To want another baby?

[Mamaandbub]

Soooo complicated background

I’m 28, started my nursing course in 2019. We unexpectedly got pregnant in my first year, I finished the year and then took 2 years out of the course, due to go back in sept this year.

So now both my husband and I are broody and feel like it is the right time to think about having another baby. I love being a mum, it’s my life’s purpose, but I also would love to complete my nursing.

I feel as though waiting until after my course to have another will be too big of a gap for my liking. My son would be minimum 4.5 which I know for some isn’t a big gap, but to me it’s a lot more then I feel comfortable with.

I also feel silly, because I know being a nurse would give our family a really great boost income wise. And allow us to finally buy a house.

my partner said can I not complete another year of my course, while pregnant and then take 1 more year out before finishing. I have a feeling that would be taking the pi** a bit and I’d potentially get kicked off the course.

what would you do!? What’s more important to you? Money/career or family?

5 year age gap between my 2 and its great, both adore each other and play together, older ds is very helpful and enjoys helping me tidy up.

Are you able to complete training without doing night shifts etc? I didn't think that was possible, but maybe it is.

It's not possible it is part of the whole experience.

I'd contact your tutor and find out the length of time in which you are expected to complete the course.Some healthcare degrees will have a stipulation so you wouldn't be able to take out two years in succession for example or two large leaves of absence. You need to find out.

I have a four year age gap between my son and youngest baby and it is easy. He will be going to school full time whilst she is at home with me meaning we get to go to lots of baby classes and have one on one time. I had even 15 month age gap between dd1 and ds and that was harder initially but fab now.There is a 10 year gap between my youngest sister and I and I felt very different to you. My mum involved me in looking after her and I was very secure in my own relationship with my parents. Basically an age gap preference is just that a preference it isn't the be all and end all.

You sound like your head just isn't in to studying at the moment and nursing is a demanding degree. That is fair enough of you feel that way nursing is a vocation and isn't for everyone as a pp said.