AIBU to think I may never have a holiday again?

[DestinationUnknownn]

Ok dramatic title 🤣 mildly lighthearted!

I love holidays, particularly going abroad, I don't have loads of money so holidays are always saved up for and savored lol and I used to go most years pre my second child, covid etc. Haven't been abroad in 4/5 years now.
Been with DP 3 years, in that time we've gone on 2 caravan holidays, about an houes drive away from where we live.

Thing is DP has never been abroad (fair enough he doesnt know what he's missing) but he also has no interest in going any further afield for a UK holiday, a few of our friends/family have been on UK holidays lately told us how lovely it is, pictures look lovely etc and all DP can say is how long of a drive it is and isn't interested at all. We're going away to the same place we went last year!

I honestly don't know if I'd ever convince him to get on a plane or even drive a couple of hours in the UK, he does drive alot sometimes for work so I can see his point he doesn't want to be driving all week for work and then have to drive for a holiday (although I'm happy to share the driving) and once you're there it's just the journey there and back.
I'd love to go on a day trip or weekend to London but that's too busy he says.
AIBU to think we'll be camping in the back garden for the foreseeable future!?

So he doesn't want to go away but he also doesn't want you to do anything either??
He's being very selfish.
My friend's husband isn't keen on travelling but at least he doesn't stop her going and taking their children.

It would be a total deal breaker for me if I'm honest.

Would he go somewhere on the train?
Or if you structured a trip as a circular route with multiple stops rather than straight to the destination and back again, to break it up a bit?

He sounds old before his time; what will he be like in his 50's? I couldn't endure someone who neither travelled nor allowed me to travel on my own. One of life's great pleasures.

This! Life is too short.

Imagine not even coming to London because it's too busy! Is he Kaleb from Clarkson's Farm refusing to leave the country for even the weekend?

@TheWayoftheLeaf I feel the same but that's the only compromise husband will consider ( and he seems pretty averse to that atm). If it was up to me we'd be going abroad!

@DestinationUnknownn I think spelling it out sounds best. Is he normally quite considerate and receptive to your needs, apart from this particular issue?

He won't even go to other places in the UK?! I would never choose to be with someone so parochial and narrow-minded. Not going on holiday or even day-trips etc for financial or health reasons is obviously understandable, but what on earth is this 'too far away' thing?!

I think this is really sad (as in, actually makes me feel sad) that you have willingly let him make your world smaller.

Light hearted?

He won’t go further than an hour on holiday, won’t take a day trip (busy my arse), won’t let you go and makes comments about women drivers when you say you can drive.

There’s nothing lighthearted about any of that.

I think it’s abusive, and I think somewhere inside you, you posted this “light hearted” post hoping we would confirm that.

Personally, if you are happy to drive, I would take DC by myself to places like Legoland/Chessington/Alton Towers etc. If you can afford it, stay in the hotel, or one nearby, overnight to do it as a weekend break.
If driving too far in the Uk is an objection, what about a city break by train? To a city, like London or Bristol, where there is plenty for families to do, or to the seaside? If he still says no, I would take them without him.

This.