Eating the last of something ...

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I live overseas, crave a few things from home that I just can't here, as does DH. DSS loves things from home because he just can't get them here and it's all a bit of a novelty. (He's never been to the UK)
I recently came home, and filled one of my cases full of stuff for both of them, spent time and effort finding random stuff they requested. They both wrote me a list of what they wanted from tesco online and I went to multiple supermarkets to get what they wanted.
I bought a few things for myself but mostly it was stuff for them. A few weeks have past and they have been like a plague of locusts through the pantry and their supplies are low, I've not been quick enough to get any of it. Neither of them like a certain flavour of Crisps I like, it's very common knowledge I love them. DH has gone and bloody well eaten them when he was 'stressed' and can't remember me telling him to not eat the fucking things, said it's been a month you should have eaten them sooner.
I would never drink all his whiskey after a stressful day and leave him none because I would think of him before me. (And I don't really like it)
AIBU to be pissed? It's not like I can just replace them, I completely hit the roof (appreciate that was an overreaction, but I later apologised and explained it's because I feel
I put everyone else first and no one does the same for me, to which he responded - you have a point)

I absolutely hate this. The "you should have been quicker" arguement is unfair, and encourages binge eating. Next time I would store your share in a seperate area and if they decide to eat it then really lose your shit that they think that little of you.

hmmm, not great, and a little thoughtless. However, this is an issue about storing items specifically for an individual in a communal snack space, everything is up for grabs! For example, how it worked in my household growing up for chocolate is there was a blue Tupperware box in the fridge and anything in the box was fair game, anything outside of that box was someones just for them, so hands off. It worked very well. A bit late now, but could you introduce something like this going forward? Regardless, they should have been more considerate, but this really makes rules clear and sets it in stone.

I'd be fuming.

Doesn't matter if you leave them a year, they're still earmarked for you!

Next time, hide your bits. Under lock and key!

"Why are you bringing this divorce action?"
"He ate my crisps, M'lud. Prawn cocktail. My only packet."
"Fair enough. Granted."

@AssignedSlytherinAtBirth - how did you know 🤣
They were seperate from the rest of the stuff, so clearly not 'communal' DSS had the right idea and stashed some bits in his bedroom (bright boy)

Next time, allocate it ahead of time. People get their own shelf/box, amd woe betide anyone who eats someone else's!

You’re not unreasonable
it’s extremely annoying
but you learns from your DSS, special treats need to be stashed away - not just on a separate shelf

DH has gone and bloody well eaten them when he was 'stressed' and can't remember me telling him to not eat the fucking things, said it's been a month you should have eaten them sooner

see there is the solution, in future hide away what you want yourself and problem solved. Not saying your dh is reasonable by any means but it solves the problem. If food is in the kitchen/pantry and there's people around the likely hood is that it will be eaten.

Decant his favourite whisky into another bottle, leave the empty bottle visible and say you've developed a liking for it.

I was just going to suggest that exact thing. See how he likes it - I'd be raging op

That's even worse then. So disrespectful. Why does he think so little of you?

Me and my husband hide things like this from each other, it's easier as there's no temptation.

YANBU OP I'd be raging! My DH goes through goodies like the clappers, whereas I'm quite good at eking 'mine' out (we do have different tastes in some things, so definitely 'communal' snacks then individual). Either of us would be annoyed at what you describe, though we mainly DH do occasionally ask for something out of the other's stash if we fancy it..

I’d be really upset.

I can’t stand the well you should have eaten it by now bullshit. Just because I don’t trough my food down like a garbage disposal doesn’t mean I don’t want it.

I made it really clear when I got home ... here is 32kg worth of stuff I've bought for you. Multiple packets & multi packs of stuff for the pair of them. But don't eat these, because they are mine which I stashed in a separate non snack part of our butlers pantry.
I wouldn't have minded if it was something DH loved, then fair enough I get it temptation got the better of him but he doesn't even really like them. I'm tempted to take the last of his dry roasted nuts into work (along with the 18 year old malt I bought him)

I'm tempted to take the last of his dry roasted nuts into work (along with the 18 year old malt I bought him)

nah, just pour it down the sink. It’s been a month, he obviously doesn’t want it.

Losing your shit is sometimes exactly the right thing to do. He knew he shouldn't have eaten your stuff but was driven by greed and did it anyway. Absolutely hide the scotch and eat the peanuts.

My DH gets really shirty with me when I buy stuff and say explicitly that it's mine. I have to other he feeds it to his DC. It's like I'm not allowed anything for myself or if I don't eat something straightaway it's fair game. It's not! YANBU!

We have to hide food from DH. He's just a pig, and has to have it first. I've actually got a massive locking cash tin that I keep my own stash of dark chocolate in and treats for the grandkids. If we're ever burgled, they'll be crushed when they open it

My dad used to do the same thing

He would scoff all the flavours everyone else liked, so he could eat the flavours only he liked at his own leisure.

We used to have to hide them

I can’t believe all the casual suggestions to hide things, as if that’s normal.

If I had a DP who I had to hide food from because otherwise they would take it from me, then I would rethink who the fuck I had ended up with!

At best it’s selfish.

This is why I have a bag in the bedroom with my favourite fancy chocolate bars hidden in that no one else in the house knows about!

"DH has gone and bloody well eaten them when he was 'stressed' and can't remember me telling him to not eat the fucking things, said it's been a month you should have eaten them sooner."

Suggest him to buy a stress ball then, not munching through your food like some kind of pig. God, these little things really show how little respects some people have towards their partners.

😵

I once lost my shit and stayed furious for a week when DH ate my posh box of chocolates in one sitting. They were given to me by my dad for my birthday the day before. My dad is in a lot of pain when he walks and he had to walk 30 minutes just to buy me my favourite cjocolates for my birthday. And DH just hoovered them up after I'd gone to bed. Tbh I still get angry about it. It's devoid of any respect.

Pour his whiskey away and put the empty bottle back. See how he likes it.