To suggest more variety is needed (father's day cards)

[MrsDoofus]

My dad is a bit shit. He's remarried and his wife ensures they spend most of their time with her children & grandchildren. He lives 35 miles from me but I haven't seen him since last November and before that it was the previous Xmas. He misses my kids' birthdays, never calls (I used to call him but gave up after a while). I love him but he has no presence in my life.

I'm trying to find the right Father's Day card to send him and they all say things like 'To my amazing Dad' or 'thanks for everything you do for me'...AIBU to suggest that they should make a few that say something along the lines of 'You're a bit shit really but I still love you'.

smile.amazon.co.uk/Alexa-Send-Fathers-Day-Card/dp/B086BLQSCH/ref=sr_1_88?crid=3KBYB2S8KNS0F&keywords=sarcastic+fathers+day+cards&qid=1655326918&sprefix=Sarcastic+father%2Caps%2C873&sr=8-88

This has cheered me up knowing I'm not the only one with a rubbish dad with this problem!

And this thread is a bit tongue in cheek obviously, I know cards are available, just not cheap ones in supermarkets and I resent spending more than £1

My can't imagine sending a lovey dovey type card to my dad. All I can do is try to find a jokey one, but it's difficult as they release the same ones pretty much every year.

I also struggle with this on Mother's Day. My mum is and always has been shit, yet all I can find are 'wow, you're amazing' type cards.

smile.amazon.co.uk/Central-23-Birthday-Adult-Stickers/dp/B082YJT2GW/ref=sr_1_93?crid=3KBYB2S8KNS0F&keywords=sarcastic+fathers+day+cards&qid=1655326918&sprefix=Sarcastic+father%2Caps%2C873&sr=8-93

In your situation I wouldn't bother? I haven't for years. Will buy a bottle of something for my stepdad but he does so much for me and I see him every week. A dad who doesn't send my kids bday cards, who never phones, who I see once a year? Naaaah.

If the "best dad" or "thanks dad" or "i love you dad" don't fit then why would anyone make the effort, yano?

Have we the same dad?!

I used to take a journey at Christmas & Father's Day with a card & gift and he'd say you need not have bothered I'm busy today and ignore the card/ gift.

I went NC about 3 years ago when dc was getting old enough to learn this is unhealthy.

I guess I'm trying to take the moral high ground. And it's the only contact I will probably have with him all year, other than his birthday (which is next month, I will defo be ordering one of these Amazon gems for that). Plus I do love him and a bit of me hopes he might at some point want to have a relationship with me. But I can't see that happening unless his wife dies first and even then it will be one where he wants me to look after him and not the other way round or equally... I don't blame his wife btw, he was equally disinterested in anyone else when he was married to my mum, which is why she left him!

I wouldn't send one personally. He sounds shit and doesn't take an interest in your family's life.

I don't bother with Father's Day but I have this same dilemma at Christmas and for his birthday. Just happy birthday dad would be sufficient but it's a struggle

How about this one?

Loving this thread - I once found one meant for a step dad that said ‘You’re almost like a real Dad’ …was so tempted to send that to bio dad 😁

He won’t put enough thought into it to think you have the moral high ground so that’s wasted on him. It sounds like starting a thread on this means you’ve already spent more time on him than he deserves. Know that you are worth more, you deserve better and just don’t bother.

I’m so lucky to have a wonderful dad but I remember him saying the same thing, he wanted a card for his dad that said “happy Father’s Day, I wouldn’t recognise you if you walked in”.

OP, you need to get on to Love Layla cards 😂

Ah yes I've had those in the past. I also love WTF notebooks 📓

Charity card with a (not so) subtle message?

onlineshop.oxfam.org.uk/pile-of-poo/product/OU1007ML

I just send mine a text.

"Happy father's day! Hope you have a good one x"

If he ever asks why I'll say it's because it's more environmentally friendly.

www.thortful.com/card/60968df3f308810001881fd4?utm_source=shopping&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=17356415406&utm_adgroup=136807124826&utm_targetid=pla-1291719379813&utm_keyword=&utm_matchtype=&utm_ad=600940465870&utm_network=g&utm_device=c&utm_devicemodel=&utm_target=&utm_placement=&utm_position=&utm_aceid=&utm_geo=9046541&utm_geointerest=&gclid=Cj0KCQjwhqaVBhCxARIsAHK1tiMBP3foU9yNZ16YC9PJACl0toYE0gVpoxueQtQjuzktiCYA1fA2bJkaAvWtEALw_wcB

God just don’t bother.

I just get a nice blank one and write HFD in it! There are loads of perfectly nice ones to choose from.

I haven't sent one in many many years, cant remember how many.
He hasn't noticed, or doesn't care. He made it plain that I'm the "illegitimate" child and dont matter when I was about 18. That hurt so much I haven't bothered with him since. And tellingly he hasn't bothered with me either. Weve bumped into each other now and again, but theres nothing there, if I see him now I'll turn about to avoid any conversation.

So OP dont bother sending any of the lovely sarcastic ones I've linked to. I bet nothing will happen. If anything is said just tell him you posted one sorry if it didnt get there yet.

Card Factory are great for this, I don’t do sentimental cards so I go for one without a lot of words or a jokey sarcastic one. I didn’t look at Tesco this year but they also usually do some plain ones or joke ones.

Why are you even sending one? He makes no effort and your children don't get cards on birthdays?

How about sending an empty, sealed envelope.

Or is that too passive aggressive.

If I was into sending them, I could well choose this one

www.thortful.com/card/628cea1fd5150b00019735e3?utm_source=shopping&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=17356415406&utm_adgroup=136807124826&utm_targetid=pla-1662056657485&utm_keyword=&utm_matchtype=&utm_ad=600940465870&utm_network=g&utm_device=c&utm_devicemodel=&utm_target=&utm_placement=&utm_position=&utm_aceid=&utm_geo=9046323&utm_geointerest=&gclid=CjwKCAjwqauVBhBGEiwAXOepkTUh-tzpt9CXBvfXK0XNlHZlfeRcU4hZvBW287jiA4gA81vnfJdVchoC99UQAvD_BwE