AIBU to be upset my partner wants to spend his birthday with parents without me?

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My partner has said he wants to spend his birthday without me and with his parents and that it is a close family thing, therefore he won't invite me. But I am pregnant with his child (he still hasn't told his parents) and we are in a serious relationship so how do I not qualify as family? Am I being petty for being upset he won't invite me to his birthday celebration under the pretense of spending it with 'family' when I'm literally his unborn child's mother?

If you're 15 years old then YABU. Otherwise YANBU and stop being a doormat, he needs to grow up.

If he hasn't told his parents about your pregnancy and hasn't invited you, do his parents know about you? Because it does sound a little like you are his little secret. How long have you been together?

I think you might be the OW

He doesn't consider you an important person in his life, that is very clear.
You must know this isn't normal?

What part of this arrangement is a “partnership” if he doesn’t even consider the mother of his child to be close family?

Have you actually met his parents?

They don't even know about you /the baby do they?

I'm sorry OP BH but when someone tells you what is happening, listen.

You aren't his family according to him.

How far along are you? I'd be making it clear that no family introductions, no relationship

You aren't in a serious relationship.

Do his parents know about you/have you met them?
To me seems HE isn't in a serious relationship...
Sorry to ask but could he be spending it with another woman and his parents?

I think that he is a cowardly arse who may or may not already have family.

The way he worded it? Close family only? Shameful.

Wow. Oh well at least you don't have to give him anything for his birthday as you're not close family.

How old is he? This attitude, plus him not telling his parents about you and the baby is very immature..

Listen to what he is telling you.
I also think he may be seeing someone else.

In his mind you aren’t in a serious relationship he can’t be much clearer about this. You are just a dirty secret he doesn’t want folks to know about. :(

he’s an arsehole. Tell him he’s welcome to spend it and every one going forward with his parents. Block him. Move on.

If he hasn’t even told his parents that you’re pregnant with their grandkid, why on earth would you be surprised that he isn’t taking you to a birthday meal with them?

You must have realised, surely, that he isn’t taking your relationship seriously. He’s keeping it secret from his family because he has no intention of you knowing them. Wake up.

Very odd behaviour on his part, OP. Hope you are ok.