To miss my old house I was bullied out of

[Thepeasantonland]

NC as I don’t want to get even more abuse for possibly identifying this person and myself.

A year ago I had to pack up and leave my house that I loved and spent years making a home for my children and I because we were being bullied by neighbours.

One of the bullies was one of these ‘insta famous’ people. Her and a few others subjected us to abuse daily, harassment, criminal damage and generally just made our lives hell. My partner left me in the midst of it and I had no one to turn to for help. I had no choice but to protect my children and move to a safe house but it’s one I hate and feel unhappy here.

I’m constantly bitter about the fact we were pushed from our home for no good reason at all. No body in authority would help me and I was ignored by everyone including the police, council and doctors. My only option was to escape.

I noticed today a page pop up about the insta woman and saw how everyone thinks the sun shines out her bum, the comments were cult like with everyone worshipping her. I don’t know what I was thinking but I commented about her being a bully behind closed doors and other personal (identifying) details I won’t mention, just to shame her publicly. I was called all sorts of names and accused of lying.

I know I should of ignored and moved on but I still feel like this ring leader is affecting me to date while she gets the privilege of non stop money rolling in and living in her home she’s not pushed out of. All while these so called fans are protecting her and claiming she wouldn’t do those things. One of them told me she hopes my child dies for the lies I told. It’s brought back all the feelings of last year and I feel so deflated. I just want my old house back and the life we loved before she ruined it and took it away and even now she’s smugly ‘winning’ while her little lost puppies sing her praises.

AIBU to wish these cult followers would understand it’s just an act and behind closed doors some of them are abusers, bullies, thieves and so on. Other local people know what I posted is true but many are too scared to speak up.

I have found the website and yes she has one. I’m not sure anyone on there will believe me or what I would gain from posting as it will identify me to her and give her ammunition to start on me again, but it’s time people realised before the ‘fame’ this woman was vile and probably still is.

I second the pp who said if you have any evidence go to tabloids

people like this have a very precarious claim to fame
it’s easily brought right back down by the methods that had built them up

Nononoo

This is harrassment/slander.

Please report it to 101. Keep reporting it.

See if you have an anti social behaviour unit in your area.

Send a solicitors letter if needed.

As someone said - you may find it will stop the behaviour.

I think I’d sell the story to The Sun or somewhere. You’ll get some cash and it’s the sort of thing they’d love!

Exactly what I would do.

The police should be involved again. If the police refuse to act then the local Police and Crime Commissioner.

If it is in the tabloids then let them know the police have been involved, and suggest they don't give the person coverage as a police investigation is taking place.

I'd like to know who the person is, but I'd be even happier if they had to face justice.

Honestly, I’d just move on from it. I know it’s hard, but with time it gets easier and you will forget all about her or at least rarely think about her anymore.

Just focus on your life and how you can make things better.

I have had this with a neighbour OP. You are right with what you say in my experience there is little to no help out there.
So far i have stood firm and not moved but still being bullied. These people lie and lie and unfortunately others believe them and we are made out to be the ones in the wrong for telling the truth.
I am sorry that you had to move is there anyway you could get therapy to deal with what you have been through?
Could you look into maybe moving again to another home you do want to stay in?
At the end of the day you say you had to move for your childrens safety so you ultimately did the right thing.
Always remember that karma will catch up with them at some point.
Also you will tend to find you will not be the only person that they will have bullied.
i wish you well for the future as you will have a good one without them being in your life.

Why can you not name her on here?

I am sorry you have gone through this @Thepeasantonland.
Just be careful that you don't slander or libel her and it goes to court.

If it cheers you just remember her followers must he pretty stupid. This Insta stuff is just so empty and vacuous. All this boasting posting on Social Media 🙄🙄

One of quite a few good line I learned on Mumsnet is that "Comparison is the thief of joy"
It's true. Try, try try and forget about the unfairness of it all.
It's also true that you won't be her only victim.
Also remember Harvey Weinstein, untouchable King of Hollywood.
Where is he now !

Am I likely to get in trouble for outing her publicly with no proof? It’s hard to prove someone bullied you and intimidated you for years. Obviously there are reports to the police and council but I’m assuming it’s confidential information to put out there. I’m still being ‘attacked’ for my comment on Facebook and not a single person believes me. Even she has responded that she’s never met me and I’m a sad troll trying to ruin her as I’m jealous and want to be an influencer. It makes me so angry my life changed because of her and she is still getting away with it. Telling people doesn’t seem to do a thing and I’ll just humiliate myself if I sell the story to the papers. I should of moved on by now but I’m longing for my old house and that’s what keeps it fresh in my mind.

Any newspaper would check the facts before printing and (in theory) only print what was true and provable.

Which complaints to the council would be

Did you have to sell a house? Or was it a rental?

It was council, I gave it up and now private rent. She’s still in her council house while reeling in thousands a week. She’s the type to call the police on me so I’m not sure if commenting at all is illegal as without proof it’s seen as an accusation? I know I’m not lying but it’s proving it to these ‘followers’ who see her as a god.

How does she even know where you have moved to? How could she call the police or do anything to cause trouble in your life?

Going to the newspapers is just going to fan it all up again and get you stressed. I wouldn’t bother. Try and concentrate on making your new house better, or moving again if need be. Don’t let her and her cronies take up room in your head. People that follow influencers aren’t likely to be the brightest types, don’t worry what they think..

I’m still local so I see her occasionally so it would be easy for her to get my new address if she hasn’t already, plus she knows my children’s school

"Am I likely to get in trouble for outing her publicly with no proof?"

Potentially you could ( but I'm not a lawyer ) so be careful.
The last thing you need is a court case and the costs involved.

Please don’t pay attention to the people encouraging you to go to the tabloids. All you will do is up the ante, draw more fire towards you, and make her and her followers think she was justified in the first place. It would give her the opportunity to reframe it as her bullying you. You’re out of there now. Don’t give her any more headspace.

Even she has responded that she’s never met me and I’m a sad troll trying to ruin her as I’m jealous and want to be an influencer.

You'll have letters to your old address that proved you lived nextdoor, so that's easy to prove.

As YOU bullying HER, I mean.

Did you never record her?

Keep the evidence of her saying she has never met you as you can easily prove that you have by proof of your previous address and staying next door.
You can do a subject access report to the police and they have to provide you with the reports that you made about her.
Did the police ever go and speak with her?
Did you make reports to the council?
If yes i would make a subject access report to council as well asking for this.
If she did try and take it further then you would have this as proof that you did have dealings with her and had made reports about her.
At the end of the day she will ultimately know what you have said is true.

On the public comments, say some things about her that only YOU or those who live near her, would know. Did you ever report her to the police? Share the Incident number.

@Thepeasantonland

i really feel for you. Being bullied & not believed must be horrendous & it's horrible watching someone 'get away' with it and being idolised.

However, do NOT go to the tabloids, your life will become an absolute living hell.

i would consider contacting the council about her eligibility for social housing though!!

I presume your old house has new people in it now & I wouldn't feel safe there even if I could move back in!

I think for your own good & that if your DC, you need to step away from SM & concentrate on moving OR making your new place 'home'. I think I would try to move as far away as possible!!

best wishes
🌸

Your comments will sow a seed of doubt in her obsessive friends minds.

I don't blame you feeling bitter, adult bullying is awful and too common.

You have to let it go and put them behind you.

She'll show her true nature to others eventually.