To set the scene, me and my partner have an 18 month old. He has 2 children from a previous relationship. He has them every other weekend. He has his children at a relatives house (his mum) in a Friday and with me and his other child on a Saturday.
he has a problem with alcohol, he’s fine after a few but doesn’t know when to stop.
he says he is entitled to drink after work and at weekends as he works hard all week but when he drinks it’s normally 6-8 pints sometimes more and then he is rude and nasty to me.
if it’s his weekend with his other children, he will drink in the Friday and when he calls he is nasty. Then on the Saturday he will drink here all afternoon evening leaving me to do everything and look after our soon.
to share the problem with alcohol is not new. I’ve asked him lots of times to cut down but he says he doesn’t have to and can do what the fuck he likes.
when I was 6 months pregnant he got drunk at a friends and told me we were over, I drove against doctors orders to try and talk sense into him, it was his mum that eventually did.
when our child was 2 months old, he got so drunk one afternoon I had to carry him upstairs and clean up his sick while looking after a small baby. It was heartbreaking.
im scared for the impression it makes on his other children but worried for our toddler, I already put him to bed early so he’s not up when his dad drinks but I know this is wrong.
I’ve posted many on here before the relationship is a mess, I know I should leave but I can’t, I’m not strong enough.
I just need to find some strength in knowing it’s him and not me being unreasonable.