Hi,
So firstly, I understand that anyone from anywhere can be rude and actually I don't like grouping people into a catagory. ..However, a good friend of mine has fairly recently moved to a very posh, Conservative, middle class area and I've noticed she has become more abrupt and to me, just rude over the past couple of years. Her dc are lovely and I'm very close to them, but they're also now quite rude and dare I say, entitled. Not intentionally so, but hardly any please and thank yous, lots of "I want"s instead of "can I have?". Thing is, all the families I've interacted with in this area are all the same. It's just the norm, but I find it really irritating. There's always this cold sense of smugness and self satisfaction around.
I'm finding my irritation harder to hide in my face recently. I can feel it. I still love my friend and I know deep down she is the same person really, but on the surface she seems to have changed so much, so quickly.
Does anyone understand where I'm coming from?
AIBU?
To wonder if rudeness/lack of basic manners is now a middle/upper class norm?
Rumineverything · 22/06/2022 12:51
Am I being unreasonable?
233 votes. Final results.
POLLJudgeJ · 23/06/2022 16:10
I think what counts as good manners changes over time. My great grandma found it bizarre that children/young people called older people by their first name rather than Mrs or Mr X. Apparently when she was young this was the height of rudeness
I am old enough to agree with this, I said it about 30+ years ago and was mocked, it came as quite a surprise to find that my children's friends all referred to adults around them by their first name. Thinking back to my own childhood I never referred to the neighbours by their first name, don't think I even knew their first names, I don't remember even my mother doing it other than a couple of particular friends. As an adult I still said Mrs/Mr if I was talking to Mum's neighbours.
It may seem a trivial thing and I know that many are snorting with contempt but it is a part of this break down.
The word 'entitlement' is one of the worst words of the 21st century, everyone things they're 'entitled', no-one things they're responsible.
JudgeJ · 23/06/2022 16:10
I think what counts as good manners changes over time. My great grandma found it bizarre that children/young people called older people by their first name rather than Mrs or Mr X. Apparently when she was young this was the height of rudeness
I am old enough to agree with this, I said it about 30+ years ago and was mocked, it came as quite a surprise to find that my children's friends all referred to adults around them by their first name. Thinking back to my own childhood I never referred to the neighbours by their first name, don't think I even knew their first names, I don't remember even my mother doing it other than a couple of particular friends. As an adult I still said Mrs/Mr if I was talking to Mum's neighbours.
It may seem a trivial thing and I know that many are snorting with contempt but it is a part of this break down.
The word 'entitlement' is one of the worst words of the 21st century, everyone things they're 'entitled', no-one things they're responsible.
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JellyBellyNelly · 22/06/2022 14:26
Do you also blow your own trumpet in the school band.
WeLoveYouMissHanigan · 22/06/2022 13:17
I find many children at my children’s prep school completely obnoxious
They don’t get told off properly
They’re spoiled materially
They do seem quite entitled.
Mine are not like that at all. Because I parent them.
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