreasonable not to be at your cat’s beck and call 24/7!

My cat periodically ‘forgets’ how to use his cat flap and will sit fruitlessly and repeatedly batting at it with his paw, until the noise gets so annoying that we open the door for him!

I've always put mine outside when I go out and when I go to bed. I don't have a cat flap, never have.
They just sit on the doorstep waiting to be let in on a morning, usually bearing gifts such as a headless bird or a mouse.
To this day, I still don't know what they do with the heads!

Cat slave here- all firmly out and night and no 4.30 am is not acceptable....

You're automatically unreasonable regardless the situation when it comes to your cat 😁

My cat is the same. It's like using the cat flap is an insult to her or something. She started off demanding the window open instead and now she won't go through the window any more and demands we open the door.

If she could speak she'd be saying if you love the cat flap so much, you use it!

If you put your cat out at night is that all year round aren't they freezing in winter? Mine go out in the day if they choose but both rounded up and in at night I would worry where they were otherwise.

Her cat has a cat flap.

Our neighbours’ cats are used to a cat flap but we don’t have one. Very amusing to see one of them batting away at the French window trying to access a non- existing flap. Btw he’s left pawed.
ps not stealing - neighbours happy that they visit us.

Formal apology and perhaps remove the window entirely so he doesn’t have to wait for you to open it at 430?

I have a very dignified cat who won't even push internal doors open. So what you're saying is if I got a cat flap I potentially wouldn't lose 50% of my cat butler duties? Well there goes that plan.

I can't leave the window open because Dickdog goes out of if it and takes herself for a stroll

Just for clarity she's not jumping out of a first floor window. It's hard to visualise but the yard at the back is covered and the height of the roof of that is just below the window. That roof then butts up to a shed which is lower and allows the dog to jump off the roof to the shed to a gritter box (not mine) and to freedom which she does. She then can't get back in and also creates.

Dickdog is similar size to the cat so if one can come in the other can get out.

The plan is to move the shed really but it's not mattered until the Cat decided he needed to come in that window

Uggg I feel your pain. My cat can shout like no other. So so loud and persistent. He knows I'm working from home. He doesn't want to jump the back gate. He shouts for ages and ages for me to go and open it for him. He's also going through a killing spree - every night live mice or birds in the bedroom. I'm tired of rescuing his pray in the early hours.

@Toomanybooks22 They always find shelter somewhere.
They have sat looking like a couple of snowcats on the doorstep when it's snowed though.
Complete with headless gifts.

Same here. Mine are out in the daytime but they're in at night.

Maybe it's just me but there's no way could I leave my cats out over night if it was anywhere near that cold

I couldn't rest if mine were out overnight at all.

Same both mine are in every night.

And this is why I don’t have cats im passed the baby/young child waking stage no way in hell would I be doing it for a Cat!

next doors cat visits us when the back doors open in warm weather that’s my limit on cat interactions

One of mine is being like this at the moment. Our cat flap is locked overnight normally as I prefer them all in. However one madam refused to come in, so the cat flap is open into the kitchen, but that room is shut off from the rest of the house to stop them all going out. So now she'll come in, wowl loudly to be back out even though she has food, water, a litter tray and bed, then goes back out when OH can stand the working no more, runs to get on the conservatory roof, then wowls to be in the bedroom window.
The aforementioned cat has also trained neighbours to ring me in the middle of torrential thunderstorms to retrieve her because she miaows at them from under their patio furniture. 😣

@WalkerWalking 👏👏👏

We don't have a cat flap, I had considered having one installed then read MN accounts of "Cat brought live pigeon in at 2 am and released it in our bedroom" or "Cat tenderly placed dead mouse in my slipper" and I thought Hell no!

So instead she has to wait to come in or ask to go out through the doors like a regular household member. (After the Deceased Woodpigeon & The Gizzard Full of Round Berries incident, protocol changed to doors remain shut or cracked open not allowing cat ingress. The memory of sweeping up all the berries with dustpan and brush and DH getting the hose out is still too much 😱)

She's in all night but wakes up at 4:00 to share the joy of the brand new day and join in with the birds' chorus, so I feel your pain in that respect. If you don't fuss her she pats your face until you respond. If you're lucky, with no claws peeking out...

LTB