To think I don’t owe my friend money

[Amtheyest17]

Hello,

A friend of mine messaged asking if I would like to go to a show, and mentioned the cost of the ticket. I said yes and that I would transfer - I didn’t get around to it but 24hrs later I realised I can’t go because of the tube strikes! The show is a week away and my friend didn’t buy the ticket for me she already had them and asked if I would like to join. Not sure if she had just bought two or someone dropped out. She’s now messaged to ask if I could still transfer as I said I would go and she’s lost a day trying to find someone to take the ticket even though she still has a week to find someone.

Am I unreasonable to think I don’t owe her the money?

Exactly

Just out of interest as it hasn’t been mentioned I don’t think ?

What show are the tickets for and at what theatre ?

I’m saying this as MN has many members and maybe one of us would be interested in the tickets if they live near the theatre.?

Its worth mentioning isn’t it ?

She’s a CF.

NEVER feel bad about saying ‘no’ to CFs. In fact, you should enjoy it.

Depends how much you value her friendship.

How long ago did she ask you?

Is there a theatre section on here?
The only way this is tricky is if knowing how fast tickets go she thought right I'll get two whilst I'm here so (you) can go and so couldn t ask you before hand.still you have no responsibility for them but it just makes it a stickier situation relationship wise

In this situation I would offer to try to help her find a new home for the ticket by asking around your own network and/or helping her to use one of those ticket reselling sites. I agree with others it is a tricky situation but I don't think you owe her the money in this situation.

Didn't the person she was initially planning to go with pay for the ticket anyway?

No, because she didn't buy the ticket for you and should have known that you wouldn't be able to go because of the tube strike. She should ask her local friends.

Send her to Twickets.

There's honestly nothing tricky about this situation. You don't owe your friend any money. I think she's a chancer. If she had bought the ticket at your specific request, it would be a totally different situation. Or I might be on her side if you had cancelled at the last minute with some made up excuse. But that's not the case,

Just reply and say sorry I thought you already had the tickets, you didn’t buy one specifically for me did you?

Some amazing definitions of friend on here

Whoever pulled out the first time might owe her money depending on the exact circumstances but no, you owe her nothing.

Though I do think you should have been sure you could go before accepting

She isn't a friend. She is showing her true colours so keep a wide berth from now on

A friend has just rearranged her ticket to a different day by ringing the theatre.

I agree you don’t owe her the money
But if you HAD managed to transfer the money, and then realised about the strike, would you feel your friend owed it back to you?

You agreed to buy the ticket and said you would transfer the ££.

Then you backed out.

It is only because if your slowness in transferring the money that you can now just feel you can reverse the agreement.

Bit shoddy.

You don't owe her and it's pretty shitty of her to ask.

I don't think you owe her, but it will probably destroy the friendship.

Are bus/taxis an option?

Nope. Not your problem.

You said you assumed she had brought the ticket

because she said ‘ I’ve got W ticket’. But do you know for certain she brought the ticket before?

The person who first pulled out owes her the money.

my BIL pulls this shit. He once tried to sell us tickets to something a friend have pulled out of and we couldn’t go, but he still thought we should pay. Someone else even went but ‘he didn’t like to ask them for the money’.

she should be able to resell if she tries.

If she already had the ticket, didn't purchase because of you saying yes, then no, you owe her nothing. That was her risk.