To ask about whether to host a party tomorrow

[Onthedowns]

So my DH tested positive for covid on Tues morning. He was feeling rough Monday eve. He is feeling better today however we have a party tomorrow evening - about 15 - 20 people in the garden.

We are unsure whether to cancel. DH is going to test again tonight and then thinking of letting people decide whether they wish to come. He's 5 days tomorrow however i am still unsure and think maybe cancelling.

Most people already know but they aren't worried as saying no one is really testing l, walking around with covid thinking it's hayfever.

I have tested negative and so have our children.

🤷🏼‍♀️ Would you cancel

I would cancel, yes and re-arrange in a few weeks.

Leave it up to people to decide. Be completely transparent regarding his test result later and let people be adults.

I would postpone too.
My friend was at a party with someone who was positive. Now out of the eighteen of them, thirteen have covid.

No, I wouldn’t cancel if the test is negative tomorrow morning - wait and do it then

Yes I would. Or at least let people decide.

I think it's very difficult he could be positive for weeks l. I was positive for 25 days 🤦‍♀️ but equally don't want to be reckless and purposely infect people

Most people aren’t positive on lfts for that long though. That’s why they could be used to “release” people from isolation back when that was a thing.

I would a) keep testing and b) let everyone know so they can make their own decision

Theres a big difference between people accidentally spreading it and those who are doing it on purpose.

He’d be doing the latter, if he’s still positive.

I’m not sure about the hayfever/not testing thing; either. Overall amount of people testing was always going to drop when they stopped being free, but recent stats have shown an increase in fears - probably because of the brutal pollen levels which have set off everyone’s hayfever. There will undoubtedly be people who do have symptoms and are putting it down to hayfever when it’s Covid; and people who aren’t testing, but I think overall that statement is just designed to make people feel better about carrying on doing what they want…

I was one of those 😂. I did 27 days

Nah I wouldn’t cancel if he’s feeling ok. I wouldn’t hide it though, I’d let people decide.

I was one of those 😂. I did 27 days

I think you must have misunderstood the guidance. You could always leave isolation at the end of ten (or possibly 14 at one point) days even if you still tested positive.

I understand all of that but i guess at some point we have to carry on, if he didn't know he would say he had a bad cold and no one would be none the wiser. We wouldn't cancel a party on that basis tomorrow unless he was feeling awful. However as we know i am trying to make sure it doesn't filter to anyone else who might be vulnerable. Our kids can go back to school after 3 days 🤷🏼‍♀️

Just be upfront and let people decide for themselves, people are capable of making their own risk assessments.

I wouldn't cancel. You've been completely honest and transparent with your potential guests and it is their choice to assess the risk for themselves as to whether they feel comfortable attending.
I think the fact it's a garden party will add to people feeling more willing to attend.

The other thing I would consider is, will it be a problem for you with numbers and catering etc? If you buy for say 20 people and only 5 turn up, will that be an issue for you with waste?

If I were an invitee I'd still be happy to attend. However, I can think of people in my circle who wouldn't due to elderly family members, job role etc. You're giving people the information and they can make their own informed choices.

I did return to work after 10 days but making the point that i was testing positive for weeks.

Leaving it until tomorrow is very short notice to cancel.

Let people know today so that the have time to make other plans if they want to.

Also, if you're outside then less risk all round, but check the weather forecast as storms are on their way for some areas.

I have some food but won't bother getting the rest as i think some will cancel. It's my bday party so my family aren't over worried and happy to come. I have a family in the NHS too who aren't worried

I did return to work after 10 days but making the point that i was testing positive for weeks.

Your post was a bit misleading because you were talking about “doing 27 days” just after I was talking about isolation. Why on earth did you keep testing for so long for no purpose?

I think it's very clear you don't want to cancel. So don't.

But you will be purposefully spreading covid. There's no doubt about that. Obviously keep people informed and let them make their own choices, but there's no point trying to justify with the no testing/hayfever stuff. At the end of the day, he has covid, he would be inviting people into a covid infected house, and be interacting whilst knowingly having covid. There's no ifs or buts about it. It just depends what your conscious can handle that's all.

I didn't test every day and i was doing a study

I am happy to cancel but it does make it difficult i think at what point do you just continue?

I think it's likely he will be positive today so i think we would be more likely to cancel but actually i know people who just aren't testing due to costs etc too.

Also reading some evidence that infectious ness drops after 3 days then 5. It makes it very difficult

I’d test today so you can give people sufficient notice.

At what point do you continue? The point where you don’t knowingly put your friends and family at risk of receiving an infectious disease from one of the hosts.