To think you don’t need to wear so much perfume?

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My friend came round two days ago and I can still smell her perfume in my house. Several times I’ve been out walking and a car will drive past and I can smell their aftershave several meters along the round.

I am very sensitive to smells which can trigger migraines, but even so, AIBU to think people should tone it down a bit?

I used to work in a large open plan office and one of the other women that worked there used to wear Poison.

I used to feel physically ill with the smell as every time she moved a huge waft of it used to descend like fog where I was sitting.

Lovely woman but bloody horrible perfume!😱

Poison was horrible

Absolute bullshit and really unkind.

Unkind? Because I don't toe the hashtag line? Be kind or shut up, is that what you want?

Oh, I'm now allowed to say what I think, because it's "unkind", but you can call my opinion "absolute bullshit"? How is that "kind"? Double standards much?

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I’m with you OP
i used to especially hate when I could smell someone’s perfume on my baby either the nursery worker or a particular friend who wore so much it rubbed off on my newborn

I know what you mean. I once had a huge dilemma at work as we moved offices and I was sat next to a woman who's perfume gave me a migraine and made me feel sick and headachey every day. I put up with it for two months before speaking to my manger and asking to move seats. They did move me but I think they thought I was 'making a fuss'. I really really liked this colleague and wouldn't have remotely disliked sitting next to her otherwise but what could I do? I felt so unwell every day.

I love smelling perfume but I think this thread is about too much perfume. It’s not nice when it’s soo overpowering it lingers after someone has left the room.

One of my pet hates is perfume wearers who don’t shower before swimming. Urgh.

Aww this used to be my mums favourite perfume so I get all nostalgic if I smell it but it's pretty rare these days.

I love perfume but have a crap sense of smell so rarely smell it on anyone else and can only smell it by sniffing my arm or the occasional waft from my neck. I work in a very small team and they know to tell me if it's ever too strong. The first time I said it they told me they had never smelled my perfume before so I got brave enough to do a couple of extra sprays. They still can't smell it unless they lean in but it does mean I can enjoy it now.

I never told you be kind so don’t come at me with that, I told you what you wrote was unkind. “Let me break it to you gently…” is utter patronising nonsense.
let me break this to you gently, you’re wrong, not everyone who tells someone they smell nice is lying and they are trying to politely comment on it. Sometimes people just like the smell of the perfume.
I have no issues with your opinion on perfume, you can like it or not but don’t go about making someone second guess a compliment that makes them feel nice when we have enough crap with women pulling each other down as it is.

A friend recently asked me not to wear perfume, she was picking me up in her car and was feeling slightly 'delicate' after overindulging the night before, all good I didn't mind - until I got in the car and it STUNK to high heaven of her stinky dog - nose blindness for her probably but God it was awful for me

@LittlestBaoBun

It gets talked about here, quite entertainly: s]]

But then Japan as a society is geared towards consideration.

YANBU but in my office it's mostly aftershave overdose.

Nearly doubled over for lack of breathing air after one colleague left the lift and I entered the other day.

In fact I'm sure it lingered on me afterwards.

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I'd like to know what perfume your friend used that you can still smell it in your home. Must be a good one.
I love love perfume and drench myself in it, I'm conscious of smelling bad so I would rather smell good. I love when people walk past me and I
Can smell their perfumes.
There's so many times I've had peopel walk past and they stink! Would hate for that to be me

helpamom if you and your clothes are clean you're not going to stink. It's not an either or between strong perfume or smelling dirty.

have no issues with your opinion on perfume, you can like it or not but don’t go about making someone second guess a compliment that makes them feel nice when we have enough crap with women pulling each other down as it is.

Bingo!

“Women pulling women down” and “unkind”.

Though I’m sure there is at last one more cliché our there feeling unloved at the moment. I’m certain you’ll find it.

I always wore perfume as a carer. Not a strong one but always the same one
It helps when you're going to someone who is blind as it must be nerve wracking having someone letting themselves in the house when you can't see them. Yes I would shout who I was but it helps. Also for people with dementia who might recognise the scent as familiar but not remember me
And for the cheeky young guy who always requested I roll him "so I can sniff you"

I love perfume and so don't mind others wearing it. I tend to wear something like a light, subtle floral if I'm travelling on the train.

I hate this, too. I also really hate it when people overuse body spray (which is quite toxic). I have a several colleagues who seem to bath in the stuff. I have to work very close to my colleagues at times. Having to breathe in their fumes for 12 hours a day makes my eyes, nose and throat burn, even while wearing a mask! People should be considerate about what they force others to breathe in, especially in the workplace.

theres only one time I didn't like someone's perfume and that was when I was pregnant - Georgio Beverley hills. I used to get the coach to London and had to sit with a piece of ginger to suck the whole way. I mean I could of asked her not to wear it but who does that? In real life? although @CrystalCoco that did make me laugh about your friend.

i spend a lot of time and money on perfume these days. I would rather wear that than lipstick truth be told - and it's lovely when I get a compliment. The other day I had a man stop me and ask what I was wearing (opium) so he could get some for his wife! I was wearing it that day because I was visiting my mum who has cancer and it was her favourite when she was younger. It made my day - and it made my mum smile too! I always ask women and men what they are wearing if they smell nice.

you can please some of the people all the time but not all people all of the time. Or something like that 😆 it's just some of the people who you can't please are rude - instead of ignoring it or moving away they feel the need to express their distaste. If we all did this where would we be??!

Bathe not bath

Those of you who are very sensitive to smells - do you have diagnosed or suspected ASD? I do and I've definitely seen others mention it.

I love many perfumes but as a nurse for years,, never wore any. I can not imagine anything worse than feeling unwell and having someone providing care, wearing perfume. Also the opposite, would dread anyone having BO/bad breath getting close to me. Now I can wear perfume whenever I want and love it.

I was walking down the road a few yards behind a man and I could smell his aftershave. God knows what he must have smelt like up close.