What would you do is this situation?

[Cloudyday97]

If you had been seeing a man for 4 months and he started reading your texts and not replying, being a bit snappy over text or giving short answers what would you do? I have tried asking him if everything is ok and he said he would tell me if it wasn’t. I’m just confused about where I stand.

Block him; he’s not that into you

I would say bye bye 👋🏼

Also he never really messages me first. He is busy and works a lot, long hours etc. Everything seems on his terms and I’m not sure how to take back some control. I feel like I am always available and ready to see him whenever he wants but he’s not available for me if I ask to see him.

Me too. 4 months in is still the honeymoon period where all should be sweetness and light.

You need to be less confused and more proactive. Dump him tonight.

Another thing is that whenever I ask how he is or how his day has been he tells me but never asks about me or my day or how I am.

I would probably just never message him or respond to his messages again.

Dump and block.

I would stop messaging him

He’s shown you his colours. He’s shown you he isn’t really that interested in you. He’s shown you that you have to make all the effort in this relationship.

You want that for a lifetime? It’s been 4 months. You aren’t married. You can go your separate ways and find someone more worthy of your attention.

Stop messaging or calling at all and see how long he takes to get in touch. If you think the wait and level of enthusiasm he shows when / if he gets back in touch is not acceptable then you have your answer...move on.
Really, at 4 months he should still be showing a good deal of eagerness. If you are feeling the decline now, imagine what you'd be feeling after 10 years of declining attention.

I'm guessing by your username that you are 24/25 years old? I would get busy making plans that don't involve him. Don't be available at hos beck and call. Spend time with your friends and family. Try a new hobby, something that is just for you. Do some overtime or a course at work etc. Get busy and next time he asks you to do something say "sorry I've got plans".

It doesn’t sound like you feel very special or valued in this relationship. Like you are on the back foot, a beggar at the door not sure of your welcome.
What do you want to do about that?

Take a step back for a week or two, see if he bothers getting in touch.

I'd do this.

If he wants to message you he will make time, regardless of how busy he is. Move on, he is not for you.

Yes, take a step back and don't contact him at all. See what he does.

Walk away! He’s not into you.

Honestly, no one is worth playing games for. Just bin him

My ex was similar. Made sure to make me not feel like a priority. That’s why he’s an ex. Dump this idiot.

Don't waste your time trying to regain his initial enthusiasm - it'll destroy your self esteem. Instead, take back control. Be indifferent, unavailable.

There's a much better person waiting in the wings for you, I'm sure.

Don't step back. He will probably start being nice again and then when everything hunky dory go back to being a prick. Walk away

He sounds really horrible! If you read back your posts, can you see why you are still with him?

Another one here saying walk away. Life is too short to waste time on people who don’t want to waste time with you.

What has happened/been said that makes you think you are in a relationship with this guy?

It sounds like he sees you as a casual hook up if that.