To ask for a lay in?

[Teachermum02]

I am a teacher, so I get up every morning at 5.30 get ready get my stuff ready. Get the kids up get them dressed, get them breakfast. All whilst the hubby lays in bed and gets up just as they have finished eating and I'm doing my girls hair. I then head off to school at 7.30 so I can get all my prep bits done before form time starts. He works from home and is in the house himself Monday Thursday Thursday and half Friday. I don't get home till around half 4 and that's if ind9nt have a meeting which is usually then half 5
I don't start any teacher paper work till kids have gone to bed 8/9 pm. And some nights don't go to bed till midnight. (New teacher)
So am I being unreasonable to ask for a lie in on a Saturday? Just an extra hour or so. Sundays I wake up with my little boy usually around 6 and hubby doesn't get up till 7.45 half hour before going to church.

My husband says it's not fair and I always do this but really am I being unreasonable ?

Why's he think it's unfair? He can have a lie in tomorrow. YANBU.

Why doesn't your lazy arse husband help with the children on weekday mornings?

Why is it not fair? Sounds extremely fair to me, in fact still sounds unfair to you as you get up so much earlier every weekday?

Yabu for tolerating this. Why isn't the lazy lump getting up on weekdays to share all the work before work. And then you are asking if this is ok?

You don't ask for a lie in, you switch off your alarm and continue sleeping.

Even better book a cheap hotel on a Friday night and leave the lazy bastard to it.

YANBU generally but are for saying "lay in" !

Why can't your DH help out on weekday mornings too?

Not only are you not being unreasonable but actually you should split the weekdays too. You should do half the time and he the other half - alternating days is good as then you never get too shattered as you get a lie in every other day. They're his kids too and his responsibility so he should get everything ready for them half the time. You can have a lie in on a Saturday and him on a Sunday - whichever the alternating ends up falling on. I wouldn't stand for this.

Thank you. Think we will be having a serious sit down this evening. ♡♡

And hubby.

@LoveLarry - indeed!

This was my first thought too. 🙈

YANBU.

Yet another thread where the husband thinks he's still living in 1953.

OP, I am also a teacher and if your job is anything like mine, you are lucky if you sit down the entire day either.

Please, sit down and have that chat. You are supposed to be a team, and they are his children too. No wonder you are exhausted.

I hope the outcome is good for you, and if anything, I also hope other posters reading this see how much resentment these situations can bring and how important it is to have conversations about parenting expectations before you have children.

You’re definitely not being unreasonable. What a selfish and inconsiderate man.

Yabu - it's a lie in. What the fuck is a 'lay in'?

What a lazy, selfish waster you are with.

You have my sympathy.

He goes to church does he🙄

Pity he can't find a bit of consideration for his wife.

Your husband is massively unreasonable.

I also feel sorry for the kids having to get up & ready so early. Can't you get up & go out 7.30 & then kids get up at 7.30 to go to school?

YANBU.

Well. "the hubby lays in bed"

She's married to a hen

Well clearly your husband is a grade A twat, but yabu to use lay in when the correct term is lie in.

You have much bigger problems than a lie in on a Saturday. Why isn't he doing his share of getting the kids up and ready? Either you should be getting up later and he gets up earlier and together you sort things. or you take turns to get up in time to get yourselves AND the kids sorted.

Wanker.

Let us know what his excuses are and what he says!!

I would personally be tempted to just go to work and leave the kids at home without having got them ready. Give him a real shock.

Another person that does not "recognise" the term "lay in". If you mean a lie in or a long lie, try the phrase "an hour before 11 is worth 2 after 7".
Admittedly I am a morning person and tend to wake up at about 05:45 at the moment. If I do happen to go back to sleep I find I become very woozy and confused for the entire morning.

He goes to church, eh? But doesn't exactly live his life as Jesus would have preached... no compassion, selflessness, generosity, thoughtfulness... 🙄

What a lazy lump. Add up all the lie-ins he's had since your dc were born and claim them every day for the next ten years.