Does this sound like he is using me

[Sukicat1]

Hi

I have a feeling I am being used but I just wanted some opinions.

I asked him if we could see each other next weekend. His response was ‘I think so and maybe even a quick visit tonight before bed’ does this sound like he is using me?

Yes, he is using you for sex (a visit before bed ) and keeping you dangling by leaving you on read. He does not care about you at all. Sorry. Block and move on x

Don't say anyone. Block him and never have anything to do with him again.

*anything not anyone

Why don’t you take control then and stop hanging around waiting for crumbs? If he says maybe tonight, say not tonight sorry, maybe at the weekend, stop waiting around for his attention, it lacks dignity and he won’t respect you for it.

Either he’s using you, or he thinks your thing is a very casual, sex-only, “just message when we’re free” type thing.

either way it’s clearly not working for you.

It’s definitely possible, but I think it depends on your relationship so far and the boundaries you’ve set.
If you have been crystal clear that you want a relationship and not just sex, then he could be, but if you’ve gone along with the casual approach, and not told him what you want yet, I wouldn’t say it’s using.

"He is making me feel really bad about myself"

No, you are allowing yourself to feel bad about yourself. Sounds very door matty behaviour. Get busy, do your own thing, stop hanging around and tell him to sling his hook when he finallynotices your absence and texts / turns up.

Life is too short and if you feel the need to post on here, then you know he's not worth it

I hope you have ignored him tonight. Yes, he is using you and he'll be doing that to a lot of different women as well, not just you. Don't take it personally, he's just an absolute bastard. There is a better man out there for you, don't worry, you just have to have really strong boundaries.

It sounds like you sit around waiting for him and he picks and chooses when you see each other. Make arrangements to go out with friends. Don't be available all day, every day for when it suits him.

Thank you all. I woke up to a message he sent me in the early hours saying that he had fallen asleep on the sofa. I know he had no intention of seeing me as he left me on read all day so it wasn’t just because he fell asleep.

He has done this before and it’s always a new excuse. Excuses he probably gives to other women when he is with me. I know I need to walk away and not allow myself to be treated like this

Yes you do need to walk away. He's treating you like shit. He doesn't care about you and can't even give you the most basic level of regard.

Block him and move on. No explanation, no asking to talk. Just block him.

Just tell him things are not working for you, farewell & all the best. Then delete.

When I was first seeing DP we'd take any and every chance to grab an hour for a shag - I had to go home for my pets afterwards.

That alone isn't much to go on.

we are not in a relationship but are seeing each other

Well, there's your answer. You clearly want to be in a relationship, he doesn't. Get rid of him, he's a dickhead and you could do much better.