AIBU to be upset my partner wants to spend his birthday with parents without me?

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My partner has said he wants to spend his birthday without me and with his parents and that it is a close family thing, therefore he won't invite me. But I am pregnant with his child (he still hasn't told his parents) and we are in a serious relationship so how do I not qualify as family? Am I being petty for being upset he won't invite me to his birthday celebration under the pretense of spending it with 'family' when I'm literally his unborn child's mother?

How long have you been together? Have you met his parents? Why hasn’t he told them he’s about to become a father?

Why are you with him? He is literally telling you how he feels about you and the baby

You're not in a serious relationship if, pregnant with his child, you aren't considered 'close family'.

It tells you everything you need to know about him and the relationship.
Why hasn't he told his family that you are pregnant? How pregnant are you?
Anyway, sorry to be blunt but it looks like currently he does not see you as his partner or as part of his family. If the pregnancy news is very new, that may change, but at the moment he still views himself as single.

Have you ever met them? Have they visited your home? (Assume you live together.)

Very odd. He is obviously hiding you/the pregnancy but why?

I think it's strange you're not invited OP. Doesn't seem right

That is very strange.

You are the mother of his child, how much more like family can you get?

Why hasn't he told his parents that you are pregnant? Have you actually met them before?

I think he has just told you that you are NOT in a serious relationship with him. I would worry and make plans for a separate future, how financially secure are you and how pregnant

How long have you been together

Wow, this is very very odd, and I wouldn't accept it. Why do his parents not know? Could he be in another relationship/married to someone else? Of course if you're together and your pregnant with his baby, then you're close family and should be at his birthday celebrations.

You are not in a serious relationship, I’m afraid.
You are a shag he has impregnated, and that’s it in his eyes.

Definitely not a serious relationship on his part OP

He hasn't told his parents.....

How far along are you?

Spending his birthday with his parents - his choice (and presumably you will see him at some point in the day?)

not telling them that you are pregnant - not fine (unless you've mutually decided not to tell anyone which it doesn't sound like is the case).

How long have you been together and how pregnant are you?

Also, are you very sure he's not in a relationship with anyone else?

Sorry OP but he's making his feelings pretty clear. In your situation I would honestly not be continuing a pregnancy unless I wanted a baby enough to have no father involved.

You're not invited because he doesn't want to tell them about the baby.

As he's not told his parents, you're not in a serious relationship. 🚩
He's not invited you because he doesn't want his parents to know about your pregnancy. Even if you're not showing, I assume you'd decline alcohol which would give the game away.

Do they even know that he has a girlfriend?

I hate to be the one who breaks this to you but you are not in a serious relationship

I am pregnant with his child (he still hasn't told his parents) and we are in a serious relationship so how do I not qualify as family?

Ask HIM this, not MumsNet !!

If you already did ask him, what did he say?

Of course, you aren't unreasonable for asking him, if that's the question. He MAY have some reason that makes sense in his mind - he wants to use the event to tell them about you, for example, and fears they'll initially act badly and you'll feel unwelcome - but he should TELL you that.

YANBU - but I have a feeling he doesn't think you are in a serious relationship.

Why would he not tell his parents you are pregnant? How long have you been together?

What they all said… it’s not serious to him if he won’t tell them about the baby. I assume you haven’t been together long, you’re not far along, he’s not seeing this lasting the distance.

he isnt in a serious relationship

So sorry, OP, but I agree with all the previous posters.

I hope you are ok

Could he be married?

This doesn't sound good at all for you, sorry