Does this sound like he is using me

[Sukicat1]

Hi

I have a feeling I am being used but I just wanted some opinions.

I asked him if we could see each other next weekend. His response was ‘I think so and maybe even a quick visit tonight before bed’ does this sound like he is using me?

A quick visit before bed? I take it he means quick shag and then I go home.. Yes, he is using you.

Based on all the information you have given (which isn’t much) I’d say yes.

I assume there is no actual relationship happening or you would have said??

Just delete and block. No need to explain yourself. You won’t find someone who does make you happy if you waste time on this man

Need more info

Are you in a relationship with this person?

Do you go on dates? Do you do stuff that helps build a proper relationship? Why such a long time before meeting up?

Insufficient information

Bin, block move on

If you feel like you might be being used, then it means that you’re not getting what you need from this relationship. Cut your losses and find someone who doesn’t make you feel doubt.

I don't know why everyone's getting that he's using you from this.
I don't think him saying he might be free for a quick visit suggests he wants sex and I don't think him saying 'I think so' about next weekend is dodgy - he probably just needs to double check he doesn't have other plans.

A quick visit - sex or a no and coffee - sex yea he’s only wants you for send, coffee and a hello he wants more than just sex

Sounds like he would like to see you next week & has some free time this evening & would like to see you?.

I've been in a very long term (7 years) 'relationship' with someone like this, the only time he makes for me is late at night once a week or so. But he's very busy and works 24/7 this time of year. So it depends if he's just busy with work or doesn't know what his plans are yet, which in that case is fair enough

I feel he is using me because he said maybe about tonight. He’s left my message on read and not even let me know if he wants to see me or not. I just feel like I’m not even worth that to him. He just leaves me hanging by a string.

I have sat here all day wondering wether or not I’m going to see him because he said that this morning and he hasn’t let me know.

we are not in a relationship but are seeing each other. I just feel like I’m not a priority and feel like a door mat

You knew the answer before you even asked it.

Dump and run.

I understand it was ‘maybe a quick visit’ tonight but he hasn’t even text me since this morning. I feel like I’m a joke to him

Just stop contacting him. I think you deserve a lot better.

Definitely stringing you along.

You're an option. He won't change.

Get rid.

Thank you. I’m sat here thinking he must have had a better option so decided against seeing me but didn’t think It was worth it to tell me.

He is making me feel really bad about myself

Please don't. This is all on him.

You're worth more than being someone's option. Please know that.

Block him or mute him or whatever. Take control.

Why are you acting as if you have no agency? Why can’t you tell him this is not on?

I get ready and sit around waiting yet he couldn’t care less about me. I want to think of something to say to end things before I get really hurt but I am not sure what to say to him.

She is asking if what she thinks is happening is happening.

Say nothing.

Block him or do the same back to him.

Wait until you become and option again. Read his message, then don't reply. Ever.

For me this one is not about whether he's using you. It's that he's treating his time as important and yours as unimportant. He's basically saying that you can wait around to see if you are his best option. Fuck that noise.

Sometimes it's fun to have spontaneous sex without relationship (AKA 'using'). It's never fun to be low on someone's list while they are top of yours.