What would you do is this situation?

[Cloudyday97]

If you had been seeing a man for 4 months and he started reading your texts and not replying, being a bit snappy over text or giving short answers what would you do? I have tried asking him if everything is ok and he said he would tell me if it wasn’t. I’m just confused about where I stand.

It’s only been 4 months, he should still be pretty keen and it doesn’t sound like he is

No way, a new relationship should make you feel good about yourself, he's already making you feel bad.

I wouldn't bother 'breaking up' I'd just move on. Be unavailable for calls/meeting up. Reply to the odd text. .

Easy to take control, stop bothering with him. Move on, find someone else.

He's not very interested sorry. At 4 months if someone was keen, youd know about it. Don't wreck your self esteem trying to make this one work, just move on.

FFS, you’ve only been seeing this man for four months. That’s nothing. Just ditch him. If a relationship is like this after four months, it’s not working.

My husband is like this and we've been married for about 30 years! He was always a bit useless at communication though. If you like him I'd just sit back and wait and see what happens over the next month or two. The two of you may just fizzle out, or not. Don't run around being needy though. Just get on with your life and see what transpires. Work can be busy and stressful and all consuming. What does he do?

Or alternatively, just tell him to fuck off. Much simpler.

Tis finished. All the best op.

Just end it, block him and move on. No point stepping back and waiting around to see if he'll suddenly become bothered, he won't. He's not worthy, find someone who is.

He's just after the sex

*I’m just confused about where I stand.

whenever I ask how he is or how his day has been he tells me but never asks about me or my day or how I am.*

I'm just a stranger on the internet but I just don't see what there is to be confused about. He doesn't show any interest in you, is snappy

What are you looking for in a relationships. What you describe doesn't meet the minimum for a viable relationship to me.

Why bother messaging someone who isn't interested in you and responds snappily to your interest in him.

Beware though, he may start to show just enough interest in you to keep you on the back burner.

Don't settle for that. Hold out for someone who treats you really well, who loves your company and like to have you in their life.

Everything seems on his terms and I’m not sure how to take back some control.

No relationship should be about control, it should be a balance. It sounds like this one is not balanced in your favour in any way. Best not to be so available for him if at all.

Honestly I wouldn’t even bother taking a step back the snappiness and lack of effort this early in would be the end for me.

Thanks all. He is basically ‘bread crumbing’ at the moment. Still calls me baby. Sends the odd text. Only sees me when he wants too though so I think he is using me

Yeah I wouldn't bother with this one. Either just stop making the effort. Or tell him if he continues you're going to find someone who's worth your energy.

Meh. Nah. You're worth more than that.

I'd block and move on

i would simply tell him the relationship isn’t working for me anymore, thank you and good bye.