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Eating the last of something ...

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Hop27 · 16/06/2022 09:41

I live overseas, crave a few things from home that I just can't here, as does DH. DSS loves things from home because he just can't get them here and it's all a bit of a novelty. (He's never been to the UK)
I recently came home, and filled one of my cases full of stuff for both of them, spent time and effort finding random stuff they requested. They both wrote me a list of what they wanted from tesco online and I went to multiple supermarkets to get what they wanted.
I bought a few things for myself but mostly it was stuff for them. A few weeks have past and they have been like a plague of locusts through the pantry and their supplies are low, I've not been quick enough to get any of it. Neither of them like a certain flavour of Crisps I like, it's very common knowledge I love them. DH has gone and bloody well eaten them when he was 'stressed' and can't remember me telling him to not eat the fucking things, said it's been a month you should have eaten them sooner.
I would never drink all his whiskey after a stressful day and leave him none because I would think of him before me. (And I don't really like it)
AIBU to be pissed? It's not like I can just replace them, I completely hit the roof (appreciate that was an overreaction, but I later apologised and explained it's because I feel
I put everyone else first and no one does the same for me, to which he responded - you have a point)

OP posts:
AssignedSlytherinAtBirth · 16/06/2022 15:16

What a waste of good whisky! I imagine it's very good for cleaning the loo.

xogossipgirlxo · 16/06/2022 15:26

fossilsmorefossils · 16/06/2022 14:20

I once lost my shit and stayed furious for a week when DH ate my posh box of chocolates in one sitting. They were given to me by my dad for my birthday the day before. My dad is in a lot of pain when he walks and he had to walk 30 minutes just to buy me my favourite cjocolates for my birthday. And DH just hoovered them up after I'd gone to bed. Tbh I still get angry about it. It's devoid of any respect.

Pour his whiskey away and put the empty bottle back. See how he likes it.

This is actually heartbreaking. I am so angry at your husband and I don't even know him. How some people are so inconsiderate?!

JamesMartinsWaistcoat · 16/06/2022 15:46

fossilsmorefossils · 16/06/2022 14:20

I once lost my shit and stayed furious for a week when DH ate my posh box of chocolates in one sitting. They were given to me by my dad for my birthday the day before. My dad is in a lot of pain when he walks and he had to walk 30 minutes just to buy me my favourite cjocolates for my birthday. And DH just hoovered them up after I'd gone to bed. Tbh I still get angry about it. It's devoid of any respect.

Pour his whiskey away and put the empty bottle back. See how he likes it.

What a thoughtless, disrespectful prick.

AGreaterGrate · 16/06/2022 15:50

DH once ate half a tub of posh chocolates bought for me by a friend - 90% dark chocolates, he hates dark chocolate he likes white which isn't even proper chocolate but he still ate half one evening I was out.

I really laid out how disrespected I felt, but he couldn't see my point as 'he'd left half'. 😒

I made it my mission to eat/take to work to share out half of 'his' foods for a week - his bread, certain type of biscuits, crisps (literally I opened every packet and took half, with the bread I cut each slice in half, each biscuit cut in half, cans of drink of his I opened and poured half, he loves fruit so I cut each apple/orange in half etc etc, I had a lot of fun! ). I left little post it notes 'here's your half of this, I'm sure you're enjoying this as much as I'm enjoying my half-left chocolates!'

It never happened again, 'my' bits were left for me after that week 🤣

Floella22 · 16/06/2022 15:51

I once told dh that we should eat the bacon in the fridge as it expired that day,
I returned from town at lunch time to the smell of bacon and dh said he’d had an early lunch.
Fine, where did you put my bacon.
He didn’t.
He’d eaten the whole pack!
So greedy.

HollowTalk · 16/06/2022 16:06

fossilsmorefossils · 16/06/2022 14:20

I once lost my shit and stayed furious for a week when DH ate my posh box of chocolates in one sitting. They were given to me by my dad for my birthday the day before. My dad is in a lot of pain when he walks and he had to walk 30 minutes just to buy me my favourite cjocolates for my birthday. And DH just hoovered them up after I'd gone to bed. Tbh I still get angry about it. It's devoid of any respect.

Pour his whiskey away and put the empty bottle back. See how he likes it.

I am angry about that now! I'm livid on your behalf.

Soubriquet · 16/06/2022 16:11

AGreaterGrate · 16/06/2022 15:50

DH once ate half a tub of posh chocolates bought for me by a friend - 90% dark chocolates, he hates dark chocolate he likes white which isn't even proper chocolate but he still ate half one evening I was out.

I really laid out how disrespected I felt, but he couldn't see my point as 'he'd left half'. 😒

I made it my mission to eat/take to work to share out half of 'his' foods for a week - his bread, certain type of biscuits, crisps (literally I opened every packet and took half, with the bread I cut each slice in half, each biscuit cut in half, cans of drink of his I opened and poured half, he loves fruit so I cut each apple/orange in half etc etc, I had a lot of fun! ). I left little post it notes 'here's your half of this, I'm sure you're enjoying this as much as I'm enjoying my half-left chocolates!'

It never happened again, 'my' bits were left for me after that week 🤣

Now that’s the way to do it

dizzydizzydizzy · 16/06/2022 16:19

BaaCake · 16/06/2022 09:49

I absolutely hate this. The "you should have been quicker" arguement is unfair, and encourages binge eating. Next time I would store your share in a seperate area and if they decide to eat it then really lose your shit that they think that little of you.

This! DP demolishes chocolate. DD hides her share in her bedroom. I sometimes hide mine too.

slowcookerforone · 16/06/2022 16:50

My dp is a pig and will eat healthy all week then eat everything unhealthy in sight.
Luckily he gets up early and replaces it because he's learnt that pisses me off so much!
I do think it's a male thing, none of the women I've ever lived with would do this, yet most of the guys have.

If it's something specific or special then I just hide them away. I don't give a shit if that's weird, it's the only guarantee I won't be heartbroken to find my favourite things have just been scoffed!

Original poster
Hop27 · 16/06/2022 17:07

If it was DSS, I would have shrugged it off thinking he just wanted to try it ... or typical teen eating everything.
But for DH to open and eat something knowing 'that's Hop's favourite which you cannot get here' but still I'm hungry and it's easy - is just shit. It's not like it was the last snack in the house, part of me thinks he's done it to get a rise.

OP posts:
Dogscanteatonions · 16/06/2022 17:09

fossilsmorefossils · 16/06/2022 14:20

I once lost my shit and stayed furious for a week when DH ate my posh box of chocolates in one sitting. They were given to me by my dad for my birthday the day before. My dad is in a lot of pain when he walks and he had to walk 30 minutes just to buy me my favourite cjocolates for my birthday. And DH just hoovered them up after I'd gone to bed. Tbh I still get angry about it. It's devoid of any respect.

Pour his whiskey away and put the empty bottle back. See how he likes it.

That is really bloody horrible. I'd still be cross about that too.

My DP would never do that to me and I'd never do it to him. We know in this house if certain food is a gift you don't touch it. We always offer to share of course.

RepublicOfNarnia · 16/06/2022 17:15

Yanbu but it's really bizarre to suggest that people in a household 'hide' food from eachother. Speak to your husband about how you feel that no-one ever considers your wants and needs before their own. I'm sure there's more to it than the packet of crisps that broke the camels back.

BuenaVistaAntisocialClub · 16/06/2022 17:20

RepublicOfNarnia · 16/06/2022 17:15

Yanbu but it's really bizarre to suggest that people in a household 'hide' food from eachother. Speak to your husband about how you feel that no-one ever considers your wants and needs before their own. I'm sure there's more to it than the packet of crisps that broke the camels back.

I don’t think it’s particularly bizarre. We are all basically animals when it comes down to it, and many of us have limited willpower around certain foods. And so keeping our own private stash makes sense.

I bet back in the day cavewomen would have had a secret stash of their favourite berries or whatever hidden in a deep dark corner of the cave!

sueelleker · 16/06/2022 17:24

JudgeJ · 16/06/2022 11:07

Decant his favourite whisky into another bottle, leave the empty bottle visible and say you've developed a liking for it.

That was my first thought, except I was thinking "pour it down the sink"!

SiobhanSharpe · 16/06/2022 17:27

In our house, anyone who eats up the last of anything from the fridge or cupboard has to either tell me and/or add the item to the current shopping list.
(Due to bitter experience from when i've gone to find eg, sultanas for a cake and DH has finished the lot, or I fancy a cheese sandwich for lunch and some tosser has eaten it all. )

twoandcooplease · 16/06/2022 22:47

I hide my treats too. We've just had our kitchen redone and I've put everything away in their new spots finding a few hidey places greedy DP doesn't know about

xogossipgirlxo · 17/06/2022 11:39

SiobhanSharpe · 16/06/2022 17:27

In our house, anyone who eats up the last of anything from the fridge or cupboard has to either tell me and/or add the item to the current shopping list.
(Due to bitter experience from when i've gone to find eg, sultanas for a cake and DH has finished the lot, or I fancy a cheese sandwich for lunch and some tosser has eaten it all. )

Unfortunately it doesn't work this way when someone eats last of something brought from overseas.

TroysMammy · 17/06/2022 12:02

Hide it. I do. My partner is diabetic and has a sweet tooth so he buys himself sweets and lollipops. If I fancy chocolate I hide it so I can enjoy it when I want because he has no self control.

BarbaraofSeville · 17/06/2022 12:12

Are you sure you can't get the things where you live?

No comedically overpriced importer or possibility of it being shipped from the UK? There's loads of services that cater for this market.

If your DH had to pay £100 for you to be sent a few bags of UK branded crisps and biscuits or whatever they were, that would mean you'd get the treats you've missed out on and it will focus his mind as to what he's done and possibly stop him from doing it again.

oviraptor21 · 17/06/2022 12:15

At least he acknowledged you have a point. Now let's hope he does something to make up for it.

HappyCup · 17/06/2022 13:29

oviraptor21 · 17/06/2022 12:15

At least he acknowledged you have a point. Now let's hope he does something to make up for it.

Did he? I must have missed that.

DifficultBloodyWoman · 17/06/2022 13:33

Your solution = britishcornershop.do.uk + DH’s credit card

Next time, buy for yourself only and hide them. I recommend leaving them in your suitcase under lock and key.

oviraptor21 · 17/06/2022 13:56

HappyCup · 17/06/2022 13:29

Did he? I must have missed that.

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"I completely hit the roof (appreciate that was an overreaction, but I later apologised and explained it's because I feel
I put everyone else first and no one does the same for me, to which he responded - you have a point)"

Invisibelle · 17/06/2022 13:58

Just get him to order some more from britishcornershop? We order crisps and stuff from there all the time.

Invisibelle · 17/06/2022 13:59

BarbaraofSeville · 17/06/2022 12:12

Are you sure you can't get the things where you live?

No comedically overpriced importer or possibility of it being shipped from the UK? There's loads of services that cater for this market.

If your DH had to pay £100 for you to be sent a few bags of UK branded crisps and biscuits or whatever they were, that would mean you'd get the treats you've missed out on and it will focus his mind as to what he's done and possibly stop him from doing it again.

It’s only about £15 to have it shipped from britishcornershop, and you can order quite a lot in weight.